#drama triangle

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Have you ever heard of a drama triangle? If you're a survivor of narcissistic abuse, you've probably been in one.

A drama triangle is a narrative that emotionally immature people, like narcissistic abusers, concoct to garner attention or get their way. Within the drama triangle, there are three roles to play, the victim, the villain and the saviour. They will try to suck you into a drama triangle by using emotive language.

"How could you do this to me? I'm so heartbroken I could die." - the fastest way to set up a narrative where you are the villain and they are your victim.

"What a horrible situation you're in, I'm going to save you." - this is when they want you to be the victim so they can play the saviour.

"You're a stupid piece of shit. My life would be better if you weren't in it" - playing the villain feels powerful, casting themselves as one while they victimise you is the easiest way to stir up drama.

React wrong and oops, you're stuck.

Wherever you can, try to stay out of the drama triangle. It fucks with your self esteem and your self perception. Just imagine how limited your life would be if you felt like a victim who needed saving all the time. Or what you'd think about yourself if you always felt like the villain. That's what this type of emotional abuse does to you long term.

Think back on all the times they've done this and find patterns. When do they usually do it? What role do they like to play? What narratives do they like to use? Once you've figured out how they do it you can spot it again in the future, and when you do, don't play into it. Grey rock, disengage, don't give them what they want and shut that shit down.

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The Drama Triangle: How We Get Trapped in Playing the Roles of Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor

"The Drama Triangle" is an important model for understanding how drama tends to unfold and how to stop it in its tracks.

Learn more here!

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The Drama Triangle: How We Get Trapped in Playing the Roles of Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor

The "Drama Triangle" is a great framework for analyzing how drama unfolds in our lives. People tend to fall into certain roles such as "victim," "rescuer," and "persecutor." Which role do you usually play?

Read more here

[theemotionmachine]

The Drama Triangle: How We Get Trapped in Playing the Roles of Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor

The "Drama Triangle" is a great framework for analyzing how drama unfolds in our lives. People tend to fall into certain roles such as "victim," "rescuer," and "persecutor." Which role do you usually play?

Click here to read more!