does anyone use twitter?
i'm so much more active on their lol, it's kind of personal but i still post some loa and stripper things:) @dlrtgurl is my twitter
let's talk about Bridgerton tea, my ask is open
Monterey Bay Aquarium
RMH

roma★
No title available
hello vonnie
Phantogram Three

bliss lane
I'd rather be in outer space 🛸

Game Changer & Make Some Noise

izzy's playlists!
Cosmic Funnies
taylor price

gracie abrams
No title available
almost home
tumblr dot com
Fai_Ryy
cherry valley forever
todays bird

seen from Spain

seen from United Kingdom
seen from United States
seen from India

seen from Türkiye

seen from Canada

seen from United States

seen from Malaysia
seen from Ecuador
seen from Argentina

seen from Bulgaria

seen from United States

seen from Peru
seen from India

seen from Malaysia

seen from Malaysia

seen from United States

seen from Australia
seen from Germany
seen from Malaysia
@sugarcoatedstripper-blog
does anyone use twitter?
i'm so much more active on their lol, it's kind of personal but i still post some loa and stripper things:) @dlrtgurl is my twitter
Wanted to share the affirmations I use for anyone else who uses The Secret for work 🌞 I recite them when I wake up, before I go to work, at work, and before bed!
I’m definitely using these for my 3rd trip to Atlantic City. Mama needs her stack!
Quick Tip For Changing a Negative Thought
When you catch yourself feeling negative, and or thinking a negative thought, gradually get into the habit of stopping yourself.
A good way to interrupt the negative feelings, and or thoughts, is to focus on your breathing until you have calmed down some.
After you do that, ask how can you change that thought into something positive that you DO want.
Next, take a minute to describe whatever it is you want, in a positive way, and in great detail like it has already happened.
Doing this will help you practice getting into the habit of choosing how you respond to situations and circumstances, which in turn helps you change how you feel.
Remember: How you feel leads to how you think, and how you think leads to the actions that you take. If you don’t take action nothing happens.
Peace be with you.
Sending you lots of positive vibes.
Love this advice. I think it’s v important not to end a thought negatively. It’s easier to stay positive and within your vibration if you can change a negative thought into something positive.
Books to read in 2016
Books for self-growth, spiritualism, intelligence, wisdom, and knowledge that will last a life time.
Quote Books: The Little Book of Confidence, The Little Book of Mindfulness, Life - selected quotations, Love - Selected Quotations, 365 TAO: Daily Meditations, Daily Peace, I Declare: 31 promises to speak over your life.
Self Help Books: You Can Heal Your Life, Change your life in 7 days, The Secret, Don’t Let Anything Dull Your Sparkle, Love from Heaven, The Chimp Paradox: Mind Management, The Road Less Traveled, The Deeper Secret.
Spiritual Books: The Power of Now, A New Earth, What I know for sure, The Four Agreements, Treasure Yourself, Stairways to Heaven, Big Magic, Light is the new black, The Book of Secrets,
Spiritual Novels: The Alchemist, The Celestine Prophecy (and the whole series), The Shack, Eve (by W.M Paul Young), The Monk Who sold his Ferrari, The Sekhmet Bed (the entire series).
Esoteric/Philosophy/Spiritual Books: Every time I find the meaning of life they change it, The Secrets of the world, The Kybalion, The Emerald Tablet, (Any Book by Carl Jung).
Different Ways To Eat Pizza.
why did australia get pokemon go first they already have real life creatures ready to attack them around every turn
‘She often aims for are money, status, access to specific social circles, knowledge, and financial and career opportunities. But she does not get carried away by gifts that don’t add value to her life in the long term. Yes, that evening out was wonderful, but will it keep you when your looks have faded? Sexy lingerie is fine, but a Longines watch is even better. A weekend away is fun, but a year-long membership at an expensive health club has longer-term upsides. A two-week European holiday is not as good as getting him to pay for your M.B.A. And so it goes. I know men who have paid off their lover’s debts, have invested in their fiancée’s new business, or even gifted a portfolio of stocks so the girl can learn about investing. None of these are outside of a Girl’s reach once she uses her skills and charm to her best advantage. But in the meantime, what do you do with a pair of cheap earrings or the scruffy rental flat on offer? Be graceful. Receive them with poise, but never forget to cue for things you want and withhold (albeit with subtlety) when you don’t get the goodies.’
