Think you can’t? You’re wrong. How to let go of doubt and uncertainty
There have been many times where I’ve held back from saying something and/or pursuing something I have wanted because I feared I wasn’t good enough. Or that I would be judged. It is easy when you’ve attempted something and have failed to never want to try it again, and it happens often among those who limit themselves. We try it once and it didn’t work out, so we never try again.
Well, you will never know your true potential in life unless you rid yourself of doubt and uncertainty. There is ultimately ONE thing that prevents us from reaching our potential and true happiness in life - the false beliefs in our mind. The more you think negative thoughts about yourself and your potential, the more you will start to believe them.
Think about something you really want. What’s holding you back? Are you worried you aren’t good enough to get it? Do you want to say something to someone but you’re too scared to say it? Are you worried about how others might feel or think of you? You want to be different from others and make an impact on the world, but you don’t know how. Well, the only person getting in your way is you.
Riding yourself of doubt isn’t necessarily an easy task. However, it is possible. (Anything is possible!) The power to change your life lies within you. It lies within all of us. We are the only ones who can change ourselves. You can’t change for other people and other people can’t make you change. You must want to do it for yourself. The root cause of negative thinking must be found and dealt with.
One of the articles I read on LiveBold&Bloom, a wonderful website curated by personal growth seeker and publisher Barrie Davenport, is great for self-help on how to stop limiting yourself.
Here’s what Barrie recommends to get rid to the root cause of those doubtful, limiting beliefs:
1. Isolate and explore each limiting belief individually.
What’s your main worry? When you go to do something, but don’t, what did you think right before that caused you to back out? Is it fear of judgement? Are you scared you won’t be liked? Do you stress about money? Do you believe you aren’t smart enough?
For me, it is a fear of failure. Sounds ridiculous, right? How do you know you will fail if you don’t even try? This is the biggest part of my self-doubt. What about you?
2. Ask yourself why you have this fear or limiting belief.
This may seem hard to answer, but trust me, once you start thinking without the notion of feeling stupid for feeling a certain way, it will all flow.
You should continue to let your thoughts flow until you literally cannot think of anymore reasons. Every feeling, emotion, fear, worry, and thought is important and necessary to explore your mind in order to learn how you think and why.
3. Now read your list and defend yourself.
Go through the list of “why’s” and support each reason with a contrary, supportive statement. Become a defense lawyer against doubt.
Feeling scared of judgement? Don’t be, you are talented in areas others aren’t. You know something someone else does not. Scared you wont be liked? Don’t be, you are unique. Not everyone will like you. Remember, you can be the sweetest peach on the tree and there will still be someone who doesn’t like peaches.
Go through every single item you wrote down and find a reason to throw that belief out the window. You will be able to support all of them because you have the ability, power, strength, knowledge and resources to do anything and everything you want. The answers are all in your mind.
By completing these three steps, you have already solved a majority of the problem. You have figured out what it is that limits you, why it limits you, and also how this belief is limiting you - because it is false!
However, that is not all. In order to fully rid yourself of these limiting beliefs, you must reinforce what you discovered. You must train your brain to stop the belief from making an appearance. If doubt arises when you go to do something, think of your defense lawyer and stop that negativity. Create a new way of thinking.
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