We need to talk about tumblr's systematic fatphobia.
Posts of fat people are being marked as "sexual content" even more frequently than they used to, but now we have this fun little addition as brought to my attention by a friend;
That's right. Not just blatant kink-shaming, but now, if you make posts about or with fat people, you can now be flagged as "promoting disordered eating"! Multiple completely innocent posts of fat people literally just existing in their own bodies have already been flagged this way.
Raise hell about it. Reblog and share fat content more than ever. Don't let this shitty website tell you that your bodies are "wrong" or that you aren't allowed to exist publicly.
Tumblr staff, if you care about eating disorders (you fucking don't), stop promoting this sense of shame and fear and disgust towards the idea of weight gain. Stop shaming and censoring people for posting about their own bodies and experiences. Fatphobia kills. Fatphobia causes disordered eating. Fatphobia is the disease you should be worried about.
This has also been disproportionately affecting fat trans people, because of course it has.
Don't stop talking about it. Don't let this bullshit ceo silence you.
one thing about me is i love me some Black Detroit Ballroom & Swing! you always see Black dance couples of all different sizes and shapes just getting down and grooving, i love it.
i really became my ol folks as i get older and i aint mad it, lmao.
Can ya'll please stop saying "feminizing" and "masculinizing" for HRT (or bottom surgery, for that matter?)
Call it androgenizing HRT. Call it estrogenizing HRT. But please stop applying femininity and masculinity to it as an inherent trait.
It's really invalidating for transandrogynous, transneutral, transnull, transgenderless, transxenine, transoutherine, transaporine, and some multigender or mixed gender people who want to transition, and are being grouped into "feminizing" and "masculinizing" categories.
Not to mention intersex people with hormonal variations who need to use HRT. Or altersex/transsex people whose desired sex does not reflect their gender.
Transmasculine and transfeminine people aren't the only ones in this community. Please stop treating transitioning as strictly masculine or feminine.
when i say "there needs to be more body diversity in the marauders fandom" i don't just mean the girls. not every one of the guys need to be thin/toned like at least leave peter who is CANONICALLY FAT alone
every time I have the misfortune of encountering fatphobia (especially with a sprinkle of ableism) in the wild, I try to put out the opposite energy instead, so I'm taking this opportunity to trade my rage for a recommendation:
this is amanda lovelace's latest deck 'chubby witch's night in' which was illustrated by the incomparable @vylirium and published by Andrews McMeel, here are some samples I fell in love with:
I have amanda's other decks, all of them have fat people in them, but this one is specifically depicting fat bodies only and are illustrated by an artist who has been a staple of fat art for a long time
I've had my fair share of decks that turn 'wellness' into fatphobia and ableism and, after last year's deck representation argument fiasco, this deck is such a breath of fresh air
it includes journal prompts, activity suggestions, poetry excerpts by amanda herself, here's a sample:
a no nonsense approach to the subject right out of the gate:
and it's written in a way in which it's made me realize, after pulling one card a couple days ago, how much I am expected to be told off for my body in decks that claim to be 'wellness-related' or 'soft', because this took me out:
I don't tend to share my decks a lot online (maybe I should more, I think tumblr would appreciate the mushroom tarot) but, when I saw hatred disguised as health advocacy in a community I'm in, it inspired me to spread something completely different that I enjoy and find comfort in
thank you amanda and thank you @vylirium ♥
transcriptions of the text under the cut
[I hope the transcriptions of these quotes is permitted, given they are only a small sample of the entire guidebook but, if it's not allowed, let me know and I'll remove them]
poem by amanda lovelace:
i. the steam from my tea.
ii. the clouds in the night sky.
iii. the pillow where I rest my head.
iv. the sheep I count.
v. my heart.
—my thighs are soft like.
quote from the introduction of the guidebook:
"do I have to be chubby to use this deck?"
rest assured, the chubby witch's night in oracle deck is for anyone & everyone to use, should they feel drawn to it! if for some reason you're worried that you won't be able to relate to the characters in these cards because of their body size, then ask yourself why that is. (the society in which we live is fatphobic in ways that might not always be that obvious, so even the most open-minded people can subconsciously carry around fatphobic ideas & messaging. no one is above going within & doing the work to deconstruct these things!)
quote from the card 'you deserve softness':
starting today, be gentler with your body.
it is not its fault that the world is at war with it.
it's just trying to exist, & it deserves to exist where you & other people can see it, so don't hide.
unapologetically give your body the softness & compassion it deserves, no matter what anyone else has to say about it, or what you fear they might say about it. their judgments & their shitty little comments don't hold any importance.
