- Beauty is not just external, it starts first with how you feel about yourself and with what you consume. Not just food, which counts, but also what you watch, read, the company you keep.
If your concern is weightloss centered glamour magic, then your first concern should be what would this version of myself be eating? Would she be eating fresh foods and home cooked meals? Would she take herself out on solo dates to teat herself with the foods she likes and so that she can get some extra steps in? Would she be working out at least 3 times a week? What do her portion sizes look like? What foods would she avoid?
There is so much out here today attempting to influences our thoughts behaviors and emotions, but how often do we take time to tune in to our own desires and feed ourselves with the things that truly matter to us? A lot of media can be used to divert you away from your highest self by keeping you stressed, angry and depressed.One minute you're laughing at a TikTok, you scroll and then you're crying, how many of us have noticed that? Part of glamour magic is knowing when to take a step back from social media, when to go get some fresh air, and treat yourself to a nice day out. Or when it's a good time to hit the search bar on for a new hobby!
Reading is a huge factor when it comes to internalized glamour magic! Being well round in your basis of knowledge, wisdom and understanding of not only self, but the world, will help you to understanding how the world has helped you to shape the views you currently have of yourself.
Not reading allows ones reality to be shaped by the thoughts and opinions of others who very often are misrepresenting the truth either intentionally or unintentionally. Very often the truth is written in books about how our realities have been shaped to form opinions that go against our greater nature. Without research, discernment and knowledge of self, how can you truly self actualize into this higher version of yourself?
Oftentimes, it is the people we surround ourselves with that limit our growth in life. Every day, we make small actions that shape our trajectory, leaning us more towards people pleasing tendencies. How many times have we forgiven a lover or a friend without ourselves first taking time to acknowledge the damage and harm we are causing ourselves by keeping this person around, or even by keeping our emotions inside. How can we maintain the body we want and go to the gym, or read if our mind is filled with thoughts about how you dont feel right about someone? How would you maintain a healthy mindset overloading yourself with media that chooses algorithms that stereotype you into a box?
Oftentimes, our behavior and actions are our own, yes, but are shaped by the actions made towards us in our childhoods. When everyone is walking around with childhood wounds, no one can be in a space to love themselves or another. Our behaviors are our own, yes, but they are shaped by experiences, our epigenetics, and even our temperament for the day. For this reason, it's quintessential to observe your daily actions and ask yourself, why did I choose to make this decision vs. another? And how this choice I made reflects to a bigger habit or trait I have within myself. Is this habit or trait something that my actualized self would be doing or partaking in? What steps can I take within every day to change this habit of, for example, bad self-talk?
One good step towards solving that problem would be to find 5 things you like about yourself and the world around you every day and increase it to 10 after a while. The key is rewiring your brain. Instead of focusing on the things you don't like about yourself, you're rewiring your circuitry to focus on what you do love, and then you begin to seek for other qualities about yourself that you admire that you didn't even notice before!
Another example would be the topic of jealousy which has been circulating on social media, (to me, a bit more than normal) yes it is a "natural" human emotion to experience jealousy, but it is what you do with that emotion that ultimately makes it a negative or positive thing. Being in a state of jealousy or envy for what another has, more so speaks to what it is YOU know youre lacking within yourself. You think To yourself, "what does this person have that i dont?" And the truth is the answer is the fact that they care more about being themselves and living their dreams. Taking this on for yourself and bringing your dreams to reality is the way to eliminate that feeling. Every day laying one brick at a time towards your goal is more than enough to build the life of your dreams, but you can't start if you're worried about your limitations and not what you already have to get you there.
Let's be honest, is beauty magic really has little to do with how you look and everything about how you feel within self and about youself. The physical changes will come if these steps are taken. And Let's face it, all this stress from the world around us can easily make you unhappy. And very often unhappiness leads to slacking on self care and self love. Its very rare people look and feel the way they want when they choose to make decisions that go against their own best interest everyday.
Being stressed and slacking on self care is normal, and it happens to everyone. But at the same time, it is absolutely necessary to care for self because no one can pour from an empty cup. Not focusing on bettering these factors within your life often makes ones glamour beauty magic null and void. What's the point of being beautiful and stressed out anyway? You won't even enjoy it to its fullest potential! We want our lives to be as beautiful on the inside as they are on the outside, and these are the first necessary steps to doing so! No glamour spell will work if we aren't making conscious choices within ourselves every day to make it so.
