#and apologising

[robiberon]

[skullyfuck]

i refuse to be like my parents.

im going to be loud. im going to be so, unapologetically loud. im going to be kind. im going to be so, softly kind. im going to listen, im going to listen i swear. im going to be who i want, and accept others for who they are, and im going to love them just the same. im not going to have un healthy expectations, im not going to use people as free therapy, im not going to make people scared. and im going to apologise. im going to say im sorry. im going to admit i was wrong. because i refuse to be like my parents.

[anotherramblingfangirl]

Dr Steve, you don't get paid enough to put up with all this nonsense.

[thatdeaffeel]

I’ve done a really poor job running this blog the last year, sorry everyone, i’ve had a really hectic 12 months, losing my job, finding a new one, hating it, finding yet another job, moving house, it’s been a lot.

That being said, i also haven’t had many submissions in a longass time, which i think feeds into things a little.

I’ll try and do better.

[cantquitu]

Well done to you for admitting you needed a break, and getting it.

For me it was bursting out crying (for no reason, it was first thing in the morning and nothing had happened) in front of my boss. She was lovely and pointed out I was in fact ill with stress (things outside of work as well as work itself).

Please take the time you need to get back on an even keel

Thank you! I hope you're feeling a lot better now xx

That's very similar to what happened to me. I had a prearranged call with my head of HR on Tuesday to catch him up on some stuff with my team. And he had the audacity to be NICE to me! Big mistake. He asked me how I was doing, said he knew I'd been ill and he was concerned. And I just started crying.

[kasumi-ffxiv]

🔥

People who do shitty things and then come back years later acting like nothing bad ever happened and try to be friendly/join your social circle/act like nothing ever happened/never try to apologise/fix their huge fuck up. 

Nah though. Like if you act like a dick to me I’m likely never forgiving you, especially if you try and breeze in acting like you never done anything wrong without as much as a conversation about trying to move on from said issues. 

People say I’m petty and I hold grudges. Maybe I do? But I always don’t believe people who go around hurting people and causing them huge amounts of distress should get free passes, no matter how much time passes. 

People who get free passes when they act like huge bags of dicks and hurt me and other people around me don’t deserve free passes. Especially when I see/hear them repeating the same behaviour over and over. 

People whine and bitch about “scarlet letters” and how people hold them accountable when they can’t get into free companies and are cut off from social connections, but really, what these people need to do is recognise their behaviour is toxic and go and apologise. Ignoring your past shitty behaviour and expecting others to do it as well isn’t fair and isn’t something I’ll ever do. 

9/10 people get free passes for past bullshit they’ve done when they apologise and show efforts to change. If you aren’t though, I’m not just gonna let you breeze back into my social life like nothing happened, especially when you refuse to acknowledge the hurt you caused. 

Please stop giving these people free passes so they can continue their toxic behaviour without any ramification. Cause 9/10 they’re just going to continue and hurt you and/or hurt people close to you.

[coolbain]

It's 3am n my ex is calling me ew let me sleep ???????

[tonitoewyn]

Sometimes I reblog only art and quotes and feminist stuff for days and days and then I think "wow, slow down, you're a fandom blog, don't disappoint your followers" and reblog more art and quotes and feminist stuff Because apparetly you still follow me so you don't mind...