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so let's me take a crack at this.

coons: so this is the category that most black people think is the only category but that's a problem we'll discuss that later. but yeah coons (in this context) are black guys who straight-up hate black women cuz they've been brainwashed into believing that black women are base. bottom of the barrel. the worst of the worst. lowest of the low. they're not silent about their hatred of black women either. they mock black women and their appearance, their names, their dress, their style (while dating white women who do nothing but bite black women btw) and more. additionally they brag about their hatred of black women to  other haters of black women ESPECIALLY if those people are white people. these are the worst of the worst and while it is easy to simply hate them, the reality is they are victims of white supremacist brainwashing (which could be any of us since psychological warfare against white supremacist brainwashing is a constant thing that black people must engage in). not only that, sometimes these people grow up in homes that support these ideas. i wouldn't be surprised if often times behind a cooning black man there's a cooning mother and/or cooning father. like kanye said "hater niggas marry hater bitches and have hater kids." so these black men date outside of their race because they sincerely hate black women and they do so because they in truth hate themselves. this hatred of themselves is expressed in many ways but the hatred and mockery of black women is ALWAYS one of the ways it expresses itself. and now they go about trying to resolve that self hatred by chasing after white approval which they understand comes by showing disdain for black women (among other ways). now they will try and hide this fact under any number of bullshit excuses (like when those coons fresh&fit tried to make their hatred of black women about "preferences" (foh)) but it's always mega transparent to those with at least half a braincell.

trophy hunters: so these guys are very close to coons but they don't out right hate black women. in fact many trophy hunters have a history of dating black women but when it comes to serious, long term commitments, they're looking for a trophy and for them a trophy is always a non-black woman, usually a white woman. the brainwashing is virtually the same with these guys as it is with the coons because they've been led to believe that the signal that you've made it, that you are somebody, that you are at the top of the mountain is to have anyone on your arm other than a black woman. most often they have it in their minds that the woman that they need to have on their arm is a white woman. they've been convinced that white women are the zenith of femininity, elegance, grace, refinement, style, worthiness, etc.. like i said however they're not exactly coons in that they're not mocking black women, often they're not speaking ill of black women, and they even have a history of dating black women but their actions show that when it comes down to making that serious commitment or the person they want to have on their arm when they've "made it", they're not willing to do that for and/or with black women. in that regard that only slightly less brainwashed than coons but still fucked up nonetheless. once again, look at kanye.

made the best out of a unique situation: so now we're going to start to get into the categories that i think many black people refuse to understand exist and can lead to black men coupling and/or marrying women who are not black. there are many black men who are not currently living in a situation, in a place where they do NOT have access to a plethora of black women. i know for some there is this belief that all black people grow up and live in black communities surrounded by blackness 24/7 but that's not the reality for a lot of black people. there are black people right now who are born and  raised in places where there's maybe one or two (maybe three) other black families. and if the few black girls in that community, in that town aren't feeling you, what the fuck are you supposed to do? just be celibate? that's not how that should works. on top of that you have black men who are living outside the country for various reasons including work-related and military reasons. when i was a freshman in college, a senior i knew (who took me under his wing and also was a computer science major) right before graduation got a major job offer to go with a major company and making major dollars. the catch though was that this company was and still is located in japan (sounds like dwayne wayne type shit lmaoo). so he had to make a choice. either stay here in america for opportunities that weren't on that level or he had to bite the bullet move his entire life over to japan. now i don't know if you know this or not but japan is not exactly a place you're going to find a plethora of black people (men or women). especially not back in the day like i'm talkin about. so he moved to japan and many many many years later we friended each other on facebook and guess what? homie had a beautiful japanese wife and kids. why? not because he hated black women but his situation made it so that his options were different then mine and probably many of the black men reading this post. to bring this closer to home there are black athletes right now in sports like football who if they're going to make it to the nfl have to go play college sports in places where the student body is overwhelmingly white. so again, are we expecting them to be celibate if the few black women on campus aren't into them or aren't available? i know i'm not saying that. there are certain situations where your dating pool requires that you expand your options otherwise you just going to be lonely as fuck. shit one of my closest friends in the world a while back got relocated by his job to sweden hahaha. homie was making money but was lonely as shit. he had to make adjustments and yea dated a few swedish white girls because you're not running into a bunch of black girls over there. i understood 100%. these black men are just making the best out of this situation and i don't fault them no more than i would fault the number of black women who i know who were born and raised in places like idaho who dated mostly white boys because that's what that's what was around them. expand your mind on this one.

