Abortion Regret

An abortion is much more than a medical procedure, it is a trauma no one warns you about.

[treadingriptides]

Losing a baby is probably the hardest thing in the world.

[alanastazja]

My child

It was never my intention to harm you I never meant to lie They told me it would be easier If I would just tell you goodbye

They didn’t know how much it would hurt me They never bothered to ask why

Why am I always upset? Why do I always cry?

It is hard out here without you I think about you all of the time

I wonder who you would look like Would you have his eyes, or mine?

So hard out here without you, love I wish love could bring you back Lonely here without you, love I’m sorry I turned it all black

[sufferinginsilence33]

[sufferinginsilence33]

[sufferinginsilence33]

[rewiredotnews]

28 states have mandatory forced waiting periods for an abortion. Louisiana is about to become the 6th with a 72-hour waiting period.

[reproductivejusticeandliberty]

today is the 2 year anniversary of my abortion, i cried a lot. i cried last year too. Im totally pro choice and support women who choose to abort but i still mourn. i feel like a hypocrite sometimes. also, thanks for everything you do on this blog! great job, i love the support and the awareness you put out. !! much love.

There is absolutely nothing wrong for feeling the way you feel. Emotions are complicated as hell. It’s possible to mourn an abortion, but not regret it. You can regret an abortion and not mourn it. You are mourn an abortion and regret it, any reaction is completely valid. I’m really glad to hear that even though your emotions towards your own abortion are complex, you support the right of others to make that decision for themselves. Much love back to you, and I hope you’re doing okay today. If you ever need to talk about it more, we’re always here.-V

[dovergenius]

Coward

I’m sorry for taking away your first breath 

Because I was too scared of consequence 

And know, that every tear I’ve cried since then

Has been for you

And your little ten toes

That I never got to count

And your soft skin and eyes of your father

That I never did see

But know that you were a product

Of real, raw young love

And that I loved him more than the air that I breathed

And I loved him more than you

For that, I can never cry enough

Because I chose us, over you

I chose now, over you

And I’ll never forgive myself.

For being a coward .

Now I can only find courage

At the end of a bottle.

[by-grace-of-god]

Considering abortion? There is help. Whether you’re a woman or a man who has been impacted by abortion, there is always hope. You are never alone.

[briannahmenendezx]

Its hard knowing I can’t talk to anyone about how I’m feeling when no one understands it but me. Every week is harder than the last.

[alanastazja]

My child

It was never my intention to harm you I never meant to lie They told me it would be easier If I would just tell you goodbye

They didn’t know how much it would hurt me They never bothered to ask why

Why am I always upset? Why do I always cry?

It is hard out here without you I think about you all of the time

I wonder who you would look like Would you have his eyes, or mine?

So hard out here without you, love I wish love could bring you back Lonely here without you, love I’m sorry I turned it all black

[by-grace-of-god]

For women who may be struggling with regret, here are resources for finding freedom, healing and hope after abortion:

- Surrendering the Secret  - Save One  - Project Rachel  - Forgiven and Set Free  - Healing a Father’s Heart  - Rachel’s Vineyard  - Healing Hearts  - Life Redeemed

- Sisters for Life

[rewiredotnews]

‘Abortion regret syndrome’

‘Abortion regret syndrome’

Tell me, do any of these exist as 'syndromes?’

'Bought-the-wrong-house regret syndrome’

'Married-the-wrong-guy regret syndrome’

'Oops, had-kids-and-now-i-regret-it syndrome’ (google 'i hate being a mother)

'Hate-this-job-wish-I-hadn’t-taken-it regret syndrome’

'Wish-I-hadn’t-move-to-this-city regret syndrome’

'Wish-i-hadn’t-made-that-disastrous-investment regret syndrome’

'I-hate-this-lemon-of-a-new-car regret syndrome’

No? Well, why not? These are big life decisions, aren’t they? So why don’t they have their own 'regret syndromes?’ Why don’t they have their own 'support and healing’ groups; and, more importantly, why aren’t we passing legislation to save people (well, really just women) from themselves and prevent people (well, really just women) from taking these risks?

—Ella Warnock, commenting on The Future of Abortion Rights Could Be Decided in This Election, by Jessica Mason Pieklo at RH Reality Check

[by-grace-of-god]

Abortion hurts women.

Dr. Peter Saunders, Elliot Institute

1. 31% of women having abortions report suffering physical health complications (1)

2. 10% of women having abortions suffer immediate, potentially life-threatening complications (2, 3, 4)

3. Women have a 65% higher risk of clinical depression following abortion vs. childbirth (5)

4. 65% of women suffer symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) after abortion (1)

5. Women’s death rates from various causes after abortion are 3.5 times higher than after giving birth  (6, 7)

6. Many women describe their experience as ‘a nightmare’, which can hardly equated with ‘choice’. 60% of women surveyed after abortion responded that: ’Part of me died’ (1)

7. Suicide rates among women who have abortions are six times higher than those who give birth (7, 8)

8. Abortion increases a woman’s risk of future miscarriages by 60% (9)

References

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[sufferinginsilence33]

No doctor explains the grief, the hurt, the pain, the loss of sleep, the detachment of reality and most of all the dangerous thoughts that run through your mind with abortion. I regret mine every day since I suggested it, because i thought it would just be another medical procedure, not a trauma. #abortionregret

[inactive---blog-deactivated2018]

anti-choicers seriously need to stop using people who regret their abortion as a prop for their movement because there’s so many issues with “outlaw it because they regret it!!!”

I regret drinking tea instead of coffee this morning. Should we outlaw the drinking of tea and force people to drink coffee at breakfast because of my regret? No because that’s ridiculous, controlling and frankly, just weird.