#flashback mention

[raisans-art]

[in regards to the last comic about Zed asking for impulse after he froze up in The Chamber] Is there something about Impulse that makes him more trustworthy than Tango in situations like that? Perhaps, does it have to do with the fact that Tango was, perhaps, one of the scientists that did experiments on him in the beginning? Or is it something else?

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Yeah, Tango in particular walked out with a bit more baggage tied to him from both parties.

[trauma-culture-is]

trauma culture is your parents using the fact that you have a poor memory to deny that they used to treat you like shit when you were a kid (both in a physical and emotional way) so now when you get flashbacks from your childhood youre not sure if these things really did happen or if it was just a weird fever dream, like it all seems so real and looking back at it makes me uncomfortable but if they keep saying 'oh we would never do that to you youre just making that up to make us look bad!!!!' then did it REALLY happen......?

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[hurting-fictional-people]

Hi different anon here, but I absolutely loved your twins whump (with girl whumpee and boy caretaker) If I could ask you for part two please? With protective caretaker maybe?? Thank you! Coincidentally I have twin oc's and it gives me ideas 👀👀

aah, I'm so glad you loved it!! here you go anon, I hope this gives you very mean ideas hehe <3

(here is the first list of twin whump ideas)

Whumper tortures Whumpee in front of Caretaker. Caretaker begs and screams the entire time, until his voice is gone and Whumper still doesn’t stop, delighting in both their screams while they last, and then in Whumpee's cries and Caretaker’s choked sobs when his voice is too ragged to be heard anymore

Caretaker telling Whumpee her favorite story from their childhood to distract her from the pain/fear/nightmares

Alternatively: Caretaker telling her a funny story from their childhood to distract her, and making her laugh. But her ribs are hurt or she has open wounds, and the laughter is followed by a pained gasp that shatters his heart

Whumpee pretends to be okay in front of Caretaker, because she knows how devastated her twin is to see her in pain. She only allows herself to cry at night, when she knows he’s already asleep. But Caretaker hasn’t slept well since their capture, and every night he listens to her crying and pretends not to, because even though it tears him apart to let her suffer in silence, he knows that thinking he’s buying into her Nothing Is Wrong act makes her stronger, and they both need as much strength as they can get to face this

Caretaker becomes so desperate when Whumper tortures Whumpee in front of him, that he ends up even more bloodied than her from pushing so hard and for so long against the restraints that they cut deep into his skin

This one could go for either captivity or after rescue: Caretaker holding Whumpee in his arms, and rocking her slowly back and forth like their parents used to do to calm them down when they were kids, whispering against her hair about better times in a futile attempt to take her away from the pain as she nuzzles up against his chest and pretends it works

In case you're not thinking about captivity: Whumpee gets hurt and tries to pretend there's nothing wrong, but Caretaker knows her since always and it takes him one look at her to know something happened, and barely five minutes to get the truth to spill out of her mouth. And then, after he takes care of her, Caretaker goes after Whumper to make them pay

Alternatively: twins that haven't seen each other for years because of a fight, but as soon as Whumpee gets badly injured she shows up at Caretaker's door with blood on her clothes and tears in her eyes, and he doesn't think twice before helping Whumpee inside and taking care of her like nothing ever changed between them. And of course, when she is asleep and her wound is dressed, he goes after Whumper >:)

And for recovery! After the whump happens, sometimes Whumpee stares off into space with a lost expression, and Caretaker immediately knows where her mind’s gone. So he rushes to her whenever it happens, takes her somewhere safe and softly talks her out of it. It happens when they are in public a few times, and though he gets side-eyes for acting like his sister’s eyes going a little unfocused is the end of the world, they aren’t the ones who hear her scream in her sleep or watched her thrash and plead for mercy. So Caretaker runs, and knows he’s done the right thing when Whumpee blinks teary eyes at him and buries her head into his chest

(back to captivity scenario) Caretaker can’t sleep well after the rescue, because he is constantly worried about his sister, and when he does, it’s to wake up with nightmares of her being hurt again, and him being helpless to stop it once more.

And a little dialogue since I did one in the first part too:

“Do you think I’ll ever go back?” she whispers idly one night, the room too dark for him to see her but her voice soft enough for Caretaker to know what Whumpee is talking about.

He still asks it though.

“What do you mean?”

“Go back to who I used to be.”

“Oh, Whumpee,” Caretaker sighs, closing his eyes for a moment against the tears that well up, and quietly getting up from his bed to lie down next to her, pulling Whumpee into his arms and hugging tight as her silent tears soak into his shirt. It doesn't take long for his cheeks to be wet too.

