Since civilization began, many people around the world have asked the question: “How do we live happily?”. Even once it has been achieved, we have wanted to know, how. The topic of happiness has been debated as much as God, life, love, and hate. This feeling is something we try to medicate people for, write about, question in the world, and experiment with. We have always struggled with exactly how to find this feeling of happiness. How do we live a happy life? How do we feel happy? To live happily, life must have or be given a meaning, and there must be an intent behind our actions, and thoughts.
From a young age, I have pondered this question, and watched the world experiment with it in front of me. When I began truly looking into the topic of life, and happiness, I found a quote by Jean Paul Sartre. He states, “Existence precedes essence”. Sartre is relating us growing into our own self, much like an acorn can grow into an acorn tree. The acorn’s essence then leads into the whole acorn tree’s existence, similarly to how a human’s essence helps to create a human’s existence, but, the acorn does not choose to become to acorn tree, that is where we are different. We choose our way of existence. Our essence is already there, and we create who we are. In other words, we create our existence. There is no predetermined path for us, we grow into our own selves, our own identities. According to an unknown author, “everyone has an essence and our lives tend towards the actualization of our essence, which dates back to Aristotle.” The author means that we have a choice in who we become, and who we grow into. When it comes to happiness, and life itself, there is no real way because it is unique to all of us. Once we can begin to understand that we create ourselves, we can understand that things can be create within our lives. Understanding the freedom, choice, and capability that one truly has is the first step to happiness.
Humans can consider that we have a choice in our lives, and then open doors to new possibilities. After acceptance that we control ourselves, we let go of predisposition, because,“It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters. “ (Epictetus) This is a quote from Stoicism, a branch of existentialism. This quote states that by only worrying about the choices that you control, you can put your energy towards happiness. We fall short of happiness often because we think we can control everything when we can’t. It is an unrealistic expectation to have. Stoicism says that you have a choice in life, not on what happens, but, on how you judge it. We can choose to live happily, and we can choose to look at the situation differently. This choice is where happiness can begin to come into our own hands.
I have questioned happiness for years mainly because, I used to look at the world from a nihilistic point of view. I had no love. I had no God. I had no appreciation. I believed we were here with no meaning, and we could not make any meaning. I believed that there simply was nothing. This belief system led me into a place with no direction, no reason to get out of bed, no reason to eat, and no reason to even feel. My unhappy and meaningless life became so unbearable that I seeked out new perspectives and came upon absurdism: there is no meaning, we make our meaning. My absurdist belief system is open to a life with meaning, but still a life with logic. I was able to both accept that we are here without purpose or meaning, but there freedom and belief to make our own meaning and purpose. Much like Jean Paul Sartre concluded, we make our own path. This is not predetermined. We make our own life and feelings. Once I understood the choice that I had been given, happiness seemed to be more obtainable for me.
When we take our choice within our lives into consideration, and then use this choice for meaning and carry an intent with us, whatever purpose we picture for ourselves, we can then fulfill it. By understanding the capability and choice that is possessed, your intent can be carried out, whatever it may be. When we do not acknowledge our choice to make life what we want, we fall short of the life we want, which is a life that makes us happy. A happy life with significance is not given to us, we have to make the happiness and choose to see significance. As humans we need something to hold onto and know that this existence isn’t all entirely pointless. We have to be able to accept that we are able to be one within our purpose-- that we are able to have whatever intent suits us best. We can try them all on, and decide if they fit. Whether it be setting an intention just to get through the day, or establishing a full meaning for one’s entire lifetime, once the ship has a direction, it will sail as far as you let it. We cannot wander through life’s waters with no destination. Naturally, one would feel very lost without having a set course.That is why we must set one.
Now, I am not saying that we have to have a drastically deep meaning in order to have a happy life, I am saying the opposite really. I am saying to stay aware of the choice we have throughout our lives, and to be mindful of where our choices are made, and what we are aiming them towards, big or small. This aim can be simple such as experiencing and taking it all in. Then it could go as far as wanting to have a family, traveling the world, achieving your goals, or in my personal case, wanting to make a change in the world. As long as there is something for you to dedicate your energy to throughout your day or life, you can reach happiness.
During my day when I am staying aware, I observe my intent and the things around me. I see my artwork and I am able to connect it to happiness. When we look at artwork, we may see beauty or pain. We may see a whole spectrum of things. When I see art, I see a reflection of one’s choice to create. Artwork is a prime example of both our choice of reaction, and our choice to make meaning. When I write a poem to make myself feel better on a sad day, it can be considered philosophical. When I am creating, I am understanding at that moment that I cannot change what is happening in my life, but that I can react to it how I choose, and add meaning to it. Life and art hold hands within the way they reach our thoughts. They both absorb the same concepts of our lives like a sponge and then can be squeezed and shaped. They are both mirror reflections of our souls. This connection leads me to their similarity in intent. Much like art, life can be given meaning. Life can be crafted. You can take the nothing, and turn it into everything. Life and art are based from the choice for a purpose or meaning. I admire art, and model myself after art, because art is choice, art is freedom. Happiness is freedom. Happiness, is creating our meaning, the choice to have this meaning and to possess happiness no matter what is happening around you; the combination of a Stoic and an Absurdist. To choose to make happiness. To create nothing into what you want.
All of these thoughts on life that I have are passionate and I share them as means of reflection. I had brought up my thoughts on happiness with my good friend Mary. She was pondering my theories and researching them herself. Mary asked me, “If it never ends (the act of creating purpose) then what is the point of searching for it? To fulfill our happiness in that moment but then it is gone. So, meaning is never truly satisfied. So is purpose necessary?” (Martinez) Well, Mary, that is just my point! If we did not have something to create or search for, what would life be besides surviving? We would be miserably bored, and then inevitably depressed because of the intense boredom. It is the pursuit that is life, it is the creating and learning what it is we want that will bring us the experience of happiness in our lives. Happiness is not meant to be easy, nor is existing. They are both something one has to make a mindful choice to participate in.
When I speak of there being no meaning, that isn’t to say it in a negative way. Yes, we are on a spinning ball in the middle of small galaxy. No, it doesn’t have to just be that way. We can make it more than that. We create our existence, our existence doesn't have to exist meaninglessly unless we let it. The fact that the meaning in our lives is blank like a canvas can further motivate us to let in our own personal meaning and to form our own intent. To be happy, one must make the choice to be happy, one must make the choice to pursue happiness and to carry the freedom of their existence in their hands. They do not need to follow a path, they do not need to be a particular way, or even act a certain way, they just need to have something to feel for and to work for. Happiness is craftsmanship, hard work, and dedication, and that is the freedom we are given, to pursue it or to not.