(Rebloggable, by requests.)
First of all, I don’t think he’s uncomfortable with the destiel topic in itself. I think he’s uncomfortable with certain topics in public, and there have been times we’ve seen that. But I don’t think it’s as bad or in the same nature as we’ve assumed. A lot of the “evidence” that he’s uncomfortable with destiel has been completely debunked. So there’s that.
As for Jensen in general, I think he and his relationship to sexuality is complicated. I think his relationship to masculinity is even more complicated, and definitely more traditional, and sometimes that appears to us to skew into to his feelings on homosexuality.
I think part of it is that Jensen is just a private kind of guy. Look at his relationship with Danneel, the way he is handling being a father. I think he’s the kind of person who is uncomfortable with having his emotions put out there. PDA when it’s goofy and lighthearted is okay, but PDA when it means something, and that’s a little different.
I suspect he was raised fairly conservative. Not politically per say, but socially. I suspect homosexuality was either not okay, or not something to be discussed. So I don’t think he is homophobic or actually has any issues with it himself now. I do, indeed, think it highly likely he’s actually bi. But talking about it in public still makes him uncomfortable. And you know what? That’s okay. It really is.
I’m not going to lie, I would be extremely uncomfortable on stage, and I would be extremely uncomfortable with that kind of topic coming up while I’m the one on stage, already trying hard to please everyone and knowing that with this topic, I’m going to screw up somehow.
And I do think we are just reading some of the things he’s said a little too extremely, and judging them a little too harshly. Maybe he does have some ingrained issues, some heteronormativity. You know what? So do I. It’s something I actively work against and am trying to break down, but it’s there. We’re all human here, we all grew up in a society with huge issues that we’re trying to change and work out of it’s influence. Is it really beneficial to get super pissed at someone because they aren’t perfectly PC 100% of the time? I don’t think so.
I wish the last thing you said was true, but it’s all to easy to see how a badly phrased answer turns an entire fandom against a person. And that they don’t respect his opinion. Unfortunately, it’s all too easy for me to see why being on stage at a convention is uncomfortable for him.
Honestly, I think the problem with Jensen is that he’s an introverted actor. And we just don’t get that. It’s not allowed. Look at Kristen Stewart and the things she gets called just for having the audacity to be terrified with hundreds of people screaming at her and taking her picture. It’s not enough that they can act, we demand our actors be outgoing, confident and flawless, and condemn them harshly when they’re not.
Anyway. Sorry, I think I rambled a bit there. XD
