Medical Officer Frank Dufresne (Doc)

I just want to be included 🥹🥹 Ask box open Here for an honest and down to earth counseling session

[superprivatefrankdufresne]

Free Resources

Books for liberation from oppressive and violent socialization

Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn

Non-Violent communication by Marshal Rosenberg

Humankind by Rutger Bregman

Books for self healing

Fierce self compassion - Kristen Neff

Free Articles and videos

Self forgiveness -53 min podcast - written summary

Free resource

Center for nonviolent communication

Mindfulness Based stress Reduction

Tara Brach, Phd psychologist & mindfulness spiritual teacher books, podcast, articles, courses etc

Self compassion institute

[vegspoblr]

I don't know who said "you would need to be eating a comically evil vegan diet for it to have a worse environmental footprint than an omnivore diet" but I'm stealing it because it's a hilarious way to put it

You'd really need to be a cartoonishly evil villain trying your best to only eat a handful of hyper expensive and water intensive crops in order to match the environmental footprint of someone eating chicken nuggets

[morethansalad]

White Christmas Mocktail (Vegan)

[superprivatefrankdufresne]

Reward like punishments are a form of control and are ineffective in the long run.

I like to ask myself

What do i want to be different and what do i want the other persons reason for doing it to be?

And

What are the reasons they might be doing what they are doing and how can we work together to understand the root of the problem and address it?

[superprivatefrankdufresne]

Pacifism starts not just in action but in all interactions verbal and nonverbal with self and others.

Nonviolent communication is also a tool for deconstructing oppressive and discriminatory socialization both within the self and in interactions with other!

The following is a resource on learning this communication style!

https://palousemindfulness.com/docs/non-violent-communication.pdf

[64mpg]

really been getting into turning my frown upside down lately

[superprivatefrankdufresne]

One of my favorite quotes! I actually learned it from Donut 💕💕

"My beloved child,

break your heart no longer.

Each time you judge yourself

you break your own heart.

You stop feeding on the love,

which is the wellspring of your vitality.

The time has come, your time

To live, to celebrate…

and to see the goodness that you are…

Let no one, no thing, no idea or ideal obstruct you

If one comes, even in the name of “Truth”,

forgive it for its unknowing

Do not fight

Let go

And breathe – into the goodness that you are."

by Swami Kripalvananda

[fullcravings]

Easy Strawberry Chia Pudding

[superprivatefrankdufresne]

Yum yum

[superprivatefrankdufresne]

I am what i like to call an aspiring vegan. Perfectionism is rooted in shame, and sometimes taking care of myself means eating was accessible.

[ollybear]

Ya know, i really like Doc.

We have the same Myers brigs personality type (INFP)

Im a counselor, he’s a medic, and i also view my role as helping people feel comfortable while they die idk or have like chronic mental illness (I’m not curing shit)

I too am a pacifist and an attempting to be a vegan.

I feel like I understand him on a soul level.

Thinking about making a side blog whwre i just post things i think doc might say.

[superprivatefrankdufresne]

Yes Yes :)

[superprivatefrankdufresne]

Today my deepest intention is to contribute towards life being more wonderful for myself and others. 

Today my objective is to respond to my inner critic with kindness even when i feel like shrinking in terror and self loathing.

[superprivatefrankdufresne]

Intention of the day:

Take care of myself by brushing my teeth, drinking water, and eating all the meals.

Informal Practice of the day :

Connecting with inner drive!

Take a deep breath and consider a place in life where you are not getting what you need. What does the absence of that need feel like? Let yourself dive into that feeling physically. Tension in shoulders? Tightness in tummy? Emotions like anger or discouraged or self loathing? Let them be as they are and then place a hand on whatever it hurts.

Imagine me wishing for you relief from your suffering 💜 I wish for you to have that need met. Is it for safty? Cleanliness? Fulfillment? , whatever that need is, see if you to can bring an intention to meet that need. Perhaps saying “this is what i need to be authentic and whole” or “this is really important to me, my needs matter” (Neff, 2021) .

Take one more deep breath and place both hand on the chest and diaphragm. See if you can say to yourself “ I will take compassion action to meet my needs because I know it is necessary for my happiness” or “ i promise i will not ignore your needs any more. Even if I’m not in a place to reasonably do something about it right now. I promise I will not ignore or forsake you and when the opportunity comes, I will take action to meet that need.” 

Congratulations! You did it!

The informal practice today was directly expired/exerted from Kristin Neffs book fierce self compassion.

Fierce Self-Compassion

Check out this great listen on Audible.com. The author of Self-Compassion follows up her groundbreaking book with new ideas that expand our

What is Self-Compassion?

As defined by Dr. Kristin Neff, self-compassion is comprised of three elements: mindfulness, common humanity, and self-kindness.

[superprivatefrankdufresne]

I like to end each day by placing a hand on my heart and saying “i love you”

Even if i don’t always believe it or feel it i think the intention matters 💜💜💜

[superprivatefrankdufresne]

Happy veterans Day

Doc: As a pacifist and a medic i would like to take this opportunity to thank yall for reading this post!

Its nice to be acknowledged! Today id like to acknowledge my good friends the Red and Blues and special agents of Project Freelancer!

O-Malley - though technically you didn’t save any lives at all through your service in a box canyon mwahhahahaa. And some of you contributed to domestic terrorism ! Dropping building in civilian locations is brilliant ! (Looks at Carolina and epsilon) kidnappingand murder (looks at wash) diabolical contributions to the destruction of everything!

Doc: but we’re still grateful for the personal sacrifice you made with the intentions of helping and protecting others!

O-Malley: too bad good intentions pave the road to hell

Doc: which is why we need your help to carve a stare case to heaven! Veterans regardless of the abject good or harm their actions in the military caused, are still people. People who want to be good, loved, respected and to have their basic needs met!

I am very grateful to have the opportunity to share what i think is some important information.

On earth, In the USA -There are many systemic issues that produce high rates of homelessness, mental illness, trauma and substance abuse in veterans populations!

But there are resources to help! Especially with all the cuts in funding to the VA, We are goin to depend on Non profit transitional housing programs and counseling services to save lives in your local community.

If someone you know is a veteran I would be grateful if you passed on these resources ! Many people are unaware of the help that exists and even if they don’t need them know were all one crisis away from abject poverty and homelessness !

Veterans Crisis Line

24/7, confidential crisis support for Veterans and their loved ones. Contact the Veterans Crisis Line: Dial 988 then Press 1, chat online, o

Hope for Veterans Programs in NJ - Community Hope

Community Hope is the largest nonprofit organization serving homeless veterans and families in New Jersey.

Supportive housing for homeless veterans

[superprivatefrankdufresne]

Reminding myself that self compassion is the bravest thing someone can do, and if it was easy everyone would do it.

It’s perfectly normal for self compassion to be overwhelming or painful at first. And sometimes the most compassionate thing to do is to step away from the practice and come back to it at a later time.

O-malley is twice as mean when I’m kind in response 🥲😭