hey I'm a new daddy and I was wondering how you deal with bratty littles
Well it’s a bit of give and take with dealing with bratty littles. I’ll tell you my general method for doing such. (These things depend entirely on the little so you have to use some discretion and be smart about how you’re doing things. The most important thing is how they feel.)
Just accept that fact that a bratty little is going to be bratty. There’s no changing that. It’s part of their fun and it helps them feel little and honestly being bratty makes them so so happy. It’s ridiculous really. This means that you do not want to stomp their brattiness into the ground. Your job as their daddy is to take care of them, not to make them serve you. You are a caregiver, not a master. They are not your slave to do as you want. Keep this in mind. This is a game of give and take. They want to get on your nerves. They want to push your buttons. They want to make you mad (Not actually mad, but just like “Grrrr” mad).
This does not mean that you let them go crazy with brattiness, no no no. You’ll go mad in a matter of hours if you don’t stop them. If you’re ever curious, don’t do anything about it. They’re testing what they can get away with. The more you let them get away with the more they’ll do, even if it’s something they wouldn’t normally do. They’ll do 40 things in 30 minutes if you don’t stop them. So there is a compromise here. You have to get on to them (don’t get angry or yell, this is a big no-no). Be like “Hey! You are being too wild and you need to calm down. Now I’ll tell you how this is going to work” and outline your plan to them.
What I have found works well and keeps the brattiness coming in at a steady pace is to have a bit of a three strike system with relatively minor punishments, with maybe a major punishment every here and then. Now I’d say 9 times out of 10 they want to be punished to some extent. Depending on the little what would be considered ‘funishment’ can very. Figure out what your little enjoys and figure out what you can do to keep them reeled in.
My personal system is to deal with these things in a three strike system. Littles love the three strike system from what I can tell. After the third strike give them some punishment and start back over from one. It’ll usually take a while for them to get the first strike. Then after you mentioned the first strike they’ll usually go for the second really fast, and then they’ll be sitting there wiggling around trying to contain themselves from doing anything that would get them a third. They’ll basically explode internally and eventually blurt out a bad word or call you a doo-doo head or whatever it may be. They get so much enjoyment out of this anticipation of being a little brat and they’ll sit there and smile stupidly while they try and keep it in. You’ll notice they’ll actually have the least amount of fun before the first strike. I reset this system each time they’re little back to zero, so they don’t do something and immediately get punished because that can throw them out of the mood, even though they do enjoy it. It’s not about the punishment or about being bratty. It’s about the anticipation. It’s the flashing lights you see on the slot machine they’re spinning to find out what they’re prize is. Don’t instantly say they lost their money. It’s no fun for anyone.
You can punish in all sorts of ways. There are timeouts, spankings, writing lines, doing chores, and other things. With these I find timeouts > doing chores > writing lines > spankings to be the general order of how effective punishments are (I’m using those as greater than signs, so timeouts are most effective). I usually don’t like to do timeouts or other lengthier punishments. This can make their little space fade and sometimes they’ll feel crappy or just get bored and then no longer be in the mood for such things. This of course can be combated with shorter timeouts. Telling them to just sit their quietly while you play a game on your phone or something for 60 seconds can be torture to them (not in the bad way). Sometimes I like to be an extra jerk and do stuff like grab a stuffie and act like I’m playing in front of them just to make it worse, and it also gives you a fun way to bridge back in whenever it’s done.
Be careful with spankings. They’re a difficult subject that tend to get thrown around more than they should. Spankings can be interpreted sexually. Usually this interpretation is left up to you. As a daddy you can make them more or less sexual. I usually prefer non sexual spankings as a minor punishment because they’re quick and just enjoyable enough and not necessarily painful enough to be a good experience, but this depends on the little. Some littles can find these to be more painful mentally than physically. It can make them feel like a bad little or it can come off as sexual and they don’t want anything to do with that (If this is the case then you should basically avoid spankings 100% of the time). There are different spots to spank that can be more or less painful. I usually move from less painful to more painful as repeat offenses through the night lead to multiple punishments if I choose to go the spanking route. I won’t make it too painful that it’d be a very unpleasant experience for them. If you don’t know exactly how to spank or where to slap then a medium slap on the bum usually gets the job done just fine, and keep amping it up as well as your little can handle and enjoy it.
Now keep in mind this is the most common situation and there are two other situations which I’ll go over briefly because this answer is getting pretty long.
There are situations where your little is acting out and being very bratty because they’re upset about something and have a lot of trouble with getting a stable hold on their emotions. It’s usually pretty easy to tell if this is the case by body language or wet eyes and I’m assuming you know your little, your love, well enough that you can tell if this is what’s going on. In this case absolutely do not under any circumstance punish. I’ve done this on accident before and I still feel guilty about it. You need to set yourself up to be her punching bag, let them know that you’re their and you care for them, and they’ll basically collapse into tears in your arms and you be there for them as much as you can.
The other less common but hopefully more common than the last situation is they’re actually being a little brat. Sometimes littles do step entirely out of line and get entirely disrespectful where they are really pushing your limits and testing you. In this scenario you absolutely do have to demonstrate your authority by putting them in their place. Be careful about raising your voice and don’t yell, but remind them in a very firm voice that you’re the one in charge and they are to do as they’re told. Remind them that you demand respect and that they will give it. This is a type of mood that you can also read once you get a good feel for it or if you just really know your partner. It feels like a slightly different type of playful, and sometimes it’s not playful at all. The less playful it is the harder you need to put your foot down. Don’t be violent and don’t scream or insult them, but a firm reminder of why you’re in charge is your role here.
I do hope this helps quite a bit and isn’t too long, and if anyone disagrees or agrees or has a comment then do reblog and say to help educate this daddy as much as we can as a community. I could go on for hours and hours about this topic but there is a pretty finite character limit in asks, but I tried my best to cover the bullet points. In essence, just learn your little and respond properly to them. Every little is unique and every little is precious and every little deserves love. Do your best to protect your little, even when they’re being bratty.
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