It’s really scaring me, the way that people out here, in much much higher numbers AND amounts in one person, seem to have not just like. Literacy issues, but even BASIC COMPREHENSION issues when speaking and listening (barely) to you.
At work I ask a simple either/or question all day every day. Would you like to (x) or (y). I get told “No” almost every time. Because all that they listened to were the first few words, IF that.
One coworker of mine among a sea of WASPs is a black fella and he asked how I was today. I started out by mentioning having trouble adjusting since moving— then I told him straight up and mentioned my family and cultural differences being an issue since moving out here. And was like “Idk how you do it out here man.” He just said (paraphrasing but barely) that his daughter is real crazy and different like that and he could understand… …… ……………. ………………………. I didn’t say *I* was different, my personality (though it is). I was talking about much bigger factors here
I get that people avoid direct conversation but it legit felt like every other convo I have out here. With anyone of any background
Like listening is NOT happening and people lack even a basic vocabulary to boot…? Like I truly don’t know how I can speak (or write) so plainly and simply and still run into this again and again and again and again. This has never happened anywhere else I have lived.
I am not remotely using my full vocabulary or anything. And this still happens. It’s like they just give up. Seconds in. Or… Before even starting.
I am only like half an hour outside of the city, living here. A pretty similar/nearly the same amount with other places, before, too, though…so….
Like new levels of denseness and even like. Uncuriosity. Lack of desire to even HAVE the conversation that we are having.
Not to even get into the people I live with….
