#aro questioning

[somebeaver-offical]

Figured since its aro awareness week imma say smth.

I’m questioning arospec of some sort.

Like. Sometimes I think I like girls n enbies. Not guys. I ain’t gay….ish? (also questioning my gender but that’s a whole ‘nother can of worms.) Other time romance in general is blehh. Boring ig. The dumb cheesy romance you see everywhere in movies is a no. That annoys me.

Idk where on the aro spectrum I might be. I don’t know all the terms.

[agalaxycloserthanyouthink]

questioning arospec human here. i've figured out that what scares me most about the possibility that I'm entirely aromantic is the fear that my friends will drift away and not prioritise me as we get older and therefore my future would be a lonely one. there's something simultaneously comforting and claustrophobic about the comphet idea of a life partner. what i want is a rich interconnected web of deep, lifelong friendships. decentring romance and imagining more expansive expressions of queerness.

[bored-aro-not-ace]

Hey you!

Yeah, you! You who're looking into aromantic tags because you think you might be aro!

Don't get fooled! You don't need to be asexual to be aromantic!!!!

They're two separate things!!

[here-2-help]

Guys, wtf is romance and how do I know I have it?

Edit: I don't have it bc apparently what I was experiencing is alterous attraction!

[softguarnere]

Hmmmm. Don't believe I will be telling anyone irl that I'm aro ever again.

[firewolf111]

So I doubt anyone is going to see this, but on the off chance someone does, I could use some help.

So a question to the aromantics and/or asexuals. How do I tell my girlfriend of 2 years that I think I may be aroace but still want to be in a relationship with (although in a slightly different way)?

Like I've tried to tell her I'm asexual, but I don't think I was direct enough. And I am way too terrified to bring up the fact I may be aromantic.

Not to mention, how do you know if you're aromantic?

Like I'm freaking out, and could use some advice from someone who is experienced with this.

Plz help.

[talekinesis]

Welcome back to tonight's game-show

Am I actually on the Aromantic Spectrum, or do I just not go Outside and Talk to People?

Today's points are as follow

• I do not see a difference between romantic and platonic, affection is affection and I see it all the same (family does not count, I do not allow them to touch me)

• I have accidentally lead people on in the past because I thought I liked them romantically, but realized I didn't because I saw their affection the same was I saw my friends' affection (I feel horrible for doing this 😀 I'm so sorry)

• I don't see a difference in romantic and platonic affection, I have cuddled, held hands, and even kissed people platonically

• I have platonic crushes on people (I have no idea how to explain what that is, but it's a thing)

Counterpoints:

• I do not get out much, so what if I'm not actually Aro, but just isolated

• I like the idea of being in a committed, affectionate relationship, and have even roleplayed as such, I think they're cute

- But also looking at other romantic couples, I don't really want what they have exactly, idk how to explain it

And that concludes tonight's episode of "Romance: A Confusing Crisis"