How do you overcome shame and embarrassment in regards to using the aac? I type things out but then stop before speaking it bcs shame and anxious and then just don't say stuff or write it in the notes
Hi!! I am sorry you are having a hard time. I am actually still really new to AAC, so I am also putting this in the tags and leaving it open for anyone who might have some extra input.
Being worried how we will be perceived and treated by others is a crappy feeling, and I know it all too well. I am in therapy right now learning how to let myself express my needs and even demand that they are met. It's hard because advocating for ourselves can feel so scary, and unfortunately not everyone is going to respect our needs.
- Practice practice practice. If you have a safe person(s) you can practice with, use your AAC with them often, even if you don't "need" to be using your AAC to speak at that time.
- Make up scenes. This can be with your safe person, or you can play pretend with a stuffed animal. Pretend you are chatting with a friend about your day, you are at the doctor talking about a new symptom, or you are ordering take out.
I'm kinda at these two points right now. This is getting me used to using my AAC, knowing where my buttons are, and making me realize new buttons/folders/organizing I need to do. Feeling comfortable with the layout of your AAC will help.
When you go out to use it in more public settings, start small. I have tried mine out at a small cafe with good success. I think a library would be a safe spot too. You can look for businesses that you don't normally go to. Sometimes I feel less pressure trying to talk to people I probably won't see again/I can just never go there again if they were dicks. I live near the downtown area and plan on practicing at some of the gift shops in the middle of the week when business is slow.
LGBT groups don't automatically = disabled friendly, but if you are LGBT yourself it might be worth scoping out your local groups.
You can also add some self advocacy buttons on your AAC board. I use this image library a lot if you haven't been to it before: https://aacil.neocities.org/Self-Advocacy/self-advocacy
I also saw someone talk about printing this onto little flash cards to keep with them:
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(note: I don't think you are obligated to explain the what/why of your AAC, esp if they are being rude ofc.)
I hope some of this helps! And I hope you have a good day. :] Remember you deserve to have your needs met!