How to be less loud and excited in front of people? I've found it tends to make people like me less.
Torn between telling you not to change yourself to fit in certain circles, and making a note of it on your phone/ setting a reminder to remain “calm.”
I’m generally someone who’s quite reserved so it’s difficult for me to fully relate to this- but I think the issue here is not being able to control your emotions.
Think of it more as not letting everyone access your energy; you’re only letting a selected few to see the self you actually are. Some people also may get overwhelmed / overstimulated by extreme extrovertedness, so it’s a good thought to know when to be calm.
That doesn’t mean that you put on a mask and pretend to be someone else, but you could definitely practice on being reserved around people you’re newly acquainted with.
Knowing how and when to act a certain will only come with practice of being in situations.
It’s a good idea to be able to read the crowd you’re with - if they seem to be more high profile, higher social status, seniors at jobs, it’s best to observe for a bit before you do anything else.
