#codependent

[yourlocaladhder]

"It's ok to disappoint people." has got to be MOST powerful, life changing advice I have ever heard.

[gravedlullaby]

I adore co dependency. Not being able to breathe without your yan by your side, and they adore that too. Feeding into your co dependency, always making you cling to them like they are your last bit of deprived oxygen

[im-bad-hes-worse]

the winchester boys are terrifying motherfuckers.

if you forget how they were presented to us on supernatural and start thinking of them more realistically, you can almost grasp the full extent of it. they’re scary not just because they’d kill anyone or anything for each other—they’re scary because they wouldn’t hesitate. they’re the last people you’d want to piss off and they almost never miss. if they want something dead, its dead. or it will at least wish it was. they’re the strongest duo, and everyone knows it. they're good at what they do, but all their morals disappear when it comes to each other.

they move through the world like ghosts- appearing in towns just as quickly as they disappear from them. they don’t make much effort to appear normal. they keep to themselves. and you don’t need to hear them speak to know they’re not like other people.

every hunt leaves them with new wounds. nasty gashes, darkening bruises, fresh cuts that bleed into their hair, their clothes. the blood could be theirs. it could be something else’s. all the hotel rooms that cant be accessed without first passing the night shift staff behind a front desk.. they've seen the blood. even when they're presentable the morning after, after they've scrubbed the night off their skin, they're covered in scars. you can hide a lot, but you cant hide every scar. especially not the ones that still itch, still hurt when you scratch them. all the scars that just won't fully heal.

it’s their eyes that unsettle you the most.

if you’re brave enough to meet their gaze, fearful certainty washes over you. it confirms what you likely already assumed; that somethings not right at all about these freaks. they've seen things you know you can't fathom. they're impossible to read, but you're not sure you want to.

then there’s the way they look at each other.

most strangers assume they’re a couple. not because they’re affectionate, (and they are, in their own way,) but because of the way they move. the way the shorter one’s eyes linger possessively on the taller one, the way he looks at him with an unexplainable need. the way their voice drops when they speak, like they're afraid someone might overhear. the way their eyes dart to the same corner of the room when someone speaks just a bit louder than others.

it’s not even romantic, it's something else entirely.

something wrong.

[shepherdsofhaven]

Hey :D I guess this depends on the mc, but --- which of the couples would be most prone to codependency ? 🤔 (most to least, maybe ?)

Yes, this is definitely dependent on the MC, so I'll just list the ROs who are most prone to being codependent with a specific kind of MC! Also, I interpret true 'codependence' as "they need their partner to get things done or are not capable of being separate from their other half very much" to "an unhealthy relationship dynamic in which one or both partners over-relies on the other to meet their emotional needs, to make them feel secure, to fulfill an anxious attachment style, or etc." I don't actually think any of the ROs are prone to that in its truest form, so I'm just going to answer this question as "who's really clingy/attached at the hip with their partner" rather than literally codependent. Hope that's okay!

From most to least, it's:

Briony - Trouble: I think they are most prone to being attached to the hip with their partner and doing everything together and thinking nothing of it! However, I don't think they need to be around their partner 24/7 or need them to get their own independent things done; they just prefer being in their partner's company as much as possible and wouldn't mind if they did everything together! I don't know if that difference is clearto anyone else but me 😂 Anyway, these two would be the happiest doing everything together with their partner!

Shery: Shery is also really happy to do everything with her partner, and in fact might even prefer it more than Briony and Trouble, but also due to the nature of her job and how she runs around as quartermaster, and the fact that she doesn't do field work while MC does, the reality is that she's less prone to this due to the natural circumstances and operates with more independence or is more used to leading her life while MC is away on missions, which is why I place her slightly below them! She's slightly more independent by necessity, is what I'm saying! I also think she'd fare the best out of any of the ROs in a long-distance relationship!

Chase: I wasn't sure where to put him, because I think in an official relationship, he's insanely clingy and wants to be by MC literally all the time and is probably all over them, but prior to an official relationship, he's probably one of the more aloof/enigmatic/he's got to feel the freedom to go off and do his own thing or he'll start to feel claustrophobic and start thrashing around like a panicky wild animal in a cage type... So I literally have no idea. I'll say that he's been actually codependent in the past, so he has the potential to top Briony and Trouble, but it's only after you've gotten through his "I have to feel like I'm free and without attachments or I'll literally die" hangups... lol.

Blade: I think Blade is very happy doing everything with MC if circumstances allow for it, but the reality is that they don't, so he operates with a large degree of independence by necessity. However, he doesn't "need" alone time or independent time or solitude the way one might think. In a relationship, he's actually quite clingy in his own way and always wants to be in MC's vicinity!

Lavinet: I think Lavinet is pretty much on the same level as Blade, and the only reason they're not exactly tied is because I think she can chafe a little bit or feel the need to be independent or do her own thing slightly more than Blade does. Like she'd be happy doing pretty much everything with MC, and would generally prefer it, and you'd get the feeling that they're attached at the hip as a couple, but there are also some things in her life that she keeps partitioned off--like if MC wanted to accompany her on a shopping trip with Prihine or if she wanted to go visit a friend alone, she'd feel a bit smothered, so she does value a little more "doing her own thing" than Blade does. Otherwise I'd say they're pretty much the same!

Red - Ayla: Now we're getting into the companions who actually need a degree of independence and separation in order to have a functioning, healthy romance. I would say Ayla is more in the Chase camp, where she needs to feel like she's free and her own person up until a certain point, and would chafe if there was some unwritten rule like "why'd you go to the store without me, you know I always want to go together"--but after a certain point in the romance, she can also be comfortable with being welded together at the hip too, so the feelings can flip depending on where she's at in her emotional journey and how secure she truly feels. With Red, he loves being with MC the majority of the time, but he also values his own creative pursuits and research time and just some time for him to think or have his own space--I don't think he'd get along very well with an MC who couldn't be alone or apart from him ever!

Riel - Tallys: These two are fiercely independent and really value their own time and space, and would feel very stifled/suffocated by a very clingy or codependent partner who never wanted to be apart. Tallys has lived her own life for so many years that it would be a huge adjustment for her to feel like she no longer has any autonomy and has to be held accountable for everything she does separately from her partner; she values her own freedom and time as much as she values time spent together and affection! Riel literally could not function if he was expected to be with his partner 24/7. He would find it very distracting and I think it could be grounds for a swift breakup if it was a non-negotiable for both parties! 😅 He's of course patient with someone who wants to work through their own codependency issues and is willing to compromise to some degree, but it could be a true incompatibility if their idea of a romantic relationship just looked irreconcilably different!

Because I know someone will ask, I think Halek would go in the Briony - Trouble camp, or possibly the Shery camp depending on the circumstances! Super clingy, and for some reason I can picture him being a patient househusband, just waiting for MC to come home because his life revolves around them now 😂

[smolnerdisms]

Say what you like about me, I do enjoy Bucky and Steve being codependent. It's very delicious, in my humble and deeply personal opinion.

[asrasfanpage]

[abandoned-computer]

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