#dear steph

[slowsweetlove]

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Thank you Steph❤️

Waking up to this message was a nice way to start the weekend.

[inevitably-johnlocked]

(1 of 2)Hello! As one of the prominent aces of the fandom, I was wondering if you would know more about or just understand something I have trouble articulating. I am ace but enjoy physical affection as long as it does not become overtly sexual. I wanted physical affection and to have a close relationship with someone and the nice, fluffy feeling they bring me and accepted an acquaintance's offer of a date. He tried to pressure me into sex. I refused and told my friend and her husband about it.

2 of 3)They offered to be in I guess the terminology is a queerplatonic relationship with me and the plan is to talk about it in a couple of days. I like this idea but I’ve never been in a relationship before (the above date was my first) especially not one which I am given to understand is harder to navigate than one between two unattached people. I don’t know how to go about articulating what I want or where my boundaries and desires are. Do you have any advice for me or know anyone who might?

(3 of 3. Sorry about numbering weirdness. I thought it would fit in two)I feel completely out of my depth. Thank you and you’re awesome.

Oh, my lovely, I am far from a prominent voice in this fandom, but I am so honoured you think so. <3

I feel awful because I have never been in a relationship and this is really out of my depths, so I am going to do my best to answer this as I would answer to my best friends when they come to me for relationship advice.

Just be honest and upfront with them; state your boundaries from the get go, maybe start up a conversation to discuss if they truly understand what asexuality is. Remember that they need to respect you to make it a relationship that you both can be happy in. Do not let them pressure you into anything you are uncomfortable with, but also remember to listen to what they need as well.  The problem I’ve learned while on my discovery into asexuality, and something I recently realized I’ve experienced in my past, is that people think they can “fix” you, that you are broken, and that you just haven’t found the right one.

THERE IS NOTHING TO FIX. YOU DON’T NEED TO CHANGE. YOU ARE NOT BROKEN.

You may one day develop sexual feelings (demisexuality) and you may not, and that doesn’t make you any more or less a person and what you identify as. 

It took me FOREVER to realize that orientations for gender, sexuality and romanticism may not generally “line up”, and then to finally find something that described me; I’m STILL figuring it out, but I’m making it through slowly. 

A good relationship is about open and honest communication, and if you start that from the get-go, then it just becomes a second-nature thing for you both.

Sorry I’m not much help, lovely, and never apologize :) Anyone else able to offer some advice?

[mcr-lesbian]

things I have accomplished this month:

my sister watching supernatural

my sister reading supernatural fanfiction

my sister thinking sam is hot

my sister thinking cas is hot

my sister freaking out if they get hurt

my sister IS NOW A SUPERNATURAL FAN

[wafflesandbatgrenades-blog]

If the only Bat-costumes left in the world were Jason's old fishscale panties outfit and Dick's disco getup, and you and Jason were the only vigilantes left in the world, which one would you pick? Do you think you would have to fight him for it?

I’d take Dick’s disco garb…ONLY so Jason had to wear the undies. ‘Cause that’d totally make my day! 

I might, but it’d be totally worth it! 

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Would you go on a date with Deadpool?

I heard a nasty rumor that guy is a pancake-lover, I’m not sure we’d have much in common! 

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Which do you prefer, warm or cold weather?

I prefer warm but let’s face it - I’m from Gotham, I’m used to the cold. 

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Do you suppose you would do as well going undercover as a boy as Tim did when he pretended to be a girl?

Caroline was pretty hot - she had a nice rack. I still think I could out do him! 

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If you had to wear one of the boys' costumes for a day, which would you pick?

Well, as much as I love Tim - his costume choices leave something to be desired. Dick’s is pretty rad - especially with a little color change. I’d have to go with Jason though, just because….this.