if you are looking at a straight person or couple and judging them on their sexuality, perhaps even insinuating they are irrelevant or shouldn’t exist, you are doing exactly the same thing you say you hate done to you; you are being that person to them
if you look at a white person and have opinions about their character before they’ve shown it to you (for example, by assuming they’re racist), you are being racist: judging a person for their race or skin colour
if you create ‘spaces’ that are safe for some, but not for others, you have done to others exactly what you hated done to you and felt it necessary to create spaces for- only to perpetuate the cycle of excluding some and alienating others. are you really what you think you are? have you done it any differently than those you claim to be this way because of?
what it comes down to is: are you being who you want to be, or being a reaction to people you suppose exist (& of course, if you can imagine it, it exists, but is it what you want to give your attention, of this infinite buffet?) who might judge you for being that? are you living out of love or spite? are you using ‘those people’ as an excuse to be ‘those people’ to them or others? are you really breaking any cycle?
what it really comes down to is: you live in the world you believe in. if you want to believe every person is against you, your race, or your sexuality, you can find plenty who are, and fill all your time with them. or you could do the opposite. how are you choosing to spend your life, moment by moment, thought by thought? how are you choosing to spend your attention: on things that make you smile, or things that make you sour? your life is the sum of all of those moments, will your lemonade be bitter, or sweet? you are drinking it now.