made a genuine connection: now this is the one that many black men and women refuse to accept is even possible but i'm here to tell you the world and human beings are complicated things. it is 100% possible to be a black man who doesn't hate black women, who isn't a coon, who isn't a trophy hunter and end up with a non-black woman because you made a genuine connection with one. i know for some this is sacrilege! this is unacceptable. this is beyond the pale. however again life isn't that simple. sometimes you meet someone and unexpectedly you have matching interest, matching goals, matching personalities, you find this person attractive and they just so happen to be a non-black person or, in the case of this specific topic, a non-black woman. this shit happens man.  there are many people reading this needs to grow up and realize that life isn't the straight line that you often think it is. it is 100% possible for a black man to not  be out here thinking or talkin about how black women are loud, black women are always angry, and all that other bullshit but just so happen to a fallen for someone who isn't black. what i typically find is that people who know that they are incapable of something can not fathom others having that ability since they know they can't do it. and so you have this weird projection where you know you could not be with a non black woman without hating on black women (or be with a non-black man without hating black men) so then it is impossible for you to understand how someone else could. so you end up shutting down or arguing with people about how is there is absolutely no way that is possible without being a traitor and all the while, in reality, you're just telling on yourself. now clearly i already listed out that they are coons and trophy hunters out here but they are also black men out here who just happen to have fallen for an asian chick, a hispanic chick,  a middle eastern chick and yes even a white chick. i know that last one made many faces go sideways and i get it. the realities of white racial hatred, white supremacy and the wounds thereof are very fresh for many and the idea of coupling with the people from the group who created and maintain this white supremacist hellscape wherein black people can be shot down by police and the cops just get a paid vacation or black college grad have the same shot at a job as non college grad whites with a criminal record and etc turns the stomach. i get 100% because i feel that way often too. however i can not deny the realities where i've met black men married to non-black women who are still down for the cause and yes love black women and want to see black women succeed. i've even met black women married to white women doing more in the community than many of the people who call him a coon. i'm not going to pretend that didn't happen and that can't be a reality. this inability in some of us to accept this reality ends up trickling down to how we treat black biracials (whose crime to some in the black community is just existing) but that's a whole other subject. so yeah the last one is simply; people make genuine connections (sometimes unexpectedly) with people outside of their race that includes black men.

so that may take. like the woman in the video said, leave black women out of this. if you're with a non-black woman (for whatever the reason (good, bad, whatever)) just fucking own it and move on.

thoughts?

[papirouge]

the fact that the same rightoid looking down on Black hood gang violence are enthusiastically entertaining anime/video game celebrating foreign gang culture (Tokyo Revenger, Yakuza gaming serie) is everything you need to know that those people don't have a problem with violence or crime, but rather WHO perpetuates it

To them, Black men with gun will always somehow be a bigger problem than an actual mafia (laundering money, trafficking human, selling drugs...) and I think it says A LOT about what criminality well "branded" can do

The Italians did the same with their own mafia (tbe Godfather trilogy)

On a whole different lane, I think it's the same with women desirability

Stats show that Asian women are the most desirable women transcending all races of men, and I can't help but thinking that generations who grew up with anime & manga has something to do with that. Anime & Manga is a fantastic promotional asset for the East Asian woman. She's shown as submissive, cute, sexually available... It comes off as no surprise that east Asian women are so prized from Xillennial to Gen zenners.

And let's not forget Latina women, who got an intensive promotion through the whole romanticism/eroticism of Latin music. It's also interesting how Latina women are elevated for being hot blooded and their "attitude" is sexy...when for the same reason, Black women are looked down and lay at the bottom barrel in term of dating desirability accross other races.

This is not a doom post (lol) but I want to tell every Black woman reading this that none of this comes out of vacuum. Personal branding comes a long way, and that you are not undesirable because of your Blackness.

Never forget that Italians and Japanese managed to promote their most violent criminals as cool and iconic....EVERYTHING can become attractive when properly branded.

Black women just need an actual decent promotion and image boost to grind back to the top.

I should add that men actually have a huge responsibility in that branding : male mangaka are those who pulled out this whole culture elevating a whole myth about the japanese girl, Latino did the same about their women.... But since Black men never bothered doing the same, Black women never got access to the same prerogative.

I think Slavery and Colonization fucked Black men beyond repair , because instead of elevating their own (women), bagging 'other'/lighter women got ingrained into their psyche as a social come up. Meanwhile, Black women are left with dust.

Hence the whole resentment of Black women against Black men preferring non Black women - while being gaslighted about other (non Black) men never wanting to date them. So they're fated to be "faithful" to Black men (by refusing to date out) while Black men don't have any issue with interracial dating.... This situation frustrates A LOT of Black women and it's painful to see.

Our only solace is:

Learning to properly brand ourselves

Open our dating option and stop looking for being accepted by men whose preference is elsewhere

Not paying attention to usual gaslighting (black women are undesirable therefore have to settle down with dusties, etc.)

Get comfortable with the idea of remaining single for a long time because the availability of quality men is getting lower

VET every single potential romantic partner. Don't let anyone approach or touch you without being SURE that both of you have commitment in your mind

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That no patience and not needing them part... unapologetically guilty, your honour.

[can08writer]

I dont know if men realize how utterly unattractive it is when they try to compliment one woman by putting down others. I had a man on a dating site talk about how he loves my locs and the fact that I have natural hair and nails and wear minimal makeup, which is fine. Then he goes into a rant about how he doesnt like women who dont have natural hair and how they're fake, and wont let you touch their hair and I'm just like huh? First of all I dont necessarily want someone rubbing their hands in my hair either, but besides that, am I supposed to agree with that mess? I wear my hair natural, but my mom, and sisters, and friends dont. You're insulting most of the black women I know. And does his mom or grandma wear a wig? Cuz he's insulting them too. And God forbid we have a daughter and she wants a perm or weave or whatever, does that mean she's fake too? What if I get older and my locs thin out and I decide to get one of those styles, will I not be attractive anymore? Men like this are not complimenting you, they are just saying you fit their fantasy and the moment you dont anymore they will move on.