hi!! can i request headcanons for malleus, azul, lilia and leona dating a bpd(borderline personality disorder) reader? like a general relationship headcanons (its my first request, i hope i wrote everything correctly oof😭)
A/n: YEEES, so I also have BPD so I was really happy about this request. This obviously has a little bit of what I personally like in here but I hope it's also good for you <3
Leona Kingscholar
He usually notices your emotional shifts pretty quickly, while he might act lazy, he’s still extremely observant, especially when it comes to you
When you’re splitting and start pulling away or snapping, he doesn’t take it personally
His response is usually a tired sigh (which sometimes doesn't help the situation) but he still always stays with you if you want that
He’s the type to sit beside you in silence instead of forcing words
If you spiral and start saying cruel things about yourself, he shuts that down “Oi. Don’t talk about the person I love like that”
Leona is big on reassurance through actions, not talking
He’ll bring you food, or pull you in to cuddle (as long as you don't physically push him away)
If you’re convinced he hates you or is bored of you, he gets pretty blunt “If I didn’t wanna be here, I wouldn’t be. You know that I would never deal with anything that isn't worth it”
During intense emotional episodes, he grounds you physically, laying you on top of him (or him on top of you if you need pressure on you), breathing slowly in hope that you will match it
He hates seeing you exhausted from your own mind, on especiall bad days, he’ll absolutely convince you into napping together
Leona is protective when others misunderstand your reactions
He won’t explain your illness to people, but he will shut down anyone who disrespects you or tries to make you feel worse
Lilia Vanrouge
Lilia is incredibly emotionally intelligent
He’s lived long enough to recognize pain when he sees it, and he never treats your emotions as “too much”
When you’re spiraling, he meets you with warmth instead of panic, he tries to keep his voice light while trying to help you
If you split and push him away, he doesn’t leave, he might joke softly at first, then get serious
Lilia is excellent at distraction when you need it (games, music, silly pranks) but he never uses his humor to dismiss your feelings
He encourages you to express yourself freely, even when it’s like messy, (tears, anger, confusion)he’s seen worse, and he’s not scared of it one bit
During emotional crashes, he’ll pull you into his arms and hum or rock you gently, just trying to soothe you
He reassures you often, but never in a condescending way “You’re allowed to feel things deeply. That’s part of what makes you you”
Lilia is very good at reminding you of your identity when you feel like you’re disappearing
He celebrates your progress, no matter how small
Loving you feels natural to him. He never treats you as a burden, no matter how hard you are on yourself
Malleus Draconia
Malleus loves deeply and intensely, so he understands emotional extremes more than most
When you’re splitting, he becomes very calm, he speaks slowly, carefully, making sure his words don’t add fuel to the fire
If you’re convinced he’ll abandon you, it genuinely hurts him, but he doesn’t withdraw from you “I am still here. I have not gone anywhere”
He takes your feelings seriously, even when they seem irrational, he doesn’t argue with your emotions, only reassures you
Malleus offers support quietly during spirals: sitting with you, holding your hand, letting you cry, and go through all you emotions without rushing you
He’s big on promises, and he keeps them, that reliability is incredibly grounding for you
If you self-isolate, he waits patiently, checking in without trying to pressure you
He may not always know the right thing to say, but his sincerity makes up for it
To him, loving you is like a vow and he just wants to protect you
Azul Ashengrotto
Azul understands insecurity very well and, your fear of abandonment hits very close to home for him
When you split and accuse him of ulterior motives, it stings, but he reminds himself that this comes from fear, not truth
He responds with reassurance “If I were planning to leave, you would already know. I am not one to keep something like that to myself”
Azul struggles when you pull away, but instead of guilt-tripping, he doubles down on showing how much he cares for you
During spirals, he offers comfort: tea, blankets, things that feel controlled and safe for you
He’s surprisingly good at verbal reassurance, especially once he understands what you need to hear
If you feel like you’re “too much” he firmly disagrees
Azul is attentive to your triggers and learns them like he does with his contracts, except this one he learns out of love
Loving you helps him heal parts of himself he never thought
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