sunsofsolace

poems of the mind

[diorbabe66]

big tip: literally be delusional asf & live in your imagination, like shit just daydream, visualize, affirm whatever you wanna do just go in your imagination & just live in there, once you realize your imagination is the only true reality & that the 3d is fake, everything becomes sm easier!! and obviously self concept is important as hell too!! NOTHING IN THE EXTERNAL WORLD IS REAL UNLESS YOU SAY IT IS!!

[chaotic-queer-disaster]

people are absolutely EVIL about the boundaries of “picky eaters”. no, they do not have to try it. yes, they can know they don’t like it without having eaten it before. no, they probably have not suddenly grown a taste for the food they’ve said they hate. no, they probably are not going to like it in the Special Way This One Place Cooks It. yes, you are being a bad friend if you try to “trick” them into eating it anyway

[sepulchritude]

Things that actually help picky eaters try new things:

“Do you want to try this off of my plate?”

“It’s made of [ingredients], I think you’d like [x part]”

“If you want to see if you like [x food], this is pretty good representation of it”

“You won’t like this, it tastes like [description]. Do you want to try it for fun?”

“Do you remember trying/have you ever tried [x food]? This is like that, but [differences]”

“I think you’d like the taste of this, but the texture is iffy. It’s [description]”

Make sure there’s other food they can eat if they don’t like the new one

And most importantly, build trust with that person by listening to them, showing that you take their concerns into account, and being cool if the answer is no. No is always an option. This isn’t something you do once, it’s a pattern you have to stick to if you want to establish that you are a safe person when it comes to food stuff

Basically: offer the food, explain what’s in it and why you think it’s worth trying, and then be cool with the answer you get. No pressure, no trickery, just be straight up with people

[exhaled-spirals]

“The dynamic of friendship is almost always underestimated as a constant force in human life […], but no matter the medicinal virtues of being a true friend or sustaining a long close relationship with another, the ultimate touchstone of friendship is not improvement, neither of the other nor of the self, the ultimate touchstone is witness, the privilege of having been seen by someone and the equal privilege of being granted the sight of the essence of another, to have walked with them and to have believed in them, and sometimes just to have accompanied them for however brief a span, on a journey impossible to accomplish alone.”

— David Whyte, Consolations

[museinspo]

“I didn’t want to fall in love or need someone. I really didn’t want anything. But then, you appeared and I started wanting everything.”

— http://adrenaline.tumblr.com/ (via adrenaline)

[surqrised]

“I think you lost all interest in this world. You were disappointed and discouraged, and lost interest in everything. So you abandoned your physical body. You went to a world apart and you’re living a different kind of life there. In a world inside you.”

— Haruki Murakami, 1Q84

[literaturecravings]

—The Picture of Dorian Gray, Oscar Wilde

[butterflikisses]

[honigimohr]

“We live in an age where we feel guilt whenever we have to cut someone off but the reality is that some relationships do need to die, some people do need to be unfollowed and defriended. We aren’t meant to be this tethered to the people in our past. The Internet mandates that we don’t burn bridges and keep everyone around like relics but those expectations are unrealistic and unhealthy. Simply put, we don’t need to know what everyone else is up to. We’re allowed to be choosy about who we surround ourselves with online and in real life, even if it might hurt people’s feelings.”

— Ryan O’Connell, You Don’t Have To Be Friends With Everybody (via wordsnquotes)

[heywriters]

HEY, Romance Writers!

A few followers have asked for tips on writing romance into their stories or as the basis of their stories. Here’s a masterlist of sources (below cut) that may help.

General Romance:

What Defines Romantic Love?

How to Build a Romance Thread in Your Story

How to Plot a Romance Novel

Slowburn Romance

When Friends Fall for Each Other (ask)

Tips for Writing a Character Who Has a Crush

Tips on Writing Unrequited Love 

Writing Healthy Couples in Fiction

An Antidote to “Love at First Sight”

How Attractive Should Your Characters Be?

