#agency

[lenbryant]

Women in Shakespeare

[yumearcana]

Subject Agency 101: Beyond the Myths

Forget autopilot. Your safety doesn't depend on a "protective subconscious." It depends on you, conscious and active. Agency is something you do, not something you magically have.

Negotiate from clarity. Your first line of defense is explicit negotiation before entering trance. Limits, desires, safewords. If you can't speak clearly outside, there's no safety inside.

Train your "NO". Practice rejecting suggestions and using your safeword inside trance, from day one. It's a muscle that strengthens with use. An ethical hypnotist will celebrate you for it.

Know and fortify yourself. Work on your self-knowledge and self-esteem. Fawn responses or trauma make it harder to hold boundaries. Your psychological well-being is your fundamental shield.

Claim your power (and your responsibility). You are the person ultimately responsible for your safety. Empower yourself with knowledge, practice, and the choice to play only with people who respect your active agency, not those who promise magical protection.

✦ᛉumeᛋᛇ✦

[crazycatsiren]

If a disabled person tells you to not touch them, it doesn't matter what your intentions are, whether you believe they're struggling with something, whether you think you're trying to help. You respect personal boundaries and bodily autonomy, end of story.

[unbfacts]

In Japan, some workers hire “resignation agencies” to tell their employer they are quitting. These services contact the company for them, helping workers avoid awkward or stressful resignation talks, especially when a company makes leaving feel harder than getting hired.

[one-time-i-dreamt]

I was a 30 year old magical girl who worked for my grandmother's magical girl talent agency. I had a bad performance review, and my grandmother fired me.

[crimson-and-clover-1717]

I’ve been thinking about the couch scene (204) a lot lately, and in particular Stede’s line ‘You don’t have to say it back to me,’ after telling Ed, ‘I love everything about you.’

Stede doesn’t say, ‘It’s okay if you don’t feel the same way,’ because Stede knows Ed likely does feel the same way. If Stede though had said such a thing, it might’ve set Ed up to say something he didn’t mean in the moment, such as, ‘Yeah, well, I don’t.’

What Stede does is recognise that Ed likely does feel the same, but there’s no compulsion to say it at such a raw moment, because Ed isn’t ready to be that vulnerable (or quite that forgiving).

Too often ‘I love you’ or the equivalent is said in expectation of quid pro quo. Stede’s approach removes that immediately, recognising that Ed’s feelings, and the current situation, are complex. It allows Ed the agency to say ‘I’m not about to [say it],’ not that Ed doesn’t feel it.

Emotionally, it protects both of them really. Because Stede’s smart like that.

[dog-journey]

[alternate link]

Sarah Stremming (Host) + Kim Brophey (Guest)

So many behavior problems in our dogs are simply consequences of their life as captive animals. When we acknowledge this and take an animal welfare focused approach to their care we do best as professionals and guardians. In this dynamic conversation between Sarah and Kim they discuss this reality and what we can do about it.