The thing that abled people who advocate for the disabled community don’t get is that there are times when disabilities/accommodations clash. Horribly.
Like I spent years having to come up with a solution to get therapy dogs into a series of residence halls. Why years? Because we had to decide who got to stay and who got to leave: the people who needed therapy dogs or the people with severe allergies to animals. Who got the alternative housing?
Things like fidget toys might seem great for some disabled people but having them in the room could be distracting/overstimulating for others. The same goes with stimming. It can’t be helped but neither can the anxiety that another person in the room feels as they watch/hear it. Additionally, something like a weighted blanket might immediately calm one kid down and send the other one into a panic attack due to the claustrophobia it causes. (*Points to myself*)
Every Metro bus in New York City has a series of seats at the front that can be lifted up to accommodate people in wheelchairs but if I’m in one of those spots then someone with a cane/walker has to journey even further to sit down.
The flashing lights of a fire alarm are there to help deaf/hearing impaired but if they’re not properly timed, they can also cause a person to have a seizure.
The worst part about all of these is that there is rarely a concrete solution that makes everyone happy/safe. And I’m not here to offer any because I don’t know them. I’m just here to remind you all that as you’re taking your education/health classes, as you’re reading your textbooks, as you’re preparing to go be an advocate, just remember that there is rarely ever such a thing as a one-size-fits-all solution to advocacy and that something you do that can help one disabled person might actually hinder another.
I have heard this referred to by some in the disability advocacy profession as “duelling disabilities” and it’s definitely something I wish people would be more mindful of when discussing accessibility.
i just came across the term “access friction” that was coined as an extension of the “competing access needs” to remove the idea of competition, winning and losing
Calling Up Justice is creating a resource on access frictions because there are multiple meanings and applications of the term. Access frict
having so much love in your heart is beautiful and amazing right up until you’re alone in your bedroom clutching at your chest and whimpering like a wounded dog
He fell asleep in his bed, at home, and woke up at the goddamn grocery store with an overhead light in his face if that happened to you you’d become The Joker
Poor guy’s only been here for like a dozen weeks he doesn’t even have a favorite show to distract him yet he’s just raw-dogging reality unfiltered with no goddamn Blorbos to rotate whatsoever
The melancholia is strong today. Feeling very disconnected. Like I want to connect with people but don't want to talk to anyone at all. I need someone to come sit in a coffee shop with me and not talk, just be together.
I am a normal person who understands thought crimes are not real, fiction is not reality, and people can read/write/enjoy whatever they want as long as it’s fiction and no one in real life is harmed. I don’t have to like it, because I know how to mute, block and scroll past what I don’t want to see. Overall I think labels are childish, but by definition I am proship and profic. I am also against censorship.
And if you (general you) shame or harass real people over fiction, you’re a bully and this blog is not a safe place for you.
We are throwing together a little Fred Hechinger Characters Fic Exchange! All of the details including how to join are below! Any questions you may have before you join, feel free to comment them here so we can try to answer them!
Here are some basic things to know for joining:
✦ You can fill out the form here to participate! (This form will close on Sunday, March 8th and we will be sending matches out via discord messages by Friday, March 13th!)
✦ Must be 18+ to join (we are all adults!)
✦ We will send you an invite to our discord server Hechinger's Hangout after you fill out the form just so we are all together and can easily keep questions and answers organized! (We have a section for this fic exchange!)
✦ This will be an x reader fic exchange!
✦ The word count is 1,000 (1k) minimum and there is no maximum! Write until your little heart desires or until you cannot anymore! Just have fun! Sharing date will be Saturday, June 6th by midnight! Post your fic on tumblr and tag us here (@fredhechingerfrenzy) so that we can all read your fics and reblog them here!
Here are the basics of the Fic Exchange:
✦ There are five characters listed on the form. (Emperor Caracalla, Jason Hochberg, Simon Kalivoda, Daniel Markowitz and Dmitri Kravinoff). You will pick your top three from these characters and list prompts and/or suggestions for each!
✦ This means, you could receive a fic from any of your top three (does not have to be your number one) - depends on what your match feels most spoken to! In turn, you can write any of the top three that you receive, write what you find the most fun, the most interesting, etc!
✦ You will receive prompts/suggestions for each of the top three characters, take what you like and see what you can expand on!
✦ Write what sparks the most inspiration for you and what you see fit based on the suggestions you were giving! That's the fun part - create something for someone else based on their likes!
✦ Please be respectful towards your match and their preferences! There are questions based on likes, dislikes, etc. If your match is uncomfortable receiving smut or anything pregnancy related, please refrain from writing that for them. In addition, please be respectful with the reader gender they choose! If they choose male reader or gender neutral reader, please do not write a female reader!
✦ There is a question and answers channel within our server if you happen to have any basic and generic questions throughout the exchange! If you have any specific questions regarding your match or their preferences, message our moderator, Rozalyn, and she will ask and get back to keep everything anonymous!
✦ In the end, have fun!! This for all of the Fred lovers that want to interact with the other in a positive space!