[rhythm-gaming-culture-is]

rhythm gaming culture is "self care is playing a rhythm game on your switch while also watching a video on your phone in order to prevent yourself from Experiencing Thought because you're in the middle of an emotional flashback and need distraction constantly at every moment"

[lukesunbornn]

hey i get that you have a complicated tagging system to fit your aesthetic or whatever but that does not apply to trigger warnings. if you reblog a triggering post you need to use common tags. people’s filters don’t block out the uncommon tags, you are literally causing panic attacks and flashbacks

[abused-sides]

How would Remus or Janus respond to Virgil having a flashback or attack?

Trigger warnings: This au follows the sides as abuse survivors. Also, obviously, tws for panic attacks and flashbacks. 

Remus’ first instinct to panic attacks is very similar to Roman’s, in which he immediately takes Virgil into his arms and covers him as much as possible. Virgil grips Remus’ shirt in his fists and buries his face in Remus’ chest, and they stay like that until Virgil feels safe again. 

For flashbacks, he grips Virgil’s hands and just kind of rambles to him, hoping something he says catches Virgil’s attention and brings him back to the present. 

Janus’ reaction to panic attacks is to let Virgil take the lead, which usually results in a similar position of just holding him until he feels safe again. 

For flashbacks, Janus figures Virgil can only come out of it on his own, so he just stays close, makes sure Virgil doesn’t hurt anyone (including himself), and comforts/reorientates him when he comes out of it. 

[brownshouto]

The constant “nerfing” of Todoroki through trauma flashbacks that do not lead to him being helped or noticed by anyone are nothing but narrative punishment for being traumatised, specially when these flashbacks that interfere with what he wants to do are put in direct contrast to the narrative push to forgive his abuser.

Basically the “get over your trauma by forgiving or lose” is fucking gross.

[one-abuse-survivor]

My boyfriend has been acting weird lately. Usually, when i start to feel sad/depressed or have a panic attack over something, hed help me breathe and calmly talk it out. But now, he keeps turning it sexual, and keeps trying to 'turn me on' when it happens, because apparently if im turned on, the feelings will go away. Tbh it makes it worse because i cant just switch it off, then i feel guilty for not being able to follow his instructions to help calm me down. I hope it makes sense, and ive explained it okay, it happened again today and im just watching pokemon to calm down and im ignoring his texts. Could i get your advice on it, please?

It does make sense, nonnie. I’m glad he’s there for you, and from your ask it sounds like he’s genuinely trying to help you, so the advice I’m going to give you is coming from a place of me assuming you have a healthy/trusting relationship that’s just in need of some communication and boundary-establishing (it happens!). But please, if you don’t think this advice is right for you, trust your gut over me!

First, let's make one thing clear: what he’s doing is not okay, and it's not something you should simply "let happen". Neither should you feel guilty for not being able to switch off your pain. From personal experience, when I'm having a flashback, anxiety attack or just a really bad day, the best thing whoever's with me can do is to follow my lead (for example, going with me to somewhere quiet so I can calm down, or doing something soothing together, or helping me distract myself). In my relationship, in particular, when one of us is having a bad day or a bad moment, the other tries to accommodate (within our own possibilities and boundaries, ofc!) to whatever the other needs in the moment, whether that’s space/to be alone, hugs, to talk about it, distractions, some nice takeaway and Netflix...

In contrast, what your boyfriend is doing lately seems to be assuming what you need, instead of asking, and taking the lead in trying to make you feel better instead of following yours and listening to your needs.

Again, I don’t know how your relationship is just from this ask, but assuming he’s genuinely trying to help you, I think the best thing to do would be to have an honest conversation about it. If (and only if) that’s what feels right for you, you could acknowledge the fact that he’s trying to help you and you appreciate him a lot for it, but tell him sexual things are not what you need in those moments, and that it’s hard for you to establish boundaries when you’re upset  (which I think is the case from the way you phrased your ask, but again, please say only what feels right for you to say!), so you need him to not try to turn you on when you're upset.

If you do talk with him about it, I’d also recommend trying to avoid phrasing your feelings in an accusatory way, and concentrating on how you feel, on what your needs are, and on the fact that you know he'll be understanding about it; this can make it easier for the two of you to work together rather than against each other!

And, nonnie, remember that it’s always okay to say no to sexual things, or to touch, or to anything that will make you uncomfortable in any given moment, even if it’s your partner doing it, and even if he has the best intentions! Sometimes we want to help someone feel better and we mess up and do the wrong thing, but that’s okay; it doesn’t mean the other person is attacking us or mad at us when they point it out. In fact, if we care about the other person, we want to be told what we're doing wrong so we can do better from now on!

Sending a hug. Hope things change for the better ❤