Feb '22
Her mom had previously asked me not to come to the wedding for sake of the rest of the family and being a whole thing. She stood firm against her mother, challenging her and daring her to look at the family, their history, their drama... and closemindedness. I offered and encouraged genuine consideration of my staying behind, despite having been specifically invited from the grooms. She's been rebuilding her relationship with her shitty sister. Baby steps. Avoiding the gigantic elephant in the room. I was grateful to hear the shitty sister was reestablishing a relationship with all of them. Maybe she'll turn out to be not so shitty. The real test will come when they decide to address the elephant. Hopefully by then, my sweetheart will have gained enough overdue patience, respect, forgiveness, and a genuine listen. For now, she's treading slowly with shady sister. I write in an echo of pain that fell heavy and sank slowly, deeper, when last night she asked for me not to attend.
