So I need to scream into a void about being Ace please someone yell back because man I am lost
Ive never really thought about it much because turns out when you lack desire or attraction theres not much reminding you or forcing to process it
But I keep falling into situations where I get very close to a person (this is the third time now), and they get feelings for me, and then everyone in my circle starts pressuring me to get with this person, and then I feel obligated to actually reciprocate when I dont like them like that.
Ive told them im aro/ace, Ive told them I have no desire for relationships, Ive told them I dont feel attraction towards people.
How is it so much more easier to respect someone whos gay, or straight, or just isnt into you? Its hard for me to reject someone because it really isnt a rejection, its just a reality. You wont find anything romantic or sexual here. Its not like I dont like you, but my definition of 'like' is more broad because as a result of not seeing any singular person as more special than the rest, I 'like' everyone. I cant give you what you want, and theres nothing to fix because im not broken and I have no desire for a relationship anyways. Why all of the respect for my identity as an aro/ace person is lost while they also may respect someone who may just not be attracted to a specific gender, or who may just have a specific taste in partner is lost on me.
I think they got that idea because I did have a romantic crush on a guy once. Hes an exception, and it probably wont work out anyways because hes leading on like 3 other guys and hes on the opposite end of me on the intensity scale when it comes to sexuality. But that still doesent automatically mean ill magically gain romantic or sexual attraction for someone and be able to reciprocate, I just liked to think about him because it was something new for me.
Why is it so difficult for someone to wrap their head around 'im not attracted to people'?








