WILL ALWAYS WANT MORE ATTENTION -switch-

One more horny 27 year old on the internet, I am a switch coming to terms with my more subby side so I'll try to follow blogs more along those lines. NB They/them. I can speak 2 languages fluently and partially speak a 3rd, it is up to you to figure out which ones I meant.

[switchonaquest]

Hello one and all!

Minors please back off from this blog and DNI

I am a switch who is starting to reconsider using a picture as a header, but also excited as to what that might mean for me in the future.

First of all I am of age and hope to be treated that way. I am a horny person but I hope can get to know people, give ideas or provide entertainment one way or another.

I am a brat in a lot of situations but I also love obeying the people that one way or another have shown me that I can trust them when playing.

I will be posting pictures or audios of mine occassionally, uploading some of them to soundgasm directly.

If I make someone uncomfortable, block me, tell me to fuck off or whatever it is you feel is best for you. A blog is a personal space and if you feel I invaded it then it is your right to kick me out of it.

I obviously need to add other details and information, but I should also mention which kinks I am into.

Edging, denial play, orgasm control, pegging (being the pegged party to be specific), anal play, praise, light degradation and name calling (little slut, good boy, pet, open to them), collaring and whatever Kink I forgot to mention.

To make sure it is known and clear, this is a side-blog so I can be horny without shame, however it needs to be said. Things displayed here will be in context to kink and having those values outside of play space will not be tolerated. Respect Trans People or you will have trouble with one more person. Black lives matter. Respect Sex workers. Minors cannot consent, keep their existance outside of this blog. Animals cannot consent, pet names are cute but that's about it for them being mentioned.

With that I hope you enjoy my blog, into whichever degeneracy I end up doing. Have a good day.

[lanableed]

Engaging in kink is a form of being vulnerable—regardless of your role—and vulnerability should always be treated with a certain amount of reverence. It’s an honor and a privilege to be able to play with people, not a right or a given.

[lanableed]

Engaging in kink is a form of being vulnerable—regardless of your role—and vulnerability should always be treated with a certain amount of reverence. It’s an honor and a privilege to be able to play with people, not a right or a given.

[fagmolloy]

does anyone want to play sexual tension with me

[romanticandhornyy]

can I watch you jerk off and hear you moan or do you hate me?

[parkchanwoohoo]

Every macho dipshit talks abt how many people they'd kill to protect their family as though I'm supposed to be impressed. I can hear the glee in your voice dude you're ACHING for a chance to do this, you're giving up nothing in this situation. Tell me how many loads you'd take to protect your family

[parkchanwoohoo]

"I don't care what's going on you mess with my wife and kids I'm putting a bullet in you" Yeah yeah yeah when was the last time you did the dishes without being asked. Can you picture your wife happily working at a job that makes more than yours without punching a hole in the drywall. Make her lunch

[hornyandsoft]

Reblog to make prev Cuter and Sluttier

[veryharam]

Did you forget? Love is patient!

[cybermanes]

Liquor? Um yeah bud if she’ll let me

[nocturnalneed]

want him to be so horny n lust driven that he is constantly on the verge of losing his shit. going back and forth between groping and squeezing every part of me he can reach and trying to keep his composure, breaking the kissing to mumble little “sorries” that sound sincere yet so desperate. he wants to be respectful and hold himself back while unconsciously putting more and more of his weight on top of me cause he just can’t be close enough atp😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

[gunfuckr]

[kisseism]

ok but how am i supposed to be normal now that i thought about making you fuck my thighs while i tease you? telling you about how i want you to cum all over me and how i know you'd rather fuck my cunt but awe. you don't deserve that yet, love <3

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

lots of handwringing and discomfort about the phenomenon of kinks forming before puberty but if you think about it’s it’s much scarier to imagine a world where kinks only ever appear without warning when you’re fully grown

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

on your 18th birthday—wait no let’s say 25th birthday—you must undergo the traditional ritual and be assigned a kink that will determine the course of your sex life forevermore and place you within the corresponding faction. you close your eyes and pray that it’s something kind of classy and chic and practical and affordable and not something that will freak you out or embarrass you. the girl before you comes out crying; she’s autistic and got “prolonged eye contact”. you gulp. someone else is hastily pulling up Wikipedia. the anarchist guy covered in ACAB pins scowls at the floor, resentfully contemplating his uniform fetish.

