#ace questioning

[hypno-gears]

What do you do during Pride Month if you're questioning?

Getting into the weeds here, but I'm pretty sure I'm on the ace spectrum (Aegosexual or Gray Ace or something) and maybe Aro spec as well?

This is the first Pride Month I realized: "Wait, I'm technically part of this community." Like, it never occurred to me.

So, uh, hi everyone! How do I celebrate?😂

[socte-blue]

Me, at like 4: “I’m a cat!”

Me, like two years ago: “Okay… I am genderqueer mlm and disabled so i’m already at a disadvantage.. but everything‘s gonna be ok if I just fit myself into a GOOD different box so people people won’t stop being ok with it..!! Yep all good!!! I just to be PERFECTLY COOL. AND NORMAL. I am fitting into the system as much as I can…!!!-“

Me now: “my gender is loser and I’m a cat”

[hisuncontrollableanger]

I genuinely need to know. Is it possible to get so tired of romantic relationships that you just become aromantic? Lately I've been fucking STRUGGLING to even think of anyone in a more-than-platonic sense and it's definitely not just disgust or incompatibility. I can also assure you that I don't have any remaining emotional ties to the people from my past so.. what the hell is up? I don't know if anyone would answer but ANY opinions would help a lot.

[firewolf111]

So I doubt anyone is going to see this, but on the off chance someone does, I could use some help.

So a question to the aromantics and/or asexuals. How do I tell my girlfriend of 2 years that I think I may be aroace but still want to be in a relationship with (although in a slightly different way)?

Like I've tried to tell her I'm asexual, but I don't think I was direct enough. And I am way too terrified to bring up the fact I may be aromantic.

Not to mention, how do you know if you're aromantic?

Like I'm freaking out, and could use some advice from someone who is experienced with this.

Plz help.

[amistymemoryalostembrace]

What if I'm ace too? Or in the spectrum just like I'm in the aro spectrum? What then?

I don't know anymore if what I feel is actual sexual attraction or just high libido plus aesthetic attraction. Or the desire to feel physically good.

One of my ace friends posted a meme a while ago that was something like "I'm horny / horny for who? / no who just horny" and I'm kinda relating to it??

Or I'm just mentally ill wanting to stay away from people because lately I've been feeling like I can't stand human interaction because of my paranoia (I'm not saying ace people are mentally ill I'm saying >>I'M<< mentally ill and that makes it difficult to separate what is my brain malfunctioning and what is how I actually work)

[lavendulafaerie]

Hey, does kinda beging interested in how sex feels makes me NOT asexual? Because when I think about having sex, Im terrifed (I think I would

I love this question. And I thought it important enough to share outside the little tumblr community.

Being ace is a personal journey, and does not limit you to any specific definition or preclude you from any actions. If the term helps you understand yourself and find your place in the world, then it is of value.

[chollin1]

I know this isn’t really how things work but can someone like diagnose my sexuality or something

I don’t dislike kissing and touching and stuff, well sometimes I do I guess. But if I went my whole rest of my life without kissing someone or having sex I really don’t give a shit. Now I haven’t tried sex yet, I’ve kissed people and in the moment I liked it but sitting here rn I don’t feel a strong desire to.

It could theoretically be that I haven’t found a person I’ve wanted to do that with yet, or..?

Am I ace???? Am I on the ace spectrum??? Am I ace enough to use that label???

Bro idk

I really hate it though when I’m on a date and a guy looks at me and I know he wants to kiss me I hate it so much because I don’t want to do that at least not in that moment like maybe later bro calm down