Why does it bother me when a guy doesn't text me often or back as fast as I want? I guess every girl just needs some affirmation that they're cared for like on "The Bachelorette." On the show, guys open up about their feelings and how they're falling in love with the girl. However, real life doesn't usually happen that way unless you are with a sentimental guy. I've observed that guys are usually bad texters and have so many messages on their phones they don't check. This is great because it means they are confident, and have great jobs, and live in the moment. For me though, I like to be shown attention and I've never been quiet. My outgoing, sales personality makes me want to be communicating often. In my first loving relationship, my boyfriend texted, called, or saw me 24/7 and told me he loved me 27 days after meeting. Was this real love? No way! I wouldn't date him again and it was just young, puppy love. But that was the only long-term fairy tale love I've experienced that has touched my heart. When a guy acts like he likes you in person, you have to trust he means it. But there's always this fear that you're going to be used or screwed over because at some point, every girl has been treated poorly by a guy. It annoys me that women have to always be the ones who change for men. Why is it not that men have to text women or else they will lose their attention and affections? Why are men given so much power? And women have to pretend that they don't care that a guy texts them back or not so that the man will like them? -Misha