no but it makes me so sad how for so long JM were such a lonely couple in a sense that there was no-one happy for them as an item? hell, many characters were outright mocking their relationship and their connection, especially Jon's part of it. from Jonah's "he's earned that" and Helen's "you really don't deserve it" to Basira's "and you trust him to do that?", we consistently see people undermine Jon's role in the relationship and - in Jonah's and Helen's case - intentionally toying with his fears and insecurities. Basira too (even though she'd just been through A Lot when she said that, but still) expresses a clear sentiment - she doesn't think Jon can be an equal partner to Martin. and it makes me so, so sad that for every time Martin believed in Jon, or comforted him, or said he understood where Jon was coming from, or apologised, or said he was happy to see Jon happy, or accepted Jon's explanations, or defended Jon in front of someone else, all Jon was getting from the "outside" of the relationship for a long time was people undermining or mocking his feelings, his desire to protect Martin, and the amount of work and heart he was putting into making the two of them work as a couple - the amount of work and heart that was completely equal to the amount Martin was putting in.
they had a healthy relationship, they were doing their best to communicate, to be there for each other, to solve their conflicts fairly and by trying to understand the other - and they knew there were doing well. but they were so alone in that.
i don't have any bottom lines here apart from 1) thank god Basira got better in the last episodes, 2) I'm really glad JM got to hear something kind about their relationship from Melanie and Georgie in 190 and 199, 3) i'm so fucking sad
