#ablist

[marbles-in-a-trashcan]

How the fuck do you spell ableism?

[chronicallye]

Just shopping at Walmart, as one does, and I was not feeling that great so I was using an electric cart.

As I was leaving, a lady turned to me and gave me one of the dirtiest looks and scoffed very loudly.

So I went "Ooh look at me, I'm an abled bodied person and can walk without falling down."

I didn't realize that there was an elderly lady almost right next to me and she started laughing so hard she had to stop walking.

[notallfay]

I'm watching "Judy Justice" on freevee, and I'm not sure if this is because I'm European. But on some of her cases she seems pretty ablist. Like if you are on disability she seems to question you hard about that.

So a few have rubbed me up the wrong way... The last one, was during the pandemic an immunocompromised person hit someone, for getting in her face yelling so much she was spitting slightly. Saying she felt it was self defence, because she wanted the woman to get away from her.

Like, yes hitting someone is a dumb thing to do yes, but a legit court of law threw the case out, because even though it was technically assault. It was felt she could have felt threatened being immunocompromised. Which is fair. It was the height of the pandemic. Like not being at your best judgement could easily happen.

Judge Judy gave the other lady $10k USD. When she claimed that the incident caused her to later to have an heart attack. Even though was the aggressor towards the other immunocompromised woman. Like she literally got out of her car and walked up to the car of the immunocompromised woman.

But was like, well so what if you lost your job. Maybe that's good if you are immunocompromised!?? It just seemed like a double standard. Blaming her for the heart attack, but not acknowledging how threatened she felt being immunocompromised. Like COVID-19 could literally kill her.

Like blaming the other woman for her job loss. I can see throwing that out, but the aggressors counter claim should have been thrown out too. What the hell!?? Then told the immunocompromised woman she needed to grow up.

[dainty-little-fox]

Is there a term for like the opposite of ablist?

[stardust-maple]

It's so weird to me how incapable abled people are at understanding how much time being chronically ill (or just being disabled in general) takes up.

Like time works differently for me because of my fatigue and it takes so long for anyone I explain it to to actually understand that.

And then I go and add in that attention is like a whole different sport to me than it was when I was able bodied. And they are like "no but you have to pay attention to these things" and no matter how many times you say you can't always do that they don't believe you.

I can't perform like ableds. It's so hard to pretend I don't have these limitations. It's even harder to be told those limitations don't exist.

[rainbowstripedwolfe]

Why do people put their pushchairs in a wheelchair space, then get mad at you when you ask them to move it?!?!?!

There is literally one wheelchair space on this train, that clearly says it is reserved.

On top of this Karen got annoyed at the train manager when she was asked to move the pushchair out of the aisle and into the correct storage location because she was blocking an emergency exit.

And she miss gendered me.....

[i-want-it-all-or-nothing-at-all]

Did a photoshoot on my chair.

Also, went down to my university campus to pick up a library book. Turns out they installed these hand sanitizer stations that should be glaringly obvious as being ableist but... is anything obvious to the ables?

[Image description: The first four images are selfies I took of myself using a selfie stick. I am sitting on my wheelchair. I am wearing a red button-up shirt and black shorts. I am also sporting white headphones around my neck, and blue and black fingerless gloves. The last three pictures were taken at my university, and they feature a hand sanitizer station, which is a tall white pole with a (though not pictured) spout that dispenses a squirt of hand sanitizer when you press a foot pedal. I made a point of including the little sign on it that says "step here" with an arrow pointing down at the foot pedal, and in the image you can see the wheel of my wheelchair next to the foot pedal. End ID]

[darkrimmedeyes]

Let's talk about Sia's upcoming movie about a non verbal autistic girl (please don't send hate to Maddie Ziegler, she was a minor when this was filmed and she did not want to play the role, however her parents signed a contract so she was forced to). I will include an article written by an autistic person at the bottom of this post.

So as most of you already know the singer Sia has made a movie about a non verbal autistic girl named Music, said girl is being played by a neurotypical actress that was cast by Sia herself.

When people confronted her about this decision she made multiple insulting and offending tweets towards autistic actors that told her they would have been available on short notice if she had asked them to be in this movie.

The movie itself (from what I've seen in the trailer) seems to be plastered with stereotypes such as no one understanding Music because "she lives in her own world, no one can see inside her mind/if only she could communicate how she thinks".

To top this whole shit off she also collaborated with AUTISM SPEAKS on this movie, I will link articles for those interested why autism speaks is a horrible group along side the article at the bottom of the post. Autism speaks loves to claims to be autism positive but is actively ableist and insulting to people with autism but someone that "spent three years on researching the topic" Sia should have known how bad autism speaks is, considering how outspoken the autistic community is about it and even neurotypical people.

As you can see I these Screenshots Sia is being very patronizing to people confronting her or having negative opinions on her movie, going as far as using the "I have two disabled people that advise me" but never saying who they are, what their disability is. If you want to represent an entire spectrum you have to talk to more than two people and actually listen when those in the spectrum tell you that you're misrepresenting them, you can't ignore thousands of opposing opinions just because you have a handful of people that agree with you.

https://autisticmama.com/do-not-support-autism-speaks/

Why I Do Not Support Autism Speaks

These 4 simple reasons I don't support autism speaks are a must read for all autism mamas! They're the most popular autism organization, but

https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2020/11/10183141/sia-music-trailer-maddie-ziegler-autism-speaks-controversy

https://speakingofautismcom.wordpress.com/2019/04/02/why-you-should-not-support-autism-speaks/