Quote from Neil Hilborn’s slam poem, OCD | Requested by @pretentious-parasites
concept: I make peace with your absence. the aloneness stops gnawing at my bones. my bed is always warm. nights are short and quiet and soft. I don’t look for you in crowds of faces. I can sit in silence without it being deafening. I can be alone without being lonely.
me *surrounded by a pack of wolves that are about to eat me*: settle down puppies!! I only have two hands , i cant pet you all at the same time!!!!! Haha !!!! i love you all
Can you explain why a dancer would make more money because she's a new dancer? I don't get how costumers would know unless you told them.
The three stages of dancing, tho some girls only make it to stage two.
Stage one, newbie. there’s a few ways you make more money. One, you’re fresh and not tired of the hustle. You’re excited to make money. Two, you get all the pervs who hate pros and you seem like a “normal” girl. You can milk these guys but not too long. Eventually you get to stage two.
Stage two, your freshness has worn off, you don’t have as much energy, you don’t care, maybe you’re burnt out. Suddenly you have more bills and beauty expenses so the money doesn’t go as far. Some girls just quit, some stay in this stage forever. GET AS FAST AS YOU CAN OUT OF THIS STAGE DONT BE LIKE ME
Stage three, career stripping. Your body and looks are perfected, your persona is solid, and your hustle skills are down pat, tho you’re always improving your hustle and looks. You have a boob job and you work out to keep your body in shape.
Let’s go more into stage three. You’ve found the best money club, either local, traveling a bit (a few hours) or doing the best thing; moving. If you work at gentleman’s clubs, you move to Vegas, Denver, or Dallas.
If you work at hip hop clubs, you have different priorities. You perfect your looks like the girl above, but you work on stage more than hustling. You have a pole in your house and practice every day, along with strength training and flexibility. If you find pole classes run by WOC, you take them as much as possible. You work on booty work, you even find twerking classes. Working out isn’t for looks, it’s for stage. Your looks and your stage skills are your top priority in life.
So you find the best stage club, and work the best shifts. You find a hip hop club either close to you, or a few hours away. You save to move to a good area in the south, like Atlanta. You don’t fuck around with low money clubs, you make $800-to a rack on stage.
For hip hop clubs, a boob job is good, but your better choice is fat grafting. You need to gain weight first, so ALL your fat from your stomach and arms goes to your ass and hips. You know who got that? Kim K, Nicki Minaj, and Iggy Azalea (I know ppl hate her but she has good work, tho no one admits it). Even Amber Rose who had an ass got it done! I don’t recommend implants tho, if you gain weight they sag. If you gain weight with fat grafting it just plumps your ass and hips!
And NEVER do silicon injections. They can get into your bloodstream and kill you. IDC how “safe” people say they are. and doctors won’t touch getting the lumps out of your ass when it wears off, you’re looking at $20k to get a halfway decent ass back.
So back to stage three for Classic Super Strippers and Hip Hop Super Strippers. What do you do with your earnings? First buy a house, with a huge down payment. Renting is wasting money, get a house as fast as possible. Then start saving and investing. I have a great (and popular post) on saving and investing for beginners It was a sugar baby but relevent to stripping. Read it and you’ll thank me.
So back to point one, you’re not a newbie anymore. The money has dried up. Decide which of the two Super Strippers you want to be. Either way, even if you decide to do Hip Hop Super Stripping, please enroll in the full Dancerwealth, Dancervictory, and Dancerwise program.
It will teach you how to hustle ANYONE, and how to do so. It will teach you financial planning, and how to deal with your money and taxes and spending reports, and most importantly the last program teaches you goal setting and how to plan to be a Super Stripper. I’d been dancing five years when I got it, and tho my earnings are lower since the money left the city, I am surviving and doing well. I am pulling toenails to get money, I’m not just making easy money here. And I’m on my way to be a Career Stripper, all because of the goal setting program. I finally have hope and I’ve wanted to do this so long, and finally have learned how (no one else will teach you, I will do my best but I can only do so much, I’m still progressing as well).