3 Great Ways to Show That Your Character Is In Love

6 Ways to Get Your Readers Shipping Like Crazy

Six Steps to Stronger Character Arcs in Romances

Seven Great Sources of Conflict for Romances

9 Romance Writing Mistakes to Avoid

20 Tips for Writing Lovable Romance Novel Heroes 

How to Write a Kissing Scene in a Romance Novel

Types of Kisses and Kissing + This Post Is All About Kisses

List of Ideas to Keep Romantic Tension High

100 Questions for Character Couples

How Do I Make the Relationship Development Realistic?

How Do I Know If Two People Are Compatible?

Healthy Relationships Can Include Teasing

How to Write a YA Romance Without Cliché   

Intercultural Romance:

How do I write an interracial couple accurately? (ask)

15 Common Stereotypes About Intercultural Relationships

Cross Cultural Relationships

[Ideas for] Your [Fictional] Cross-Cultural Relationship

Things to Avoid When Writing Interracial Romance

writingwithcolor: Interracial Relationships (w/ links)

Bad Romance:

Removing the Creeps From Romance

Why The Surprise Kiss Must Go

Possessiveness 101

10 Signs You May Be in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

Edward & Bella Are In An Abusive Relationship

Red Flags, Verbal Abuse, Stalking… | Script Shrink

5 Huge Mistakes Ruining the Romantic Relationships in Your Book

How do you write a [bad] relationship without romanticising it? (ask)

General Tips for Writing Characters Love Interests:

How to Write from a Guy’s POV

Writing Awesome Male Characters: What You’re Doing Wrong

7 Point-of-View Basics Every Writer Should Know

How Do You Describe a Character?

4 Ways to Make Readers Instantly Loathe Your Character Descriptions

3 Signs Your Story’s Characters Are Too Perfect

Is a Quirk Just What Your Character Needs?

Six Types of Character Flaws

Is Your Character Optimistic Or Pessimistic?

5 Ways to Keep Characters Consistent

9 Simple and Powerful Ways to Write Body Language

10 Body Language Tricks for Deeper Characterization

Describing People Part Three: Gestures, Expressions, and Mannerisms

33 Ways To Write Stronger Characters

Conveying Character Emotion

Distinguishing Characters in Dialogue

How to Make Readers Love an Unlikable Character…  

Characters: Likability Is Overrated

Relationships in General:

How to Create Powerful Character Combos

8 Secrets To Writing Strong Character Relationships

Character Relationships: 6 Tips for Crafting Real Connections

Writing Relationships: Hate to Love

Stereotypes, Archetypes, & Tropes:

Five Signs Your Story Is Sexist: Part 1, Part 2

Five Signs Your Story Is Sexist – Against Men

Always Female vs Always Male

Born Sexy Yesterday & Manic Pixie Dream Girl

7 (Overused) Female Love Interests

Other Resource Lists

Resources For Romance Writers

Pinterest Board “Writing: Romance Arcs and Plots”  

thewritershelpers FAQ (romance, kissing, sexuality, etc)

+ Follow HEY, Writers! on Ko-Fi // Wattpad // AO3 // Goodreads // Pinterest

[livepasthope]

“I hope that in the future they invent a small golden light that follows you everywhere and when something is about to end, it shines brightly so you know it’s about to end. And if you’re never going to see someone again, it’ll shine brightly and both of you can be polite and say, “It was nice to have you in my life while I did, good luck with everything that happens after now.” And maybe if you’re never going to eat at the same restaurant again, it’ll shine and you can order everything off the menu you’ve never tried. Maybe, if someone’s about to buy your car, the light will shine and you can take it for one last spin. Maybe, if you’re with a group of friends who’ll never be together again, all your lights will shine at the same time and you’ll know, and then you can hold each other and whisper, “This was so good. Oh my God, this was so good.”

— Iain Thomas, I Wrote This For You   (via flannel)

[talestalesof]

Louise Glück, Poem 

[boymiffy]

bathroom sink meditations, r.a.

