You can't save a damsel if she loves her distress

Kelly Lauren. Junior at the University of South Carolina. Follow me on Twitter @xoxo_klm. 

[anicklebittome]

The feeling

[yellaghost]

[finalgrlfriendarchive-deactivat]

if my bones are gonna crack like glow sticks every time i move i think i deserve bioluminescence. both to complete the aesthetic and as a consolation prize

[anxietyproblem]

[marigoldwitch]

Growing up my parents taught me that if you’re too sick to [insert responsibility here] then you’re too sick to [insert something that makes you happy here].

It took me a really long time to unlearn this. When I would get sick or have a “bad day” I would deprive myself of anything that made me happy. Watching movies, eating something I enjoyed, going for a walk, playing video games or just browsing online looking at funny cat videos. I wouldn’t let myself do these things because I was always told that if I’m too sick to go to work, or do homework, or go to school then I must be too sick to play Mortal Kombat or watch Unsolved Mysteries lol.

Whenever I wouldn’t feel good, which I later learned as an adult was due to sleep deprivation caused by my ADHD and depression (and of course the depression itself would cause me to feel like shit), my parents would tell me “if you’re not throwing up, then you’re not sick.” And when I would stay home from school (or even work in my later teen years) my parents would make sure that I didn’t have any “fun.” No TV, no movies, no games, no going outside, no arts and crafts, no books, no nothing. Just lay in bed and feel miserable.

I’m happy to say that I no longer do this to myself. Now when I’m having a bad day or I’m sick (cold, flu or whatever) I allow myself to do the things (within reason lol) that I actually love doing. If I’m not too sick to step outside for a few minutes then I’ll go for a walk. I’ll watch my favorite movies and if it’s a bad day or a cold (something that doesn’t hinder my appetite too much) I’ll eat my favorite foods. I don’t guilt trip myself anymore for having a “sick day.”

Just because you’re sick (whether physically, emotionally or mentally) doesn’t mean that you can’t do things you enjoy. You’re not any less sick because you watch TV. You’re not any less sick because you’re playing video games. 

Actually you SHOULD be doing these things when you’re not feeling good because they make you feel better. The better you feel, the faster your heal. 

[neuroticgaymusings-deactivated2]

Thank you! I needed to read this.

[sun-flowers-sam-deactivated2019]

oh. oH. OH. I needed this omfg

[garlicislife]

I really really need to remember this.

[babyanimalgifs]

he’ll grow into it

[cheaphalloweencostume]

not to be controversial but the feeling of being so thoroughly sleepy that you know you’re gonna pass out the second you get curled up in bed? unsurpassed, baby

[dankmemesreasonforliving]

[rob-walks-deactivated20210614]

whats the hardest thing you ever had to admit to yourself?

[tearsinthetrap]

sometimes what u want isn’t for u

[thoughtkick]

“One of the best lessons you can master in life is to master how to remain calm.”

— Unknown

[al-naf]

i like getting cute morning texts like: your order has been shipped

[tansdiary]

a short list of what i’m good at:

overthinking

making scenarios in my mind

wasting my time

[lilpieceofmyworld]

[pussylightlytoasted]

Making people laugh literally raises my happiness level

[zanabism-deactivated20200529]

I hope you guys like…eventually live the life you want to live and I hope nothing haunts you for too long and I hope you’re all kind to yourselves

[grandparentcore]

I will forever love simple, domestic things let’s bake together, go grocery shopping, drive around, just spend time together

[anxietyproblem]