#coerced

[mycatismyonlyfriendd]

My friends are crazy hello? You leave me out and ask me why do you look so sad, god forbid a girl feels deeply

[that-asian-you-hate]

The coerced religion of Islam breeds hollow faith;

Forced obedience - with threats of being crippled emotionally and physically - can only chain the body, but it will never win the heart. This coerced uniformity bred so many outward adherents, lured in by the aesthetic facade, but have such fragile roots...

Many leave the moment compulsion eases and light is shone at its walls - revealing the cracks.

2005

there were no ex-muslims. No mention of apostasy.

2025

there's now a tsunami, an avalanche of apostasy among muslim youths; cradle muslims and former "reverts", all leaving in droves.

Why? Because the God of Abraham, of Isaac, and of Jacob - NOT the false god of Muhammed - had used the internet as His sword. The lies of Islam can no longer be contained within the lips of imams and scholars.

Coerced religion fostered so many hollow muslims. Some do not even know what they recite; memorized but not understood. Like children babbling a song they only know the sounds and rhythm of.

Those who do understand in the quran either:

stomach it and ride the flow

become extremists

ditch Islam for something better

Islam will not last.

The voluntary devotion of Christianity, however, fostered growth and resilience.

"Whosoever will, let him come." No sword, no mandate - just the gospel offered freely.

And because it's voluntary, those who do follow are anchored deep.

That’s why persecuted Christians throughout history have sung hymns on their way to the stake while Islam has to legislate its survival.

Additionally, since Christianity is wholly voluntary, any Christian's act of emulating the founders - the early Christians - (thru attire, language, dietary restrictions, mannerisms) without coercion, is more telling of their devotion than anything;

they are willing to take on restrictions or practices that are no longer required as a way to express their love for the faith - to truly set themselves apart, with cheerful hearts nonetheless.

A Christian woman veils because she loves Christ. Not because her family threatened to disown her for lack of modesty.

A Christian man abstains from alcohol not because Christian law demands it - on threat of jail time - but because he wishes to honor the temple of God, which is his body.

A Christian family might now and then offer a burnt sacrifice - a slab of steak - on a small garden altar, not because it is expected of them, but because they wish to give something back to the Lord.

No threats. No stoning. No honor killings.

Just true love and meaningful devotion - as intended by Jesus Christ, who, by God's grace, had set us free.

2000 years of Christian history and nothing has ever been able to smother it. Not even persecutions from Islamist.

Why? Because there's no coercion. The gospel need only be planted in the hearts of hearers and readers, and it will grow. The willing will come, and the church will spring back up.

[5ellaal5]

I shared this with two people yesterday, while i was taking a class on BDSM negotiation, so maybe Tumblr needs it too?

Thing is: this is about sex and intimacy… but consent also refers to complying with political movements and group pressure. So it’s worth thinking about. There will be things we will be willing to consent to, or things we’ll be unwilling to do but consent to anyway. And things we’ll be coerced to do. So it’s worth thinking about.

And also… fascists and autocrats and the far right don’t like negotiation and collaboration and nuance. They like binaries like Yes - No, or Mine - Off Limits.

In fact, this sort of considerate nuance about consent probably falls under what they label Obscenity and Pornography.

Fight fascism. Be nuanced, and experience joy and connection!

Consent is about negotiation.

Consent 101 is Enthusiastic Yes and all else is No.

Gold standard, yes?

Except for people with Responsive Desire or who are on the Asexual spectrum or who like the bonding aspects of intimacy.

Consent 201 understands is on a spectrum.

Enthusiastic > Willing >>> Unwilling >>>>> Coerced

Excerpt from this article below the cut:

Enthusiastic, Willing, Unwilling, Coerced

Consent, in the context of sex worth having

Enthusiastic consent:

When I want you.

When I don’t fear the consequences of saying yes OR saying no.

When saying no means missing out on something I want.

Willing consent:

When I care about you, though I may not desire you (right now).

When I fear or dread the consequences of saying no and I don’t fear the consequences of saying yes. (E.g., “If I say no, it will hurt their feelings, and if I say yes, they’ll be happy and the sex will be just fine.”)

