I've been gaining a lot of followers from my post about whales and friendship and a new kind of exhaustion I'm experiencing regularly as a result is the realisation that not only do I have to check blogs so I can weed out any transphobes, I also have to check blogs so I can weed out binary trans people who don't respect nonbinary genders. And of course what this really is is the realisation that I'm not even necessarily welcomed in my own community.
I've never been a societally acceptable kind of feminine, so the queer and trans communities have been life lines for me in helping me find pronouns and presentation that makes me feel myself. And now I'm learning that some people here think I'm lying for woke points. Some want me to forcibly reidentify as a female. And still others believe I'm just confused and will eventually move down the path of transitioning into being fully masculine-presenting.
Not just me specifically. People like me, who aren't performing a societally acceptable kind of nonbinary. People who want to take HRT without transitioning. People who want boobs or like the ones they already have without identifying as female. People outside of the model of skinny white pixie-cut-having binder-and-dungaree-wearing flat-chested androgynous nymph. People who won't appropriately conform to the third gender of they/them-ness.
And it's not coming from people outside the community. Not the assholes and conservatives who consider all queer people to be sex pests needing chemically castrated or executed.
People in my own goddamn community. The one place where I thought my gender would always be respected. And I don't feel safe anymore.
