Here’s Why You Shouldn’t Be Worried Or Stressed Out About Your Sexuality
I am currently 18 years old and have been officially a lesbian, cis-gendered, white woman for 2 years now.
As someone who grew up on a hill and only white people in my village, I figured that I was gay seeing as I never really fancied any boys and heterosexual sex wasn’t amazing for me and throughout my life I’d always find myself admiring and loving the females around me. So when I was 16 I came out to my Dad, came out to my friends, and came out to my first ever girlfriend. I was pretty happy with who I was until December 2016.
I broke up with my girlfriend because for the first time in a year and a half I wasn’t sure who I was. I found myself lusting over a boy and finding both genders attractive. I felt as stressed out about my personal identity as I had when I was in middle school. Was I still gay? Was I bisexual now? Was I straight? I constantly kept questioning myself on who I was now. Whenever I found someone attractive - no matter who - I’d start having a mini debate in my mind all over again!
Then I started learning about being polysexual, demisexual, queer, queer romantic and all of that good stuff; I realised something very, very, important in life.
You can be more than one thing in your life. You can change who ou fancy as many times as you bloody well like.
The second I blew my own mind, I’ve never been happier in my life, I see someone I fancy and I’m okay with it. I know I rambling a lot in this post so I hope you carry the message that:
Maybe labels are hindering us more than helping us.
If you’re pessimistic, try having no label and letting yourself be free for a week. Maybe you learn something new about yourself and maybe you realise you know exactly who you are, either way, I wish you the best on your discovery of self and I hope to see you soon!
