#abuse implied

[drawnsnake]

Inspired by this and the fandom headcanon that Susie's home life isn't... that great

[marblebagcollective]

i cant think of a song to link with this just take my art

[angronius]

Okay actually if I can Argel Tal and Erebus conspiracy again. The fact AT has a nuclear level meltdown about whatever Erebus did (that was deemed ‘Too Far’) while Erebus;

I.) Isn’t sorry about it and instead of any apologies, just says he Forgives Argel Tal for his reaction (that Argel Tal never asked forgiveness for because he doesn’t regret his reaction)

II.) Doesn’t believe it was ‘too far’ in the first place

III.) Doesn’t believe he has Ever hurt Argel Tal before (literally says “Have I ever done you wrong?”)

Can we infer that whatever was done {theories,,,,} is something Erebus has normalised in his life entirely, perhaps something from his time being a nut case on Colchis - something to do with Chaos. Is he GENUINELY believing the event was nothing because it’s something he’s been through too?

Or is he posturing?? Does he know whatever happened was wrong deep down but is passing it off as Argel Tal acting like a brat?

I feel like Lorgar’s reaction to it is also quite telling; he brushes it off, asks if Argel Tal has forgiven Erebus like Erebus has forgiven him. AT was going to kill Erebus (and maintains that he would have, too, if he could!!!), but Lorgar is like, “Well are you sorry too? Are you done being upset at him? He’s not upset at you, you know.” And with the bits we get of his childhood, it’s no wonder he tries to impose the fawning survival response onto AT - it worked for him!!

Erebus is akin to Argel Tal’s Kor Phaeron. Master and Acolyte. Father and Son. If Lorgar is aware of what truly was “too far”, he wouldn’t see any problem with it as it likely reflected the normalised and ritualised abuse he put up with himself. Sooo… does Erebus also view it from this lens? Did Erebus have his own Kor Phaeron that “went too far”? Did he not and so his methods for Argel Tal went “too far” too quickly?

What are the Methods that went too far? Was he pushing Argel Tal to partake in chaos rituals early on? We know the Word Bearers in general, even pre heresy, put themselves through all sorts of pain and punishment even just for contemplation. Abuse is pretty normalised for Word Bearers.

So what is Pushing It Too Far!!!! What causes the acolyte of THE First Chaplain to lose his composure so far as to attempt to commit the very first act of Astartes-fratricide? Hello!!!!

[bitbing]

SMDWIOKNT PART 2: aftermath

For those who wanted a little p2 to this (also for me bc i needed to end on a positive note) I kind of fudge the height difference a lot in this

[traumasurvivors]

Children deserve patience.

I remember all the times growing up that I’d get in trouble for something I said or did, and I’d get in more trouble when I asked for an explanation. I was told I was “talking back” or being a “smart ass” when I literally was just trying to understand.

I also find that I’d get punished for being emotional. Even if I didn’t handle them in the right way, that was an opportunity to teach me how to handle them better. Instead I got in trouble and it just taught me to suppress my emotions. And honestly? Adults have bad days and difficulty handling their emotions. But somehow as a child, I was punished for not being perfect.

I think, for my parents at least, they’d get upset and ask why I was disrespecting them or doing something to them. And I think that’s the problem. They took my actions to mean I was maliciously trying to upset them when that was never the case. Instead of sitting back and trying to figure out why a child might be doing what they’re doing, they took it personally and that’s what made them so angry. If you think someone is intentionally trying to upset you, it’s going to likely upset you. And that wasn’t a fair assumption to make.

Children deserve patience and the benefit of the doubt.

[librarycards]

current events have me so flustered emotional and sick. for this to converge with me just tiptoeing into genuine empathy for littlesarah is so cruel. what on earth did she ever do to deserve any of that. and to be denied systemically the language to name it.

[gift0fpurity]

[nickythehickey]

thinking again. elaborating on my headcanons of the burger fools’ families

cws for maternal death + mild abuse implications

penny of course has her mom and daughter. kid’s dad isn’t in the picture; he was very not great and they split up before penny found out she was pregnant. she has the support system to be a pretty good single mom and she’s never once regretted keeping her daughter

tim doesn’t have any siblings, but he’s from one of those families where immediate and extended family are basically the same and has a lot of cousins that might as well be siblings. he doesn’t see his family much anymore bc they all still live in nz but he talks to them often and tries to visit when he can. somehow he gives me both “happily single w/ no interest in a relationship” and “has a spouse and is effectively married but they technically aren’t married bc they don’t really believe in it” energy and im not sure which i want to go with

billie’s family i don’t think could be any less notable. there’s nothing wrong with them, they’re loving and supportive of her, but she’s not very close to them the way tim and penny are close to their families. they live a few states away and she’s bad at maintaining communication, so she doesn’t talk to them much

frances is a youngest child. like such a youngest child. she has one older sister and they’re the most disney channel ass sisters you’ve ever seen. their mom died when she was very young (possibly in childbirth w/ her im undecided) so she was raised entirely by her dad. he is the textbook Girl Dad, he loves his daughters more than anything and actually was the one to first get frances into theater

everyone seems to agree conrad is from a big family and they’re absolutely right. i feel like he’s the oldest, he has three younger sisters (oldest is like a high school senior/college freshman, youngest is in middle school) and they’re all very protective of each other. really supportive parents too, maybe they even frequent zomburger to see him and they’re glad he has such a fulfilling life with such good friends (though it took them a while to warm up to cesare)

i feel like im about to show how painfully white i am but here we go— allen’s parents and grandparents emigrated from korea when his parents were kids/teens and allen himself was born in the us. he’s an only child. his parents love him to death and want the best for him; don’t fully understand why he why he chose theater over something more “practical”, and they don’t fully understand the queer stuff, but they’re really trying (fr trying not “we’re trying but it’s just so hard for us”) (that’s not to say zomburger’s salary doesn’t make it easier). his mom is the kinda stereotypical type who will send him home from family gatherings with like ten pounds of kimchi that he ends up giving most of to frances

uh steve obv has his mom and i think probably another parent as well, they were very supportive of his jellicle dreams and always encouraged him to just do his best. i imagine his banishment hurt them a lot, im not particularly interested rn in mathing out whether or not his mom would still be alive by the time he resurfaced but either way he really misses her

cesare went into woodwork as a family trade and apprenticed under his father or uncle or smth (but not puppets specifically, they were his own passion) and any family he was close to died before his murder, but other than that idk what to do with him