PLEASE don’t be discouraged by Stage Two of dancing. We all get there, but don’t give up or blame yourself. PLEASE decide which kind of Super Stripper you want to be, and enroll in the full program. It’s literally a life saver when things are tough, and you can’t pay your rent even. And depending on which one, start working towards it NOW.
Ok personal story now. I have Gryffindor traits (I’ma Leo) but have always felt an affinity to Slytherin, and got sorted by the old Pottermore quiz AND the new one into this house. They published an article which I’ll link. But under the Read More you’ll find why I want you to succeed even tho I don’t know you.
Keep reading
Ive been in SW for 1 year and have only 11k saved up... I feel like a failure
How are you a fucking failure? because you follow all these “high end” escorts and sugar babies who apparently have a closet full of Loubies and Birkin bags and post about have like almost 100k in the bank? I mean first of all, we DONT know if they’re real, and second of all I’m going to be honest, a lot of successful sex workers NEVER have had that saved up, at least not their first year!
11k is a fucking LOT. I knew strippers (not Super Strippers, but like, ones who still made around 90-100k /year) who only had that amount when they were about to get a new cosmetic procedure done. And I don’t know your area either, but 11k is so much especially in some areas. Thank of ANY other job you could get at your skill level where you could have 11k saved up in just a year!
I will be honest. The most I had was 14k saved up but having to support a dead beat alcoholic abusive bf meant it went fast, as well as I helped my mom out with a medical procedure medicaid wouldn’t cover (this was when I was 19, SO long ago it seems). And this past entire year I’ve just been kepping my head above water. But to save that money up, I literally broke my body. I caused a lot of physical and mental damage not just being happy with “enough”; like having a bit in savings, having a COMFORTABLE life, ect. It wasn’t worth it, and my working myself to the bone was a coping strategy for my anxiety I’d fallen off treatment for about a year and coping with having an extremely abusive boyfriend. It wasn’t healthy!
Look, first of all. You’re doing so much better than so many other sex workers. A lot of us can barely cover rent and food. We’re not “failures” we’re doing the best we can. So think about what you REALLY want. Maybe unfollow those super bougie girls for a bit. In my opinion it might be inspiring for SOME but for most of us we get caught up in comparisons and can’t see how well we’re doing (like at the strip club, you might make $500 for example but because another girl made a rack, you’re so caught up in comparisons you can’t see that man, for anyone else, $500 is REALLY good for just one night of work).
But really, take a step away from these girls. What do you want? DO you REALLY want a closet full of designer clothes, or whatever? Or would you be happy saving up a down payment for a reasonable home in a nice area? Would you rather live frugally (besides business related expenses) and use your money for learning about investments? Would you rather travel around the world? Or even the country? Would you rather spend your money going to lots of festivals and meeting interesting people? Would you rather use your extra time focusing on creative projects and just supporting yourself at a moderate level? Would you rather make enough to be comfortable but focus your time on volunteering? what do YOU want? I do the same thing as you, see these girls with the bougiest of bougie aspirations, and i though that was me as well, for a long time. But it’s not. And I actually just realized that! I would rather do the things I personally enjoy rather than try to fit myself into one mould of what a lot of the high end escorting and sugar baby blogs think we should all want.
But back to reality; You have 11k in savings. In my opinion this is the perfect amount for an emergency fund. First off, you need to get a sentry safe. One that is big enough that no one can carry away, and don’t tell anyone you have it either. Put one months full expenses in there. I don’t know if you’re doing legal sex work. If NOT, have three months full expenses in there. If so, keep the other 2 months full expenses in a savings account. To get a higher yeild, sign up with a high yield savings account, which are usually online only based so it takes a bit longer to get your money out. Next, have at least 6 months full expenses in CD’s (Certificates of Deposits). Have one expire every 6 months (you will usually only get a .45% yield, if you get more money you can get more than expire at a longer time to mature if you want) and when it is matured, take that money and slip it into another CD that matures in 6 months. This way if you’re unable to work, you have 6 months expenses (on top of your other 3 months) that you can only access a month at a time, and they are getting a decent amount of interest.
