#ask auntie

[shadpuppy]

WHY DOESNT HE GET ITTTTT

[mrsledge-414]

[auntie-n]

You're always welcome to be my darling as i am complicated.

Love never finds me in the life i live.

[crustydrawers1]

People may mock you but this is a healthy perspective. Tennis is your job. It has defined a part of you, but you are still Naomi and you are a mother. Tennis is only one aspect of your life, and if you have a bad match, that mood shouldn't tarnish the time you have for yourself and your child.

Most of these people are resentful and jealous and feel like they would LIVE BETTER if they were in your shoes.

But they do not appreciate nor understand the grueling schedule. The missing home. Wanting to fully rest and heal but can't because another tournament starts. And navigating basement dwelling fans like them with grace and patience.

You are doing great. Keep going.

[ellxly]

as a fellow proshipper, what are your thoughts on soldierlander? would you be willing to write for them? :D

OH, I NEVER THOUGHT ID HEAR THE DAY. YES, I BLOODY WILL!!!! If you wanna send me a detailed asks about it or just a short one, I'll write it ;3

[tilbageidanmark]

Aunties dancing

[tidesofsilence]

Tiny's shirts are here! @bizships and @captainjanewaysdqvoyagercore helped find @amalgam000 ❤️🖖🏻🥹

Tiny called.

She said please.

She made a birthday request.

Auntie complied!

Also, my magnets are here. But my impulsive brain ordered 5 more... 🤣 So now I am waiting for them!

But also, her birthday is 3 and a half months away! 🤦🏽‍♀️ That's ok, it just means Auntie gets to keep shopping 🤣

[arsonicpossum]

Hi there! Hope I'm not bugging you at all, but I noticed you talking about how you used to identify as a transman and want solidarity between detransitioners like yourself and transgender people like myself, and I think that's really sweet. I feel like I somewhat relate to you as a transgender man/boything (it's complicated) who used to briefly think they were a lesbian. I hope you're doing well 💗

Thanks for reaching out, don't worry you're not bothering me!

Yes indeed, I identified as ftm between the age of 18 and 24. I injected T for 6 years and I had topsurgery at 22. Now at 6,5 years since I started detransitioning!

I've never wavered in my belief that genderaffirming care should be a universal human right, and fiercely love and appreciate the trans community. It's immensely heartbreaking to me that detrans people are being used to attack trans rights, and that our communities are pitted against each other.

I still relate a lot more to trans people than to Cis people. Most detrans people I know feel the same way. A detrans experience mirrors a trans experience a lot more closely than a Cis experience. We share a lot of the same struggles and face the same bigotry. Not to mention that we were part of the trans community once, and some of us still identify as part of the trans community.

Not every detrans person fully detransitions to their AGAB either. Some detransition medically but stay transitioned socially, for example because of lack of access, medical issues, or safety reasons, or because they just do not enjoy the changes hrt made.

Others, detransition socially, but stay on hrt. For example because they do like the effects of hrt, but their gender identity shifts to be more GNC instead. Others might feel more comfortable switching to a more NB identity. There's endless possibilities and variations within the detrans community, just like the trans community.

I only got back on tumblr recently, after several years of being gone, partly in fact because I am getting fed up with the lack of proper detrans representation online. I'm a very private person in general, but tumblr felt like the safest place for me to try to make a difference. To show people that most detrans people are not alt-right or terfs, and we stand in solidarity with the trans community, not in opposition of it.

Sharing our experiences can be very scary online. Our stories get co-opted by bigots and taken out of context. Used to attack trans people. And because of this, trans people can also get triggered by our very presence. I understand its a knee-jerk defensive reaction out of self preservation, but online trans spaces can sometimes also be very hostile to us too, which continuously makes it more and more difficult for us to speak up. We're a minority of a minority, and whenever we try to speak up, trans and Cis people alike tend to talk over us.

So yeah, that's why I've been starting to share my detrans experience haha, I'm a fierce ally of trans folks, yall are my family, and I wish more folks would see that it's in both our best interest to stick together and show solidarity!

So thank you for reaching out, I truly appreciate it! It makes me happy to see my voice is reaching more people!