[nothingbutloveforyou]

the signs and love pt.9 physical touch 2.0

find the other parts on the signs and love masterlist and physical touch pt. 1

check sun, moon, venus (rising) (read note at the end)

aries: their lips are hovering over yours as they mumble sweet nothings on your mouth like a secret, that can only be shared in these short moments between kisses. you feel each word against your own mouth fully taking in all the wonderful thoughts they have about you.

taurus: kissing you in a way that starts out soft and innocently until without realizing you're gasping for air, the kiss now being a passionate and heated make-out session, as the both of you try to pour in all of your feelings onto their lips.

gemini: resting foreheads against each other. their breath mixes with you own and fans against your skin as they look into your eyes with a look that holds nothing but love and fondness for you, a moment so intimate you feel like you should hide it in your heart forever.

cancer: putting your head on their shoulder. they might put their arm around you or let it rest on your leg. it's comforting and feels peaceful enough for you to even fall asleep right then and there, as long as you feel their warmth underneath your skin.

leo: cuddling under soft blankets, your limbs are entangled to such an extent that you don't really know where they begin and you end. you're one for that time and it allows you to completely bask in their presence and arms as they hold you even closer.

virgo: fingers brushing against each other, each time leaving a tingle on your skin from their touch, until they finally grab your hand in theirs and intertwine their fingers with yours. they fit perfectly together like they always belonged to each other.

libra: legs thrown over the other's lap, while you're talking, watching something together or each one of you is doing their own thing. they will stroke your legs softly, the warmth of their skin seeping into yours. as long as you're with each other, that's all that matters.

scorpio: hooking a finger under your chin and lifting it for you to meet their eyes as they longingly look at you with pure infatuation. you'll either stay like this for a while simply enjoying each other's presence, or they'll start closing the gap between you for a deep kiss.

sagittarius: softly running their fingers over the moles/freckles on your skin, as if they are trying to draw a picture. their touch is tender and caring, they could do this for hours, their hands on your skin, appreciating everything that makes you you.:

capricorn: rubbing your back, after a long day or while two of you are cuddling. you sigh while the soft touch of their hands on your back rubs away anything that has been on your mind, leaving you in a state of complete bliss and relaxation.

aquarius: that thing where one of you is sitting and the other is standing and they press their head on your stomach and wrap their arms around you. your fingers brushing through their hair, allowing them to feel safe with you in that vulnerable moment.

pisces: hugging you from the back. their arms circle around your waist as they (depending on your height) either press their head into your back or rest it on your shoulder, breathing in your scent. you lean back and fully allow their loving embrace to be the only thing you think about.

a/n:it's 4 am, i am barely awake, i've been running on 3 hrs of sleep for the past days, so if there are typos or sth doesn't make sense, leave a comment or send me an ask, i will edit that as soon as i wake up <3

[ritikajyala]

I lost my best friend 3 years ago- not lost as in dead but lost as in we only text each other on our birthdays now. Movies and books don't tell you that a friendship dying is like the sinking of a ship, you try to get higher and higher and hold onto the rails and unanswered texts, the captain tries to steer it to safety and salvage pieces of two broken hearts until you're left with memories of what once was. We were friends for a decade and knew each other's diaries by heart, I still remember her phone number and the way she took her coffee. Seeing her in streets is like breathing in a scent you forgot you knew but it immediately takes you back to a summer in '07.

Movies and books also don't tell you that friendships don't just end after one fight or incident, it's like the rusting of a bridge, the slow decay of flesh and bones and secrets. It took weeks, months- until one day I woke up and I realized I hadn't thought of her in a while. And I wrote a poem that day and I titled it 'The dying of a best friend' and I put all my love for her in a tiny box with my half of the matching pendant of a dolphin we had and stored them in a corner of my heart under the heading Grief. Where else can one hide unspent love?

It's been 3 years since I lost my best friend, lost as in I still carry our secrets in a tiny box but we only text each other on our birthdays.

-Ritika Jyala, excerpt from The world is a sphere of ice and our hands are made of fire

[kafk-a]

Molly Templeton: Ten Years Later, There’s Still Nothing Like Tarsem Singh’s The Fall

[roastbeefpussy-deactivated20240]

all about love, bell hooks

[deviika]

Li Qingzhao, tr. by Jiaosheng Wang, from Complete Poems; "Tune: The Pertridge Sky,"