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Hi, my friend's father recently died. However, her mom has been talking to someone new on the phone and is talking 'trash' supposedly about her dad to that new person. My friend says she is aware of what she is saying to this new person and thinks that her mom would do the same thing if she died. (she thinks her mom would be sad for a little while, only to talk trash about her later on to someone) I don't know what to tell her, and any advice you give would be gladly appreciated. Thank you! :)

Hello,

It is a shame that your friend has overheard her mother talking about her father this way. Her mother could be doing it for several reasons. She could feel angry that her father “left” her in a way (although of course he did not do it on purpose) to take care of the family and home, and now she is all alone. If the father was sick for a long time before he passed, she could resent that she had to take care of him and it occupied such a big portion of her time, emotional space, money, etc. Your friend’s mother is probably feeling a lot of emotions all mixed up together while grieving her husband, and might just be going through a particularly dark period right now. This new boyfriend may be the person that she can vent her emotions and frustrations to. This is actually good, because she has someone to hear her feelings and be supportive. I’m not sure if your friend’s mother knew that your friend could hear what she said, but it would be unacceptable to put that burden on her children. I would tell your friend that her mother may be feeling a lot of different emotions over her father’s death, and some days may be dominated by some emotions over others. If her mother tries to vent her frustration directly to her, she should not let her mother’s bitterness tarnish her memories of her father. If she needs someone with more experience to talk to, perhaps she could go to a school counselor, clergy member, or doctor/therapist and talk about what is going on. Overall, just be supportive and a good listener, make sure she knows she is valued, and that it is ok for her to have all her good memories of her father. Good luck!

-Adelaide