#adhd partners

[ansautism]

people are going to kill me for this one but i do believe spaces where people who are negatively affected by their loved ones disorder should be allowed to exist

i do not think spaces like adhd partners or bpd partners are inherently ableist because they are just describing experiences they've had with a partner who's behaviors are literally caused by the disorder. like these things are known to disrupt relationships, why wouldn't a space exist for that?

the issue is that they tend to over generalize people with those conditions but i don't want to hear it from anyone on tumblr given how you guys talk about neurotypicals

[ravenousnightwind]

I think my partner is now at a point where he realizes that yeah, I just have issues. He seems to be making less if not zero off hand comments. When I ask him to turn stuff down cuz it bothers me, or out headphones on for the same reason, he doesn't really get upset anymore he just does it in some kind of way.

We have this whole setup in the bedroom now because he has adhd too, but since he's different than me and doesn't really have sound sensitivities, but he does have a sense of needing to be busy or occupied with stuff? He can just watch TV and play games there than have the TV full blast right next to me in the living room.

Sometimes he'll come in and just visit me, or I'll do the same, but it's a way we've found that allows us to be in our own space and be comfortable with eachorher at the same time without real problems conflicting between us.

I think while he may not always understand why things bother me, he tries to respect those things as something that is just inherently problems for me even if I can't explain it. I feel like that all this is good progress towards his understanding of me.

[lordwoolselytaxservices]

My partner: Hey I know you're stressed but it's going to be all right I promise. Me: But I'm always stressed. My partner: I know but it's okay to not stress about things you can't control.

~Sometime later the same day~

Me: Hey you don't have to do all this stuff, you can relax. You've done a lot today. My partner: No I have to get it all done before I can relax. Me: I know but it's okay if it doesn't get done.

This is our lives literally every day. lmao