[do-not-fold-spindle-or-mutilate]

Man, these YA dystopias are really starting to reach for fresh concepts.

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

one sexually mature adult woman dares to defy it all… what will happen to her world when she walks out of the ritual with a kink for feet…. AND inflatable pool toys?

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

[junglejim4322]

Unironically I think the early to mid 20s age group in America has unbelievably bad consent boundaries on all levels and so much language to defend it but this makes me sound like elon musk if I say it however the commonality of someone who will be like “I had 47 panic attacks and it’s your fault” if you tell them no is insane

[junglejim4322]

I rejected someone and got called “the scariest person I’ve ever met” with so much therapy speak interspersed like alright okay alright okay alright okay

[junglejim4322]

“You just say whatever you’re thinking and I don’t know how to handle it” was verbatim part of this conversation. Also everyone hates to see an autistic bitch

[transhumanisticpanspermia]

When I was in this age bracket, there was a huge emphasis on improving consent culture via graceful rejection, and it's gone by the wayside. Which sucks.

Twice in my youth (once in high school and once in college) I was in situations where I was asking someone out and I could tell they were calculating in their heads the risks of rejecting me, and both times I said, out loud, "you can say no, I wouldn't have asked if I wasn't prepared for either answer." And then they said no. This wasn't some spark of special wisdom I had - I knew to do it because feminist conversations among my age group brought it up regularly. This isn't happening nearly enough anymore.

More recently, I was really glad when we got to "rejection sensitive dysphoria" in my IOP program and it was one of those symptoms where the therapists really emphasized how it affects others. Because it does.

Being someone who cannot handle rejection makes you much more likely to violate boundaries, and yes, that includes sexual ones. Yes, you, reader who has never hurt a fly. If you don't want to stumble backwards into sexually assaulting someone, fix your RSD meltdowns. If you keep them up it's only a matter of time. Because if you're nice enough to interact with, but are known to have RSD meltdowns, guess what happens when your friends and acquaintances need to reject you?

[junglejim4322]

Unironically I think the early to mid 20s age group in America has unbelievably bad consent boundaries on all levels and so much language to defend it but this makes me sound like elon musk if I say it however the commonality of someone who will be like “I had 47 panic attacks and it’s your fault” if you tell them no is insane

[junglejim4322]

I rejected someone and got called “the scariest person I’ve ever met” with so much therapy speak interspersed like alright okay alright okay alright okay

[junglejim4322]

“You just say whatever you’re thinking and I don’t know how to handle it” was verbatim part of this conversation. Also everyone hates to see an autistic bitch

[transhumanisticpanspermia]

When I was in this age bracket, there was a huge emphasis on improving consent culture via graceful rejection, and it's gone by the wayside. Which sucks.

Twice in my youth (once in high school and once in college) I was in situations where I was asking someone out and I could tell they were calculating in their heads the risks of rejecting me, and both times I said, out loud, "you can say no, I wouldn't have asked if I wasn't prepared for either answer." And then they said no. This wasn't some spark of special wisdom I had - I knew to do it because feminist conversations among my age group brought it up regularly. This isn't happening nearly enough anymore.

More recently, I was really glad when we got to "rejection sensitive dysphoria" in my IOP program and it was one of those symptoms where the therapists really emphasized how it affects others. Because it does.

Being someone who cannot handle rejection makes you much more likely to violate boundaries, and yes, that includes sexual ones. Yes, you, reader who has never hurt a fly. If you don't want to stumble backwards into sexually assaulting someone, fix your RSD meltdowns. If you keep them up it's only a matter of time. Because if you're nice enough to interact with, but are known to have RSD meltdowns, guess what happens when your friends and acquaintances need to reject you?

