Am i overreacting if i cannot stand my guest anymore?
I have been accommodating a friend from an other city for now 4 weeks and it’s really starting to irritate me. It started when he was wanting to cook everyday but left a big mess every time that i was the only one cleaning up. At some point its was getting so out of hand that the food smell (he over use garlic) was lingering for many days so i had to do a 4hrs deep clean. I didn’t let him cook after that. He cant even clean properly as i seen that when he cleans a pan, he doesn’t clean the handle and leaves it all greasy.
The other thing that is really putting me in a rageful mood is that he uses my towel after he showers(and i wonder if he even uses soap) when he got his own towel that he brought with him. There is a washer and dryer at his disposition if he needs it too.
He one day decided to trim his beard on the toilet sink and i heard him rince it out but when i came in the bathroom i found a bunch of hairs still laying around. An other day he decided to oil up his scalp and then started touching a bunch of stuff with his greasy hands.
Now im starting to get irritated at every little things he does like the way he opens my fridge without using the handle and leaves his greasy hand prints all over, the way he doesn’t use door handles and leaves dirty hand prints on my doors, the way he drips stuff around the house(food and drinks), the fact he puts his stinky feet on my velvet accent armchair.
I finally told him he needs to find new accommodation and he is leaving tomorrow so i am very relieved but im really wondering if i am exaggerating as a host or is this things that a guest should pay attention to… knowing that he literally arrived in a very spotless place to begin with.
Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (100% confidence)
Top comment: “Nor - four weeks is about three weeks longer than even a friend should stay.”
Notable comment: “NOR - I have seen many people be like this, they just don't care about other peoples stuff. I had a few guests who will let their kids break stuff and didnt even check on them what they did. Chocolate hands on the sofa etc. I think it really has to do how some ppl are brought up, they dont really think much of it and dont see what they are doing. I usually say smth right away and then they correct the behaviour.”
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Originally shared by Few-Net-5302 on r/AmIOverreacting on June 4th, 2026 at 6:43 AM UTC. Credit to u/dmada88 and u/MiliChilli for the quoted comments.
