To all parents out there: I beg you
Thursday, 16 January 2020, 7:31PM
Just a little background, I had a short conversation with my dad a while ago through text. My parents are not legally separated and they have been living apart from each other for almost 13 years (turning 13 on September or November). We all knew how dad loves our mother. That even our mother was cheating on him on several and multiple occasions, he still accepted and loved her to the point of his own destruction. Even now, I guess, that we have all moved on, I guess my dad still hasn’t. It saddens me to realize how stupid and asshole our mother is for taking for granted someone who loves her more than she did.
I now understood that people who reason out “financial problems” as the cause of their separation only wanted to be away from their legal spouses so they can freely do whatever they want in life without the guilt of cheating on them. What is more unacceptable is bringing your children with you to witness every stupidity you will make in life and trying to defend yourself that you are working your whole life for them. I realized also that parents tend to get mad at their children when they realized that their children are no longer “children”, and they are finally realizing all your mistakes in life, and every thing you have done that contributed to their forever unresolved traumas.
To all parents and future parents, I hope you realize that even though there is no seminar or training on how to be a parent, I hope you realize that the moment you decided to bear a child in this world, you finally accepted that every single move, word, behavior, attitude, everything, you will do in your life will GREATLY and IMMENSELY affect your children. You are no longer free to do whatever you just want in life. So assess yourselves. If you have unresolved conflicts in your early lives, if you know deeply with yourselves that you cannot be a parent, for your children’s sake, don’t bring them into this world only for them to suffer the consequences of your actions. You do not have the slightest idea how you can easily and forever destroy your children.
Children who are forever destroyed and traumatized by parents who promise not to let their children experience what they had but still did.
