As someone who struggled a long time with finding my own identity over the years I am happy to embrace my identity now adays.
I grew up being told how one day I'll meet a nice boy and get married and yadayada. Well sorry grandma sadly turns out that I HATE being touched. Like being kissed or hugged or carressed by a partner would make me feel like my skin was writhing (in a bad way) and make me wanna rip it off
See I tried the whole dating thing several times in the past, cause that was the normal thing to do, but each time I never felt that desire, passion, or spark that I was told people should have.
It was actually thanks to two of my previous partners and their insight that I discovered that I was Aro/Ace this whole time, and it all made so much more sense.