[candyfxmme]

let’s talk about “bloopers”

losing your hold while you’re on top, careening down on top of your partner in a fit of giggles

harnesses loosening at the one singular moment they shouldn’t

accidentally slipping out and just raw slamming your hips against each other a few times before you notice

body noises. queefing, joints popping, that one moan that kinda sounded weird? who cares, it’s a good time

forgetting where the edge of the bed is in the heat of the moment and almost or actually toppling over off of it

accidentally leaning on someone’s hair

pausing because your pet is clawing for dear life at the door and you can’t concentrate

having to stop because something feels kinda off and it’s more important to figure out what that is

laughter

connection and communication

sex isn’t perfect. sex isn’t porn. sex is a dance between people that care about each other and want to show that care in a specific way. it’s beautiful and messy and human, an extension of us as human.

[femdomfemme]

Giving Aftercare to Doms

I’ve seen a lot of writing on aftercare for subs, but never seen anything about Dom drop or the kind of aftercare that D-types need. Consequently, many people assume that aftercare is only necessary for subs, and many people don’t know what kind of aftercare to ask for or provide.

It’s natural to feel guilty when you’re inflicting pain or cruelty to someone you care about. And like with everybody, a lack of adequate aftercare can be discouraging or even dangerous. Here’s some aftercare talking points I tend to like hearing from my subs that you can use as jumping off points:

Reassure your Dom that everything they said and did during the scene was wanted and consensual. Go over and discuss anything that ended up being less than pleasurable or any sore spots that they hit if not.

If the scene went smoothly, reassure them that you are capable of saying no and/or using your safe word. Reassure them that despite roleplaying a loss of control, you know that you still were able to consent during your scene.

Reassure your Dom that you aren’t actually scared of them; and reassure them that you don’t feel like you’re being taken advantage of, nor do you think that they will.

Reassure your Dom that you trust them, you know that they are a responsible dominant, and that you don’t feel afraid that they will abuse their power over you.

Reassure your Dom that they are a good person, and that they are not evil or bad for exercising restrained and consensual cruelty during a scene.

Reassure your Dom that they don’t need to feel guilty for enjoying themselves when they are dominant with you, and that you enjoy your scenes with them as much as they do.

And some other things to keep in mind regarding aftercare as a whole....

Make sure you end the conversation/evening properly. Even if the Dom doesn’t experience Dom drop immediately, it’s very easy for Doms to feel used or like pleasure machines if they feel like they’ve been left hanging.

^^ Especially if you’re sexting or doing BDSM long distance! Do not stop responding without giving closure and reassuring your Dom that you’re okay! If you disappear without saying anything, it’s very possible that your Dom will get anxious and worry that they’ve upset or hurt you.

Check in later. Aftercare doesn’t always have to take place immediately after a scene, especially if they felt like they didn’t need much aftercare afterwards or you’ve had an informal scene and decided to skip it. Dom drop can still settle in a while after a scene has ended, so don’t ever assume you’re automatically on the same page and that care won’t be needed.

Make sure to always offer regardless. Nobody should ever have to ask for aftercare! Don’t assume that your Dom is okay and needs nothing just because they’re in control during your scenes.

And finally, Doms: don’t be afraid to ask for reassurance on the specific points you worry about! Subs can’t read your mind, and they can’t always know if the aftercare they’re giving is enough unless you tell them. You will not lose your submissive’s respect by asking for aftercare as long if they are committed to engaging in conscientious kink.

Stay safe, take care of each other, and practice kink responsibly! ♡

[moonymommy]

I think I’ll never say this loud enough, Doms mental health is as important as the Sub’s! Even tho we are dominants we are still human being.

If you’re a dominant and need help is okay, if you need comfort is okay, if you need to express your thoughts and feelings is okay! Because being a Dom doesn’t mean that we are invincible!

[xgentlefdomx]

Will forever boost, this is so important.

[dominant-dominion]

Thus. All. Of. This.