#breakup note

[comedy-bloggery]

Breakup note

[ihateyoujodii]

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I’m not hurt, I’m mad… I gave you everything you’ve ever wanted…. Mentally, physically, emotionally and you betrayed me. I was everything you wanted and asked for and you stabbed me in the back. I try to see you for what you were but I can only see you for what you did. You lied to my face and not for a second felt guilt, you lied to me one thing I asked you to never do. You want to fix it and make changes but I have you forever engraved as a cheater and a liar.. I don’t believe you when you say you care or love me. I believe the person you was with is the person you want or you would've never did it.….

[datamodel-of-disaster]

Workshop this breakup note with me!

I’m writing a reply to Cryptobro’s voice note in which he basically blew up our friendship, which for privacy reasons I can’t share. (I think that’s literally why he only sends voice notes btw.)

Anyway. Feedback welcome!

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You say you felt like I thought being kind or soft was a weakness, that “starved for affection” had some dimension of insult to it. I want you to know that nothing could be less true.

If it is an insult, it is only one to the people in your life who neglected to be kind to you without expectations and didn’t let you be yourself without judgement. You are *deserving* of affection, and to be starved of it is no point against you so much as one against those who withheld it.

Wanting affection without pretence or masking is human, and it’s not weakness, if anything it is the enduring drive of the human soul to be in connection to others. It is strength and will to survive even in a hostile world; it is the part of you that wants to live and thrive. I could never look down on you, or anyone, for that. And I wish you didn’t look down on yourself for it either.

(I called him “starved for affection” and said he only imagined himself in love with me because he hasn’t had enough people who are platonically nice to him in his life. He took this as an insult.)

I’m sad that you think the kind of easy emotional intimacy we’ve shared in the past months is somehow unique to or restricted to romantic relationships. I don’t think we are terrible as friends -I actually think we were having a pretty great time and being a net positive in each other’s lives; at least, that’s how I perceived it. You *were* my friend, and I have come to care quite deeply for you, and nothing about that had a romantic dimension for me. It is my own perception that friendship *should* be an emotional safe zone, and that feeling of closeness shouldn’t be some rare thing limited to a single romantic partner.

(He said we would be terrible as friends and he always imagined more between us, which… sad.)

Your letter made me aware of how you felt however, and I needed to bring it up because I didn’t want to give you false hope. To me, you are a dear friend who I care about and want to support in life, and I never thought or felt like I was using you. But realising you were hoping for something other than friendship made me wonder if you had me “girlfriend zoned”, and over time you’d come to resent me for not reciprocating your romantic affection. Perhaps paranoia, but I’d hate to become a negative in your life.

I brought it up because I care about you. Even if this is the end of our friendship, I would want you to look back on it with fondness and not regret or anger.

(He took me bringing up that I didn’t want him to feel used by me as some kind of confession that I am in fact using him, or that I imagine I’m manipulating him. Which… I get, but also No. No bro.)

To finish up; I would never want you to put on a mask around me. I want you to live unmasked and free and discover what that means for who you are. I want you to be ok, and find happiness, and enjoy your life in all the ways you haven’t let yourself so far.

I respect your need for some space; but know that I’ll be here if you want to talk.

(He mentioned that I was the first person he’d ever felt safe taking off the mask around (referring to neurodivergent stuff but also to pretending to be a kind of person he’s not; I let him be himself, gross housekeeping and odious politics and all, without rejecting him as a human) and that he didn’t want to put it back on. And I’m like… what made you think I want that? What made you think I don’t want you to be happy?)

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If you want context for this drama and feel like a voyeur, you can read the #The Horrible Mr Crypto tag.

Anyway, I do need feedback. Please help me out?

[ohlivvyahh]

These Breakup Letters Are The Best (And Worst) We've Ever Seen

Inspiration for text on imagery and getting the info across. 

[happily-fucked-up-ever-after]

You’re too far away and you don’t understand me. Sorry.

A letter to my ex

[fivefortythreeam]

2:24 am, December 21st, 2015. I can't find a way to express everything that I've been feeling about you. I could make a short film, filled only with shots of myself sitting on the wood floor of my room fiddling with my prom ticket from last year that I kept in my purse for sixth months after we'd broken up. I could write you a letter detailing how I've realized that you mean more to me than anyone else ever has, and that the door will still always be open. Or I could take a picture of the art that you drew that hangs on the walls of my room that we painted last summer. I could sing about how sorry I am for not trying to make things work after five months, and for thinking we could take a break and have it actually mean just a break. Or I could paint a picture of myself sitting in the bathroom of a cold hotel crying during one of our long distance calls where I tried to explain myself. I could try to find chords that sound like the way thousands of memories and a hundred different kinds of happy feel. And I could write a short poem that would only skim the surface of how much I miss you.

[wannahearmysecret]

breakup notes

“i am setting you and myself free...if we end up together in the future so be it...not that i am seeing anyone...its just that i feel like i need to let go of things i have been holding on to for no reasons”

[the-night-writer1]

Obsidian' s note

Dear Josephine I can't be what you want me to be, I'm not human and I'm never gonna be human. I was raised on homeworld you were raised on earth. There's nothing we can do about and nothing will change our pasts sugar. I still love you but I feel you'll have better life without me. Like a family and kids who you can raise to be humans. Honestly I don't know if it's even possible for me to have gemlings with the way I am and how I'm two separate gems forcefully fused together. I mean I don't wanna stop you from having tiny humans or whatever they call gemlings in human. Now it's not your fault Josephine I promise but, I just can't live the way you want me too. Limestone was researcher on gem culture for the love of diamond! How am I suppose to forget all that? Because I can't I have to be a gem and you have to be you I understand that and that's why I left. I'll see you in 1,000 years Josephine. Love Obsidian (Holy carp I did it. pieceofship i did it I wrote the note)