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I went to the pride march in my town (well not exactly my town but whatever), and I had a big aromantic flag with me.

I was a bit afraid to take it because it was my first pride and because in my country aromanticism is not well known - I know it's like that everywhere, but since the main sources are in English and people in my country are absolutely ignorant of English, you know.

Anyway

PEOPLE STOPPED ME TO TELL ME I'M ALSO AROMANTIC!

And then I saw another aromatic flag waving high and we were distant so I waved mine and we saw each other...

It was amazing

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This year I'm helping organise the first Pride in my very own town :)

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My perfect relationship(s) would be to have a queer platonic life mate (gender wouldn't matter) who's aroace, and one or more sexual partners. My aroace partner also may have their own other relationships like if they have some kink or something.

At the end of the day we'd come back to our house where each one has their own room. We'd be married for legal reasons and tax benefits. Absolutely no children, plenty of cats.

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I hope that I'm not the only one who has felt this.

Sometimes, when I see a representation of a homosexual couple, I feel like an "ick" and I ask myself "wait a minute, am I a fucking homophobe?" And then I realise that I feel that same ick with straight couples, and that I'm not homophobic, I just hate all representations of romance.

Man, being apothiromantic sometimes is an emotional rollercoaster

[bored-aro-not-ace]

Same

Tbh I feel way less disgusted by queer couples, but if they get all lovey-dovey I feel sick anyway

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"Is there an app or something that focuses on AROMANTIC dating and meetings?"

Yeah! You should try this ACE thing. It's ROMANCE-CENTRIC but it works anyway right?

Fuck you.

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This is not infighting or whatever bs, just an observation.

Romance-indifferent and romance-positive may feel like they're not considered ""true aro"" but the truth is that you're the most acceptable by society's standards.

A truly romance repulsed aro, who hates everything romantic and can't stand PDAs, now that's a real weirdo who deserves to be treated as if they were diseased and contagious

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How do I know I'm aromantic?

Besides the cosmic horror I feel thinking about myself having a "normal life" with a spouse?

Well, the feeling of absolute nothing when I get told "you're very important for me" or "you're my light".

The only reason I don't run away immediately is because we're far and we actually meet one or twice a month, and in those meetings we fuck. And you're married (poly)

It's not that I don't care about you, I do. That's why it doesn't fill me with horror knowing I'm that important for you. But also the distance between us. That's what keeps this relationship safe.

I've already told you that I don't fall in love, but I never explained to you further than this. I didn't think it was necessary, and at this point I will not because I don't want to hurt you. Distance keeps me, us, safe, and that's enough.

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I've always loved the cartoon Hercules but I've always hated that he gave up his immortality for LoVe eugh

Even when I was a literal child and ofc didn't know anything about aromanticism (20+ years ago) I despised it as a narrative device so much

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I'm aroallo, I love sex and I think about it almost every day.

That said, sometimes I get so romance repulsed that even sex starts to repulse me.

To me sex is ABSOLUTELY NOT "an act of love" (🤮🤮🤮) but it's still some kind of intimate act, and when I'm particularly romance repulsed almost any kind of intimate bond makes me sick, so much so I struggle to say good morning to my (sexual!!!!) partner thankfully being poly and in a LDR, this doesn't weigh on me too much

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If I see a post about how QuEeR iS a sLuR, I'm absolutely sure that if I click on the profile I'll see stuff like "LGB with no T" possibly mixed up with TERF shit

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I Wish neopronouns were more known and accepted.

I really like ze/hir (and xe/xem) but lmao no one would use them irl

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I always get so surprised when people realise they are aromantic BUT still experience sexual attraction, and they're all confused and shit about it.

I forget that being aroallo is a very unknown identity and that people usually associate aromanticism with asexuality

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I don't know if not understanding flirting comes from being aromantic or autistic.

Is there any non-autistic aromantic person out there who still doesn't get flirting?

*not understand flirting = not understand how to do it and when a person is doing it towards me

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My friend is playing a dating sim ~~

Me: Do they fuck at least?

Her: Yeah but it's not visible

Me: What's the point?

Her: You make them date.

Me: Ok, but why? What's even the point then??

Her: Ehrm not everyone is aromantic like you

Me: .....right, I tend to forget it

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Look this might be an unpopular opinion and someone might even say it's "gatekeeping" BUT if a person experiences romantic attraction in a 'normal range' but doesn't want to pursue any romantic relationship, that person is NOT aromantic.

They're just an alloromantic who wants to stay single 🤷 nothing wrong with that.

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Aro culture is

being tired and angry that people keep mixing up aromanticism with asexuality, and treat being aro as a subset of being ace

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It's hilarious to be called "jealous" when I say lovey-dovey couples are disgusting

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Are there really people out there claiming that "sex and love are what makes us human"?

Like ...are we sure this is not just an internet thing? Did any of you ever meet someone who said that?

Which doesn't make any sense anyway cause the only goal of every single animal species on this planet is to have sex, and I'm pretty sure that many of those species also experience some type of love.

What makes us human is to be part of the Homo sapiens species, not very hard to understand.