Moving on from some of the heavy topics that took place here yesterday… time to fully embrace who I am, and share it with the world! Here is a full list of my orientations and genders! I hope it can make someone else as happy as it makes me.
“Omniromantic is an orientation defined as the romantic attraction to all genders, though gender often still plays a role in one's attraction. Some individuals who identify as omniromantic may have a preference to which gender they feel most attracted to. For others they may be equally attracted to all genders, but they may feel the act of being attracted to one gender feels different than the act of being attracted to another gender. They might also find certain traits only attractive in certain genders.”
I am omniromantic! It admittedly took me a long time to figure this one out. For a while, I thought I was bisexual, then demisexual/panromantic, now I’ve finally figured out who I really am. Greyasexual, and omniromantic! Out of all the multiple-gender-attraction labels… biromantic, panromantic, polyromantic, etc… I truly feel like this one describes me exactly. I am romantically attracted to all genders, however, I am not gender-blind and gender does play a pretty big role in my attraction. There are different things I like in each gender!
“Gray-asexual,[21] also known as graysexual or gray-A,[21][22][23][24] is an asexual identity characterized as being "in between" asexual and allosexual; that is, being asexual while also able to experience, or have experienced previously, sexual attraction.[21] People who identify as gray-asexual may experience sexual attraction that is uncommon for the individual, may only be directed toward specific people,[25] occurs infrequently, at low intensity, or in an ambiguous way.[5][26] The term is often included in the asexual spectrum.[27]”
I am greyasexual! And it’s not too complicated either, I understand exactly where I fall on the ace spectrum. I am almost exactly like the demisexual label’s description, however, there are minor differences between me and that label. Because of those minor differences, I consider myself greyasexual instead. Sometimes I may introduce myself as “demisexual” to new people, to avoid any confusion, but I never use the demisexual pride flag to represent myself. This is my flag, this is me!
“Non-binary, sometimes written as nonbinary, is a term referring to individuals whose gender identity does not exclusively fall into the binary gender classification of only "man" or "woman." Those who are non-binary may identify with either masculinity or femininity in some capacity, both, or neither at all.[2] Although it is a gender identity on its own, it can also be used as an umbrella term to refer to many gender identities.[3] While non-binary is included in the transgender umbrella, not all non-binary people identify as transgender.[4]”
I am non-binary! This is what I introduce myself as to most people, so I don’t confuse the hell out of them with all the specifics, lol. If I had to put my gender on a “scale”… weighing what percentages I am, I’d say that I’m 30% feminine, 50% agender/xenogender, and 20% fluid. That may not be exact, of course… but it’s just an estimate of how I feel the vast majority of the time. Despite the percentages, I still get really dysphoric when someone uses very feminine phrases for me. As for my AFAB body, I go through phases of loving it, tolerating it, or hating it. Depends on the day.
“Demifaer is a gender which is partially static and partially fluid. The fluid part of the gender fluctuates between identities which are never fully male, however, they can be masculine, partially male, or male-aligned. The static part of the gender is undefined, and can be anything, so it varies from individual to individual.”
To pinpoint exactly where I fall on the non-binary spectrum, I’d say “demifaer” describes me the most accurately, out of everything I’ve found! As I stated before, 30% feminine, 50% agender/xenogender, and 20% fluid. This label kinda sums that up into a more simple term. As for percentages between my xenogenders, I feel them all equally and can’t put that on a scale personally. They’re ordered first identified > last identified.
“Ageregender is an umbrella term for those whose gender either entirely, partially, or temporarily changes when they regress. It can be used regardless of gender modality; however, it is exclusive for age regressors.”
I am ageregender! This means that my gender partially changes when I age regress! This is one of the reasons I’m 20% fluid. When I’m big, I’m more androgynous, but when I’m little, I’m more feminine! I heavily associate femininity with my childhood, so I think that’s why this happens? I actually don’t know, that’s just my theory about it for now.
“Genderfluff, also known as fluffgender, is an aesthetigender that is light, soft and fluffy or related to fluffiness or fluffy things. It can make one feel warm and fuzzy inside. It could also mean having an attachment to pastel femininity, as well as fluffiness. Fluffiness includes fluffy pillows or plushies as well.”
I am genderfluff! Here’s where things get a little weird, at least for those who aren’t already really familiar with xenogenders. It’s hard to describe, but whenever I see something fluffy or soft, I’m just immediately like… “This is a part of me. This is a part of who I am.” and it’s the strangest feeling ever. It just feels like… it is my gender. I feel it the most with stuffed animals, but also soft/fluffy animals, blankets, clouds, and more. Animals include, but are not limited to… kittens, bunnies, puppies, sheep, and cows.
“Milkibubblic is an aesthetigender related to childishness, pastel blue and blowing bubbles in milk. It is a soft, sweet, gentle gender.”
I am milkibubblic! This relates to all kinds of milk, not just cow milk. Examples include but are not limited to chocolate milk, strawberry milk, vanilla milk, goat milk, sheep milk, coconut milk, cashew milk, almond milk, and oat milk. Not just that, but the bubbles too? This is definitely me, ever since I was 2 years old. My username is bappledilk for a reason, hehehe.
“Genderwinged is a gender that feels like a pair of wings, always attached to one's body and behind them. This may be affected by phantom wings, but not always. Ways to describe this gender can be light, fluttery, feathered, inhuman and weighted.”
I am genderwinged! Well, at least I think I am, lol… Admittedly, I’m not as sure about this one as the others. I’ve been questioning it for a while, but I’m not necessarily sure? My wings are definitely a very important part of my identity, but does that include my gender too? I don’t 100% know yet. I’m trying this label out to see how I feel about it. Take this one with a grain of salt.
“Genderplated is a gender related to the scales (also known as plates) of various creatures, mythical or not. Examples include but are not limited to reptiles, dragons, and fish. This gender may feel soft, shiny, light, flexible, and strong. Someone who is genderplated may be otherkin, but it’s not a requirement.”
And finally, we have the gender I coined! I am genderplated! I was searching for a gender label related to reptiles, both real/mythical, and I didn’t feel fulfilled by anything I found. I found some that were almost right, but not exactly. After my lack of success in finding a label, I coined my own. Specifically, related to the scales on various creatures, including mythical reptiles such as dragons. It also includes fish! This one is probably the weirdest on this list, but it’s definitely me.
Disclaimer: All labels have wiki pages somewhere, as demonstrated by the various links… except for the last 2!
So, that’s all! That’s a part of my identity. I’m really scared to post this, as I’ve kept it a secret from the public for quite a while now… but I think it’s finally time I rip that bandaid off and put it out there, because hiding it for this long is honestly really tiring, haha… It seemed to work out with my otherkinity, so I’m hoping it will work out with my gender too. :’)
I hope you found it interesting or learned something that helped you! Thank you so much if you read all of this and goodbye!
