Ever Thine, Ever Mine, Ever Ours
This is not a vow, this is not a promise, this is just a description of me, what can be expected from me, and how I wanted to be treated.
I'm not your mother who can take on every tantrum and every sh*t then forgive you in a blink.
I'm a human with feelings even though I sometimes I tend to hide it. I'm not a person who raised you or grows up with you that you can expect to understand everything about you. I'm a stranger who happen to find you and decide to grow old with you.
I'm not your paid maid who you can order or tell me to do things or to serve you as you are my master.
I'm a person who need someone to take care of me as you are a person who also need to be taken care of. I'm your partner as you are my partner. I care about you and willing to take care of you with all my capabilities but never to take me for granted and demean me.
I'm not a fan of bunches of children. I do want to have children. But never said it's MY children
I will do my part to be the one who carried them for 9 months, and raised them. Remembering it is an adult rational decision to have those children between you and I, the responsibility must also be shared. It is not only MY children, it is also YOURS so never said it is mine or yours because it it OUR children.
I'm may not become a 24 hours housewives or dealing with domestic stuff for 24 hours. I may assigned other to help me in domestic part and need to share some part to raise OUR children with my partner.
During the day I may be busy with my career or business and may not be physically there with our children. I'm a hardworking person who believe in dreams and to pursue it as we live. Of course, I will put my family first on my priority, sacrifices must be made, decide wisely on difficult choices. OUR children may not see me physically during the day (virtually perhaps through video call thanks to high technology) but I will make everything I do meaningful and give our children the real example that they can reach their dreams as I successfully reaches mine.
Even though we are together, we do find comfort in each other at the end of the day, there will be easy times and tough times where the comfort may not enough and I may not have all the answers.
No matter how difficult the situation is, I am the partner who will always support you on your tough times, to support your action and decision for the sake of our family.
Above it all, my demands and expectation from YOU is quite simple.
Love come and goes, You are not my Father who can love me unconditionally without any infidelity issue. You can really love me but there are times where you can also hates me, and perhaps other women that can attract you more than I do. But YOU have commitment with me, for all I know is that you must stick to the responsibility of that commitment whether love still around or not, cuz I believe love can be grown from time to time.
No matter how independent I am, how strong I can take on the world alone, how confidence I am to live on my own foot. You will always be there to protect me from in this world. To protect, not to posses, to take me as you're responsibility to be taken care of, without taking my independence away.
