I would generally say that I'm antitheist; I don't agree with religions and religious ideas (at least the ones that i'm usually encountering) and I think people shouldn't hold these ideas. But I don't hate religious people, like I see so often in antitheist communities.
I don't believe any of these religious people is fully at fault. I think they're all victims on some level. Letting go of what you believe is a really hard thing to do, especially if it's what was in your schooling, what your friends believe in, what your parents believed in, what your president believes in, what your church believes in, if it's what you've mistakenly tied your self worth to.
Some people are less victims than others, of course. As you get older, you're more responsible for your beliefs and actions, especially if you're actively spreading them.
But in an ideal world, these people would've been born in better homes to better communities, in a better culture, and when they encountered these ideas they would've seen them for what they are.
So many of us antitheists were theists once and you need to try and be the person that you needed then, the person that you wish could've been there.