Honestly I don't know what to say
"I just found out that not only is my best friend anti-abortion rights, but she went to a protest in Washington DC a few days ago. I don’t understand how this girl could believe that women should not have the right to terminate their own pregnancies. It’s easier for me to imagine other people, who have no access to decent information, or aren’t exposed to the harsh reality of what a world where women can’t control their own bodies really is like, or just haven’t spent enough time thinking about it, being ignorant, but I just can’t understand her. Honestly I can’t understand any of it.
I don’t understand why anyone would think it’s ok to dictate what a woman should do with her body or her life. I don’t get why people think it’s their choice to make, or that they somehow have a say in the matter. Sure, I don’t believe abortion is ok, in the sense that it would never be an option for me specifically. I can’t imagine ever being ok with going through with it, but who am I to say that another girl should be forced to carry her baby to term or keep a child she is not mentally, financially, or emotionally ready to have? How can anyone think even for a second that it’s ok to take away that choice from people?
If anti-choicers do end up succeeding, where would they draw the line? Do you force the woman with moderate medical instability, severe anxiety, and crappy health insurance to continue with an expensive, traumatizing pregnancy? Technically, this pregnancy would not kill her. Do you force the rape victim to carry the baby that was a product of incest? Do you force the 11-year old girl to carry a baby to term and wrack her underdeveloped body with the labors of child birth? How can you justify to yourself that you can force anyone to carry a growing fetus for almost a year? What about the ambitious high school student who was on birth control and used a condom, and the condom broke and she was part of the small percentage of pregnancies that make it past the pill, how can you carry on your shoulders the responsibility of shunning her, invalidating her, and making it incredibly difficult for her to now graduate high school, get a higher education, get a job, make a career?
Of course, they shouldn’t have been such sluts to get in that situation in the first place, right? Let’s just all never have sex.
If we keep criminalizing female sexuality we are upholding harmful double standards that cause huge problems for all women, and further the distance we have to run to get to equality. There has been so much positive progress but at the end of the day there are still hundreds of thousands of women who are protesting and marching in order to try and take away their own rights and the rights of all women.
You can’t tell us what to do with it.
I will never apologize for embracing my sexuality or my health. I am human, I have a body, and I have every right to have sex, and if I needed to, terminate a pregnancy. Nothing you say will change that.”