When I expect that desire will begin after I say yes.

Beyond willing consent, I think there are some more problematic experiences of consent, which I’ll describe, to help differentiate them from this thing I want to call “willing consent.”

Unwilling consent:

When I fear the consequences of saying no more than I fear the consequences of saying yes. (E.g, “If I say no, their feelings will be hurt, and if I say yes they’ll be glad… though the sex will not be something I’m comfortable with, physically and/or emotionally… but I’m used to prioritizing my partner’s comfort and convenience over mine, so…”)

When I feel not just an absence of desire but an absence of desire for desire.

When I hope that by saying yes, you will stop bothering me, or that if I say no you’ll only keep on trying to persuade me—i.e., when I’m exhausted from trying to defend my “no.”

I would call unwilling consent “consent in name only.” It’s consent because the person says “yes,” and so technically, legally, somebody could make a case that it was “consensual.”

But is this the kind of sex you want to be having? Do you want your partner drag themselves unwillingly to the bed because they’d rather say yes rather than keep fighting to protect their no? In short, is that really sex worth having? Why not just masturbate on your own and then snuggle with your certain special someone, rather than pressure them into something they’re really not interested in doing? I ask these questions of the person whose partner is unwilling.

Coerced consent:

When you threaten me with harmful consequences if I say no.

When I feel I’ll be hurt if I say yes, but I’ll be hurt more if I say no

When saying yes means experiencing something I actively dread.

Now it’s perfectly legitimate to say that coerced consent is no consent at all. And yet I personally know of a case where the jury had to decide whether or not it constituted “consent” that a woman who had been raped had asked the perpetrator at least to use a condom.

“Of course that’s not consent,” you think, but it is a complicated question, legally. And I think a lot of consent education is more or less instructions in how to “get consent” from someone—“make sure you get consent,” the sex educator says. And so you pester the person and plead and emotionally bribe and eventually threaten them until they say yes. So you “got consent.”

Welcome to the difference between a legalistic approach to consent versus a real-world “sex worth having” consent.

There is a great podcast episode about this also, wherein Emily helps a couple explore their ambivalent consent to attend a queer orgy!

Emily answers a question from her producer, Mo, about consent. Mo and her girlfriend are considering a new sexual experience but they’re not

[breenova222]

Good girls wear cute panties

[manicbucket]

Help my friend!, organized by Waiza R.

Hello beautiful people! First, thank you for taking the time to read through this. My friend (whose name… Waiza R. needs your support f

Hey friends, it’s been a minute. I know the there’s so much shit going on in the world and on your dash right now but if you’ve ever wanted to make a difference in a persons life, please don’t scroll past this.

My sweet, kind, beautiful friend’s future is hanging by a thread. She needs to get out of her country ASAP. She doesn’t have a voice where she is (Pakistan) and she is being coerced into a marriage.

I have a place for her to stay in my home and we’ve been working hard the past year to figure out a plan to get her on her feet.

But first, she needs to get here.

And that requires a huge lump sum that we just don’t have.

If you have just $5 to spare, could you throw it in this GoFundMe and give my friend a chance to live a life on her own terms?

[adelaidegarden]

Unlocking his brain

I want him to like cock. Not only to like it, but to crave it. Why do I want that ? Because I know it's the ultimate barrier he will need to cross over to unlock a new dimension in his mind. His primitive slut brain which needs to be stimulated.

So of course I'm brainwashing him to crave cock. Watching him getting gang-banged will be a true delight, for me. I will sit on a chair, sip my wine, and watch the show.

He's not there yet. He will be. For now, I'm making him watch the Eurovision. It's all part of the plan.

[pro-birth]

Choosing Life | Who Is My Neighbor?

As a Poor Young Mom, I Wasn’t “Having Too Many Kids.” I Was Choosing Life.

A woman who grew up in poverty shares how counseling for abortion and sterilization did nothing to help her get out of poverty, but support from people who cared did so much more.

When discussing birth control and abortion as “tools” to “help” those who are struggling, we risk reducing their problems to their gonads and turning children into convienent scapegoats. Deciding when to be a parent is one thing — insisting that children are the problem is another.

[lifesmanga]