After your emergency funds are set up, your next two priorities should be investing in your business and paying off debt. I don’t know what kind of sex worker you are however, so this varies. For example if you’re an escort you could invest in a wonderful website, SEO (search engine optimization) better advertising, high quality photo shoots, even hire a marketing specialist, as well as a few nice outfits for longer dates . If you’re a Domme, lord fucking knows all of the above apply, AS WELL AS high quality equipment. You can also invest in a separate incall with wonderful security and have it furnished nicely. If you’re a SB, well I guess this IS where nice clothing and such is important. If you’re an online worker, lighting, equipment, setting up a paysite, and getting more toys and outfits. If you’re a stripper, more than any other, INVEST IN YOUR APPEARANCE!!! Probably the most plastic surgery centric of all career sex work.
As for debt, what should you be paying off? well credit cards first and formost (though having a small amount you are paying off is ok, it’s actually better for your appearance). Get your car paid off as well. If you have student loans and it’s an extremely low interest loan, it shouldn’t be a huge priority right now to get paid off until all your other ducks are in a row.
Then start reading finance books. Books on mutual funds, short term trading, ect, as well as long term stock investments. Learn about investing in gold and silver as well. Look it’d be great if you can snag a super rich dude. But don’t count on that, and frankly it might not be actually what you want. So plan for your future. Shit I’ve known strippers retire at forty and move to a very cheap place to live outside the country where they can live off investments and spend all day at the beach.
The fact you feel like a failure thought is so disheartening! Please I would kill to have that much in savings again. Follow some other blogs. For your mental health.
This always keeps on getting notes probably longer than all my other advice posts. I’m surprised it’s so popular TBH but happy
When working on your goals ...
1. Stop fantasising: Those with too rosy a picture of the future tend to put less effort into reaching their goals. Instead, it’s better to be open to some things going wrong. It will help you see the obstacles - and think through beating them.
2. Visualise process NOT outcome: If you can think through all the steps you will forge a better plan … and it will also help reduce anxiety.
4. Beware of the “what-the-hell effect”: Too many just give up when they stumble or fall down. For example, think of all the dieters who binge at the first hurdle. It’s better to get up – and see a trip as very
5. Attack procrastination: It’s easy to procrastinate when getting going’s tough. Make a start, keep your head down, and set yourself some deadlines. Once you start you’ll feel much better and the road won’t seem so hard.
6. Switch out of robot mode: A lot of behaviour is robotic and habitual. We copy other people or we do “the same old, same old”. Take stock … and change those patterns … if they don’t lead to your goals.
7. Know when enough is enough: Sometimes we also need to know when there’s no point going on. We’re flogging a dead horse and thing are never going to change. It’s time to alter your direction or to work on something else.
Money spell! Reblog to charge it with your intent; the more people see it, the more powerful it becomes. Magic should be fun!
NOW THIS MONEY POST I AM HERE FOR
this actually does work the witches of tumblr really are out here doing something lol
well it better work or else I’m gonna cry I need to make rent h0e
Yesss November come throughhhhhhh!!
Reality
When we talk about how hard it is to leave stripping and go back to vanilla jobs because we’re used to making “crazy amounts of money”, I think we need to realize we’re not making crazy amounts. We’re making what should be normal amounts. We’re making, what should be, a living wage. With what I currently pull, I have enough to pay my rent, school loans, bills, with enough left over that I don’t have to worry. If I quit stripping, it would mean going back to poverty level wages unless I was at a senior position in my career. And I think the idea that we should consider our income “crazy” is more of how women and sex workers are gaslighted into thinking we shouldn’t deserve happiness and success in our life.
We’re not crazy. We want to live.
Psychiatrist: Borderline Personality Disorder is one of the worst Personality Disorders a person can suffer from Me: thank you i try my best