#attackofthechewenod

[letthesunshinein]

I associate you with Theo and Chey and Squash! :)

three fantastic people!!!!!!

[lustyargonianwarrior]

♔(movies) and ♬ (songs) !

Top 5 favourite movies?

Treasure Planet

The Hours

American Psycho

Memoirs of a Geisha

Where the Wild Things Are

Top 5 favourite songs?

Devil's Backbone - The Civil Wars

The Last Baron - Mastodon

Comin' Home - Murder by Death

Sometimes the Line Walks You - Murder by Death (Shut up! They're a good band!)

Too Late - The Dear Hunter

[javert]

attackofthechewenod

I saw the discussion you were having about aromantic sexuals earlier today, and myself being an aromantic sexual, I have some things to say.

this is too long for an ask so I'm writing a post.

first of all, probably part of the reason that people are kinda unhappy with you is that you /several times/ link aromantic sexuality with personality disorders

 I was trying to [...] comment on the correlation between a long-term lack of romance in sexual relationships and psychosocial issues. 

and

how frequently does that combination occur without co-occuring emotional instability or atypical social/personality behaviours in the long term?

and

does that really happen?

excepting those with personality disorders?

because those things are not connected. at all. ever. implying someone's sexuality/romantic orientation somehow defines or is defined by their mental health and emotional stability is a) incredibly rude, b) wrong, and c) pretty inappropriate.

but putting that aside, I will try to answer your question about how aromantic sexuality can work. speaking only from personal experience here really.

I don't know how it happens or what causes aromantic sexuality, but I can tell you that it is real

afaik I've always been aromantic. I've never had a crush. I've never dated anyone, and I don't particularly want to. my friends have described romantic attraction to me as like 'butterflies in your stomach', desire to be more deeply intimate with one person than with anyone else, kind of feelings about someone that are 100% separate from friendship. I've never felt that kind of feeling for anyone, ever. I am pretty sure that the love that I feel for my friends is the deepest kind of love that I can experience for someone who is my peer (when I say that I mean that love that I feel for any children I may have in the future would probably be deeper, or at least different). am I missing out? maybe. IMHO I like being the way that I am, but I've never felt anything different.

as for sexual attraction, I've felt it. don't particularly want to discuss it b/c it makes me a little uncomfortable to do so

in any event, the things that I feel I would define as aromantic + sexual.

I can't really speak for demisexuality at all because I'm not a demisexual.

but everyone who has ever talked to me about romance has said that the love you feel for a romantic partner is different than the love you feel for a friend. so if someone were to be having sex with their friend (with the understanding that the relationship was not intended to 'go anywhere', like in a fully consensual situation) that doesn't necessarily make a romantic relationship. I mean for example: if you're having sex with your friend, but outside of that you only ever hang out in a group of 3+ people- that's an aromantic, sexual relationship. Or if you have a coworker who you have sex with occasionally, but never meet up except to have sex or during work. I mean, even romantic people can have these sort of relationships. But aromantic sexual people tend to have this sort of relationship or similar pretty exclusively. 

and there's nothing wrong with that. it's just the way that some people are. there is no desire for a permanent, one-over-everyone-else , "soulmate", "true love" kind of relationship. maybe you just don't understand that. but I don't understand romantics either haha. 

I mean maybe I and everyone else I've ever talked to is wrong, and romance and friendship are the same. and maybe I do have some sort of "personality disorder" that causes me to be this way. but probably not. I mean I know myself pretty well, and this is just the way I am.

[liniochtai]

attackofthechewenod a réagi à votre billet :WHAT THE FUCK IS HAPPENING ON AGENTS OF SHIELD...

i’m so sorry D:

I AM NOW GOING TO WATCH THE LAST EPISODE

BUT FUCKING HELL

WHAT THE FUCK WAS THE LAST ONE I JUST

????????????????????

WARD NO

FUCK

[avantguardisme]

lesroisdumonde, quinfish, kylescatliffe, attackofthechewenod go go go

oh god okay here we go

lesroisdumonde: MARIE, marie is one of my favorite people tbh, marie's so much fun to talk to (aka scream about jasico with) and is always there for me when im down, and generally just so awesome i just want to shower marie w/ love all the time (also marie's an amazing courf wow)

quinfish: quin is literally marius pontmercy it's amazing and i love it so much, and he's also just a really really cool guy and i love talking to him and i really would like to do so more often!

kylescatliffe: shira is literally one of the most adorable people on the face of the earth this is indisputable fact, also zir hair is perfect. but really, zie has a really awesome blog and is also a really cool and sweet person, and i love working with zir in lav, zie's such a great bossuet!!

attackofthechewenod: i haven't actually gotten to talk to chey a lot, but she does have a really awesome blog, has been great to work with in lav, and is also literally a perfect grantaire like holy shit, if you haven't seen her grantaire videos you're missing out on life please watch them immediately

[humble-wayside-flower]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!

Thank you!! :)

[perrysian]

bless chey for real guys