#etiquitte

[spoonmoment69420]

Bouquet !! It's what I gave to you and the only reason I can spell it is bc it is spelled very similar to tourniquet

Bouquet!! A buncha flowers!! ^_^

[alex2xander]

Friendly Reminder:

Sometimes you will encounter aggressive people. It is not your job to calm them down. It is not your responsibility to fix someone else's mood. You do not exist to fix other people.

Take a step back from the situation and think about why they are bringing their aggressive feelings into your environment. Remind yourself that they control their own feelings and they then choose how to act based on their internal emotions. They are responsible for the way they treat you.

Healthy people do not take their aggression out on others. Healthy people express their frustration in a way that does not hurt others. Healthy people take the time to introspect and examine why they are acting aggressively so they do not hurt others in the future.

Before you engage in a discussion while upset with their perspective ask yourself:

Have they shown me the same level of kindness and respect I have given them

Have they taken the time to clearly express their point of view and are they now listening to what I have to say

Do I feel like talking with this person will benefit both of us in a positive way. Will we learn from this experience

Am I in a good mental head space to have a serious discussion with another person while managing my internal emotions

Are my emotions justified in this circumstance and will I agree with my opinions once I am calm

Am I typing this in a respectful manner that shows this person that I can have a calm discussion with them (No CAPS LOCK)

Will this discussion have consequences in the future if I were to say something I have not fully thought out

Would responding to this person lead to worsening the situation

Remember you do not have to change someone's mind. You are not obligated to convince them of your perspective. Educating people and informing them of the way you think takes a lot of mental time and effort.

Formulating thoughts and expressing them in an debate can be mentally draining so please step away if it becomes too much.

Dont waste it on someone who is not meeting your bare mimunim requirement levels of kindness and politeness. You don't have to tolerate that from others online. Block people if you feel like your mental health is being damaged by their actions.

[hoopdiddydoodles]

Let’s play a little Inktober catch-up! I’m sorry I’m so lousy at scanning these in... Anyhow, here’s day 15, 16, 17,18, and 21. “Mysterious”, “fat”, “graceful”, “filthy”, and “furious”. Enjoy!

[mysticdragon3md3]

Sleeping Beauty/Social Etiquette by Pat Mandzly

[mysticdragon3md3]

Another reason why I'm anxious about leaving the house.🙃

[mysticdragon3md3]

📝⚡️👻👁...

I'm sorry. But sometimes i do need to process and post about things i dislike. I used to repress all my bad fandom thoughts, and never post them. And y'know what? Not only was that unhealthy, but i learned a lot about myself by exploring the whys behind my dislikes. Just like i learned a lot about myself by exploring the whys behind my likes. Jungian Shadow introspection, and all that.

I just make sure to follow etiquitte about posting about my dislikes:

Don't use tags commonly seen by fans of the disliked thing.

As much as possible, use your own made-up tags that do not include the name of the disliked thing. For example, "#begonedetectiveprince2" is better than "#GoroAkechiCritical".

Don't ever comment character-hate onto a post that is clearly about loving that character. Same for ships, series, etc.

Don't make your dislikes your entire personality. Make sure to also post about your likes.

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Beginning to think every convention should have a panel explaining etiquitte in the con, towards cosplayers, towards artist alley artists, towards guests of honor, and in panels.